I saw this girl today

I saw this girl at where I volunteer and she was cute and she ask me questions to get help and I answered them. I got mad as she left because she was attractive and the kind of girl I liked and I let her get away. Then later she smiled at me when I looked at her and then I really kicked myself :kickingmyself: because I let her get away again and didn't smile back! Then I realized I liked her. But I know with my possible avpd and my social anxiety it is very hard to speak to attractive girls but for some reason I was very mad (I usually don't get talk to the girls I like or find attractive in person). I guess the frustration I had was even if I wanted to talk to her I couldn't because the two things I mentioned and my lack motivation to work on those things. And she got away from me and I will probably never she her again unless she shows up to where I volunteer again. It is weird because I never got mad at myself over other girls I like in person (although it only happened three times). But to fair one of the girls I didn't realize I liked her to later in day when I was away from her and the other was over months (and someone I can't have to be honest). Btw I was mad some of the day after I seen her twice. Maybe this was because I didn't take one of my medicine today (talking about the girl today). What is your opinion on this?

The same thing happened to me my friend, don't keep your hopes up-- if this girl; if you and this girl had some kind of relationship like if you had been friends for over 2 years now, that's one key to having a god relationship to as a couple. Keep in mind that before you ask this girl out, do a further investigation about her before you ask her out because she can be hiding something from you that you don't know of-- for example, this girl might like someone else other than you (to which I hope not). But I am telling, the same things happened to me too. Do a little bit of investigation first before you ask this girl out and stuff like that, there might be some dark things about this girl you may not know about.

JanBalallo said:

The same thing happened to me my friend, don't keep your hopes up-- if this girl; if you and this girl had some kind of relationship like if you had been friends for over 2 years now, that's one key to having a god relationship to as a couple. Keep in mind that before you ask this girl out, do a further investigation about her before you ask her out because she can be hiding something from you that you don't know of-- for example, this girl might like someone else other than you (to which I hope not). But I am telling, the same things happened to me too. Do a little bit of investigation first before you ask this girl out and stuff like that, there might be some dark things about this girl you may not know about.

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Really what happened that happened similar to me? And I never became friends with this girl nor tried to talk to her other then when she asked me a question. And I'll take that advice.

I can sort of relate to your situation. In high school, I remember a girl would always smile at me when she looked at me. I found it hard to look at her but whenever I did; she would blush madly red. It was cute.

Now, you don't necessarily need to be their friend to go out with them, but it is good to be friends with them first. Or better yet, you could just talk with her little by little at your volunteer place until you feel ready to ask her out.

I know its scary, but there is always a chance. Once you know, don't think for a second and do it.

I'll briefly tell you how I made a move. I placed a love letter in her locker and two days later she called me over and asked if it was me. I said yes and she was pleased. Sadly I ****ed up and said that I'll see her later. I regret it but at the same time; I think I had mixed feelings for her. I don't think I truly loved her. But still I had butterflies whenever I saw her.

Eventually we became in the friend zone and I suppose she was expecting me to make a move during this time but I didn't which really sucked and eventually she deleted me off Facebook. All I can say is to take each day with this girl little by little.

Cetnien said:

I can sort of relate to your situation. In high school, I remember a girl would always smile at me when she looked at me. I found it hard to look at her but whenever I did; she would blush madly red. It was cute.

Now, you don't necessarily need to be their friend to go out with them, but it is good to be friends with them first. Or better yet, you could just talk with her little by little at your volunteer place until you feel ready to ask her out.

I know its scary, but there is always a chance. Once you know, don't think for a second and do it.

I'll briefly tell you how I made a move. I placed a love letter in her locker and two days later she called me over and asked if it was me. I said yes and she was pleased. Sadly I ****ed up and said that I'll see her later. I regret it but at the same time; I think I had mixed feelings for her. I don't think I truly loved her. But still I had butterflies whenever I saw her.

Eventually we became in the friend zone and I suppose she was expecting me to make a move during this time but I didn't which really sucked and eventually she deleted me off Facebook. All I can say is to take each day with this girl little by little.

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I never saw her ever again that is what sucks and plus even if I saw her again I don't think that I will talk to her again due to social anxiety and motivation unfortunately. I don't know if I still like her, hopefully though.

So you told her you would see her later as in what?

Sorry if I had replied this late--

Well as to what I've read in this thread-- DON'T STOP LIKING HER.

As to what @Cetnien has stated, we all know that in this same situation we can all relate to that and think about it, if this girl was to say "drift away" from you. If I'm in your situation, don't drift away because your relationship to this girl will also fade away like how I experienced it as is.

Don't let her fade away from your life because that's what happened to me and the girl I liked. We drifted upon each other and that cause some kind of a situation to where we don't talk anymore.

Anything that happens later, keep me updated my friend and try not to believe in failure, because failures are only for the people who don't try.

JanBalallo said:

Sorry if I had replied this late--

Well as to what I've read in this thread-- DON'T STOP LIKING HER.

As to what @Cetnien has stated, we all know that in this same situation we can all relate to that and think about it, if this girl was to say "drift away" from you. If I'm in your situation, don't drift away because your relationship to this girl will also fade away like how I experienced it as is.

Don't let her fade away from your life because that's what happened to me and the girl I liked. We drifted upon each other and that cause some kind of a situation to where we don't talk anymore.

Anything that happens later, keep me updated my friend and try not to believe in failure, because failures are only for the people who don't try.

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I think I stopped liking her because I never saw her again, but maybe if I see her again I will like her again lol. That's the problem I didn't try to talk to her.

This is me, everyday. Minus the socializing. But everytime I see a attractive girl I feel like shit

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This is me, everyday. Minus the socializing. But everytime I see a attractive girl I feel like shit

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Me too but I also feel mad for not talking, but I didn't really socialize with her I was too scared too. So you see attractive girls everyday?