I wish I was handsome.

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Jannah

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So what other advice are you looking for?
If you can't believe that increasing your confidence and working on letting the positive parts of your personality shine through is enough, then the only alternative is plastic surgery?
That is drastic, expensive and painful.
You know there are females that are not comfortable with the way they look and are willing to give guys with a great personality a go you know. You obviously have not come across any of these yet unfortunately. They are out there, maybe you need to increase your exposure to find some. Could you join a hobby club or something like that to meet more people?

I'm not really looking for any advice, I just felt like getting this off my chest. It bothers me everyday of my life. I was justing hoping some one would care to listen; kind of making a declaration...I am ugly, yes I am! And I wanted to share the results of my "experiment" with others.

No, I'd never get plastic surgery.
 

coyote

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Once long long time ago, when I use to visit this site on a regular. One person commented on the pic and it was a guy, he just nice pic. He was heterosexual guy so I didn't think nothing of it.

And I will absolutely not put up a picture of myself, I don't need to hear "o you look fine" or "no, you aren't ugly", of course that's what people will say. If someone said "yea, you aren't a looker" I would thank them for being so blunt.

PM a photo of yourself to me

I'll give you an honest assessment
 

Minty

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Honestly, that's what would happen because if you request a pic you're obligated to say nice things without looking like an ass.

I have a question, tho. Maybe two. When you see an ugly person, do you think they're worthless? Do you feel better than them? Because that kind of thinking is just...all wrong. And if you don't think that way, then why do you change the rules when it has to do with yourself?
 
I'm not really looking for any advice, I just felt like getting this off my chest. It bothers me everyday of my life. I was justing hoping some one would care to listen; kind of making a declaration...I am ugly, yes I am! And I wanted to share the results of my "experiment" with others.

No, I'd never get plastic surgery.

ah, yes I think everyone can relate to just needing to get something off their chest sometimes.:)
 

coyote

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...I have a question, tho. Maybe two. When you see an ugly person, do you think they're worthless? Do you feel better than them? Because that kind of thinking is just...all wrong. And if you don't think that way, then why do you change the rules when it has to do with yourself?

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How good looking was the guy in the fake profile? If you put Johnny Depp on there then of course you're gonna get a lot of replies. If thats the case those girls were probably stunned that such a dude would be on a dating site.
 

Glumlock

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Women probably aren't turned off you because of your looks - it's probably because of your low self esteem and self loathing - no girl wants a guy who can't at least look himself in the eye and feel good about himself. At the same time, they don't want an arrogant prick who thinks the sun shines out of his arse, but they certainly don't want the other extreme.

Ugly guys get hot girls all the time because generally appearance doesn't count for very much. yeah it helps and everything, but often being a confident person is attractive in itself.

Also a little secret - the more a woman loves you, the more attractive she finds you. Similarly to, the less we know a woman, the more attractive we find her :p

My girlfriend constantly says how attractive she finds me, despite me not seeing it myself. When we first started going out she thought i was about average looking, but soon into the relationship she began to find me really really attractive. Now she thinks I'm a sex god.

I'm blatantly not - but beauty is only speculative. It's also only skin deep - you must be quite a shallow person to "contemplate suicide" over your appearence.

If you go through life with that attitude, no girl will ever want to be with you.
 

Jannah

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Honestly, that's what would happen because if you request a pic you're obligated to say nice things without looking like an ass.

I have a question, tho. Maybe two. When you see an ugly person, do you think they're worthless? Do you feel better than them? Because that kind of thinking is just...all wrong. And if you don't think that way, then why do you change the rules when it has to do with yourself?

Back. Sorry, just had a bowl of cereal.

When I see unattractive people I think nothing of it. I don't judge them in any way, I simply don't care. In fact I find strange looking people to be the most interesting and well spoken compared to to the tools that have to doll themselves up, throw gel in their hair, and are just generally preoccupied with their looks, no offense if that's what anybody likes to do. If I make any judgement on someone it is on their behavior, attitude, and etiquette. I actually more often than not have been attracted to girls who would be traditionally not be pretty, their personalties is what attracts me more about them. I just like those intellectual, messy, non conformist girls, with weird hair, and chipmunk teeth :) This is why I messaged some girls from the dating site that I wasn't immediately attracted to, because I thought since we had similar hobbies and interests that i might get a reply, but no, even they rejected me.

I judge myself more harshly than I would ever anybody else, to answer your question. That's what lots of self hate as a result of being traumatized in my younger years did for me.
 

Jannah

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How good looking was the guy in the fake profile? If you put Johnny Depp on there then of course you're gonna get a lot of replies. If thats the case those girls were probably stunned that such a dude would be on a dating site.

lol he was your average Joe, wearing comfortable house clothes, sporting a black hat, a sexy black hat ;) Picture was taken in his room, it appears. Doesn't get any sexier than that. The kid looks no more than 22.
 

