If you could, would you change?

If you suddenly had the option of getting rid of your SA forever, would you do it? Sometimes all I want is to fit in to society, to be popular and independent and outgoing. But other times I just don't want to have anything to do with the outside world. I'm always happier alone. I feel like this is who I am now, and I'm not sure I'd like to change.
Right now the last place on earth I'd like to be is in a pub, with friends. And it's not just because I'm scared, I just don't want to be there. I'd rather be alone somewhere, with my own thoughts and my own space. While I hate feeling scared all the time, right now I don't feel lonely.
So would you rather be out there, and part of it, or would you rather be alone?

Deffinitley would rather get rid of this shit! Can't bare it anymore! But then that doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy being on my own!

Without SA you get bored being alone and just kind of mingle with people. I know cuz I've had stretches like that. Right now I just don't want to be with people. Well, I "want to", but even if you'd present me with the opportunity I'd probably just weasle out of it.

Sable said:

If you suddenly had the option of getting rid of your SA forever, would you do it? Sometimes all I want is to fit in to society, to be popular and independent and outgoing. But other times I just don't want to have anything to do with the outside world. I'm always happier alone. I feel like this is who I am now, and I'm not sure I'd like to change.
Right now the last place on earth I'd like to be is in a pub, with friends. And it's not just because I'm scared, I just don't want to be there. I'd rather be alone somewhere, with my own thoughts and my own space. While I hate feeling scared all the time, right now I don't feel lonely.
So would you rather be out there, and part of it, or would you rather be alone?

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yeah..no question :!: .. i would get rid of it forever if i could..mainly for the betterment of my education, career, relationships, but..as far as being outgoing...life of the party...hanging out at the pub...don't think that part of me would change so much...i just would like to feel comfortable doing normal everyday stuff.. :roll:

Sable said:

If you suddenly had the option of getting rid of your SA forever, would you do it? . . . So would you rather be out there, and part of it, or would you rather be alone?

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I would prefer to be rid of SA and out there with other people.

It is a nice dream to think of myself without sa. If I did not have it when I was younger I can see how I would have developed differently. If I had the choice to be free of sa I could not say no. It would be an easy decision for me.

If I didn't have SA I would probably have the body of a greek god by now. I don't do any running because I'm too scared even tho I kind of liked it but am too scared to go without my mom and even scared to go with her. I can't go to the gym becuase of my SA either. One good thing about this happened tho I learned that all anybody needs for good upper body strength is push ups and pull ups. They're so simple and work so well its amazing all the stupid machines people sell other people :roll: I'm also afraid to walk up and talk to a girl that I think may be interested in me but she's sending me mixed signals. I'm talking to her on Myspace tho because all my anxiety instantly goes away. I'm even talking to another girl that was my friend a long time ago and I would never be able to come up and talk to her like I would want to. Hell I'm even friends with a woman 14 years older than me and lives 2 states away and she's one of the nicest people I've met and I value her friendship very much but I would never have met her if it wasn't the strange quality of the internet to get rid of my anxiety. People think the reason I don't get a job is because I'm lazy but I would work for almost nothing if I could only be away from the house and not bored all the time but I'm too scared of the whole experience of having a job especially getting the job in the first place. I never would have dropped out of school......Too many things to mention. I could go on forever.

I would like to go out when I please with a minimum of anxiety rather than being terrified to death just stepping out onto the driveway. I will always require time when I need to be alone though, to "recharge" and sift through my thoughts.

hmm... I wish didn't have SAD right now... but I think in a strange way.. it's a good thing I have it... :? ...I don't know if it's the SAD talking but I don't think I would like myself much as a person if I had never had it... I think I'd be just obnoxious and full of myself...
but then again if I didn't have it, I probably wouldn't be thinking so much about wether I'm this or that.. over analyzing everything I do....
:? :?

Erythrocyte said:

hmm... I wish didn't have SAD right now... but I think in a strange way.. it's a good thing I have it... :? ...I don't know if it's the SAD talking but I don't think I would like myself much as a person if I had never had it... I think I'd be just obnoxious and full of myself...
but then again if I didn't have it, I probably wouldn't be thinking so much about wether I'm this or that.. over analyzing everything I do....
:? :?

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yeah...me too :!:

cutefluffykitten said:

I would not change who I am inside.

I wish i wasnt as anxious and scared though.

I wish i loved myself enough to be able to be with my soulmate.

Jesus Loves Me

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I agree with you, I would also not want to change who I am inside. I simply want enough confidence and freedom from anxiety to find my soulmate, succeed in college, and succeed in whatever career I choose to pursue. I have little to no desire to have friends or go to parties.

I don't mind having acquaintances; however, what I want (socially) more than anything else is the love and affection of a lovely lady. I want to find my soulmate and spend as much time as possible with her.

I would change it, but I think having SA made me a good person.

Erythrocyte said:

hmm... I wish didn't have SAD right now... but I think in a strange way.. it's a good thing I have it... :? ...I don't know if it's the SAD talking but I don't think I would like myself much as a person if I had never had it... I think I'd be just obnoxious and full of myself...
but then again if I didn't have it, I probably wouldn't be thinking so much about wether I'm this or that.. over analyzing everything I do....
:? :?

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That's the sort of thing I was getting at. I know that I am way too concious about how other people see me, but sometimes I'm glad that I care now. In school, before I had SA, I had friends, but sometimes when I look back to how I was around them I cringe. I think maybe I'm just a horrible person, but SA keeps it in check. I don't know. But there are times when I would give my right arm to be rid of the anxiety and the constant over-analysing of everything I do.