Jannah

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Women probably aren't turned off you because of your looks - it's probably because of your low self esteem and self loathing - no girl wants a guy who can't at least look himself in the eye and feel good about himself. At the same time, they don't want an arrogant prick who thinks the sun shines out of his arse, but they certainly don't want the other extreme.

Ugly guys get hot girls all the time because generally appearance doesn't count for very much. yeah it helps and everything, but often being a confident person is attractive in itself.

Also a little secret - the more a woman loves you, the more attractive she finds you. Similarly to, the less we know a woman, the more attractive we find her :p

My girlfriend constantly says how attractive she finds me, despite me not seeing it myself. When we first started going out she thought i was about average looking, but soon into the relationship she began to find me really really attractive. Now she thinks I'm a sex god.

I'm blatantly not - but beauty is only speculative. It's also only skin deep - you must be quite a shallow person to "contemplate suicide" over your appearence.

If you go through life with that attitude, no girl will ever want to be with you.

Yea, I know exactly what you mean. The more time you spend with a person, the more attractive they become day by day, despite what you initially thought of them.

Call me whatever you want, but those are my feelings. I personally believe how you look has some influence on your life and what people will think of you and see you as. This is what makes me depressed, this is what I was teased for as a kid, among other things. It is very important for someone to be comfortable with their looks, to feel secure and beautiful, it's essential in self esteem building and acceptance. People who suffer from self esteem issues have problems ranging from self destruction, suicide attempts, and co dependent personalties, I wouldn't exactly call them "shallow", more like traumatized and have self image issues, ranging from moderate to severe.
 
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Like someone said earlier, I think the reason you had such a bad experience was because its an online thing. Yeah good looks can have an affect on people, thats only natural, but mostly that effect is in the first impression. It pretty much gets your foot in the door but it doesn't guarantee the door wont still get shut on you. If you think your appearance is honestly preventing you from getting face time with people I would say just make the best out of your other attributes. You can make yourself look a little better by the way you dress and carry yourself. Get a good hair cut, some nice cologne and new clothes and that alone will make you appear a little more confident in yourself. But if you're looking like you slept in your clothes and you're looking scraggly, it probably will make things a lot more difficult for you.
 

Jannah

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It just ****en hurts so much. The ****in person got 11 responses in one day! In all honesty he's no Brad Pitt or Gerard Butler, he was just attractive enough for me to be able to tell that he wasn't unattractive. How can all those girls be so shallow, I just don't ****in get it, am I that ****in ugly? My self description was well written and I made it evident that I am not your typical douche bag. Even the messages I was sending were well thought out and asked questions about themselves, but boom!...ignored. "Who gives a **** what that guy said, who gives a **** what that guy is like, he is ugly and that's that". that's what I imagine those girls thinking. Then I create this dummy profile and send messages only saying "wat up"; 11 ****in responses in one day, Jesus Christ. I should use this "experiment" for school, get some credit for this. It was ridiculously shocking. And to think I made this guy out to be a total airhead...
 

Jannah

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You can make yourself look a little better by the way you dress and carry yourself. Get a good hair cut, some nice cologne and new clothes

Hair cut ok, cologne no, new clothes...don't need them. I shower and shave frequently, and I always wear clean clothes, but if you mean name brand clothes, or expensive clothes... that would actually make me feel faker; douche bag status. Too materialistic (<against that).
 
I wish I was little bit taller,
I wish I was a baller
I wish I had a girl who looked good
I would call her
I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat
and a '64 Impala

sorry made me think of that song.
There is someone out there for you, If that dating site is making you feel bad, get off of it.
Prob. the biggest thing is being unemployed. I am girl and I've had guys not want to date me b/c of being unemployed.
I know these things are upsetting, but try not to dwell. and don't make up reasons in your head why these girls didn't respond, this could be your biggest problem. I have a big problem with trying to figure out what is wrong with me, it can cause a lot of unnecessary stress
 

Jannah

Banned
Update:12 girls in one day! And check this out, I didn't even message this one! FML FML! and my ugliness, I wish I was beautiful

I was down at the New Amsterdam staring at this yellow-haired girl
Mr. Jones strikes up a conversation with a black-haired flamenco dancer
You know she dances while his father plays guitar
She's suddenly beautiful
We all want something beautiful
Man I wish I was beautiful
So come dance this silence down through the morning
Shalalala la la la la yeah

YouTube - ‪Counting Crows - Mr. Jones‬‏
 

Jannah

Banned
Update:13 ::(: This could go on all ****in night.

**** these girls, **** them! Send them all straight to hell!
 
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Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
How can you curse people for liking a cute face?
Much, much hate in your personality, and that probably leaks through your pores.
 
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