I had sex recently, don't read if offended by details

jschuley

Active member
Last night, I got drunk and played euchre, a popular card game where I'm from, with two of my roommates and a guy friend of my male roommate who comes over pretty often. Well, I guess this guy was pretty hard up and desperate for sex. He kept mentioning women who were hot on tv, going so far as to proclaim he thought Bea Arthur of Golden Girls was hot. And he stated he wanted to meet somebody by the end of the night, because he thought we were going out to a bar. Well, because we did not I was the only available female present. So at first I was so awkward, the only reason I was able to loosen up was because of the liquor. I have been drunk every time I've ever had sex. So anyway, everyone goes to bed leaving just me and this guy awake in the living room and we start talking about sex. He says he is looking for no strings attached sex. I say I am into that too. He wants to watch porn, so I go upstairs and get my computer and bring it down and put a porn on. Then he says we can make our own porn and straddles me and begins making out with me feverishly. We pull each others clothes off and I go down on him, when I take control he whispers, "yes, be a good fuck." I tell him he has a beautiful cock. Then I go down on him for a while, he pushes my head down and I deep throat then he starts reaching for my vagina, even though I have told him I was on my period. So he was fully aware of that. So I assume he is reaching for my tampon clad vagina because he wants to fuck. So I tell him I am on my period and say I could put a towel down. he says he doesn't have a condom and I ask if he could pull out (retarded I know, but I was drunk). He says he can pull out. So we begin having sex and then he stops like only a few strokes into it. he says, "I'm so sorry, this is pathetic, it's been two months since I've had sex." I tell him that is okay. And we both say we'll finish it another time. Then he asks me how many guys I have been with, and I tell him. I wonder if he was nervous about getting a disease or getting me pregnant and that isn't why he stopped early rather than early ejaculation. I can't be sure. But anyway, tonight he came over again because he had plans with my male roommate and I had to go downstairs without the aid of any liquor or pills to take away my anxiety, and it was awkward as all fuck. Neither of us said anything to each other and he left soon. I am just so fucking awkward all the time and I hate it. And now every time I see this guy there is going to be this awkward sexual encounter hanging over our heads.

Good God. So has anybody else found themselves in a situation like this? Would anyone else care to share their sexual experiences? I would love to hear if I'm the only one who has to be drunk and who has awkward awkward failed attempts.
 

ShyBeliever

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What happened??

Oh my God, i haven´t frequented this forum for a long time and when i come back i read this troll thread. What happened to the moderators?? What hapenned to the forum??
 

jschuley

Active member
Seriously? This isn't a troll thread at all. I thought I could be open and honest here, and this is something that happened to me last night. I have social anxiety disorder and it makes me miserable, and one of the most awkward things for me is sexual interaction, which I do engage in on a occasion because of the use of alcohol to calm my nerves and a tendency toward self destructive, self loathing behavior.
 

JonnyD

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I won't probably speak about sex here, but since i've already screwed my weekend ....

I really cant say much, most people here don't have enought intimacy or interaction with someone to get there, i'm in this train to. but i admire your courage about opening up here, most of us wont probably do.

LOL, well it's a bit funny reading, sorry i cant avoid it. It solves a lifelong question, do women watch porn?

ShyBeliever said:
Oh my God, i haven´t frequented this forum for a long time and when i come back i read this troll thread. What happened to the moderators?? What hapenned to the forum??

Moderetor is a highly rare species here.

I see the thread as being highly out of place really, But because of beign in Social Anxiety Forum and not in relatioship forum (we had a post about Fuck buddies there, i don't think its offencive) no one can avoid it appearing in the recent post list. But i really respect and agree with the opinion that in someway this kind of threads should be kept apart from the recent post list or having a specific session to talk about this kind of sensitive topics.

what's the big difference about talking the goods of suicide and about sex? both matters, both should be discussed.

I don't really know why we accept violence so easilly and reject talking about sex like it's disgusting and not normal. I mean is a porn movie more harmfull then a full blown action movie witch divinify a thug that kills everybody in his way?

please don't takem like i'm criticizing you, i'm just pointing my view.
 

creep_x

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Re: What happened??

i believe she did say 'don't read if offended by details'

ShyBeliever said:
Oh my God, i haven´t frequented this forum for a long time and when i come back i read this troll thread. What happened to the moderators?? What hapenned to the forum??
 
lol I think you went into a little too much detail for a lot of people...

But I can relate...On Friday (Halloween) I got completely wasted and got a text from my friend/love interest that her ankle was hurting and she had to walk home from the bar. So being the great guy I am I met her and walked her home. Like I said I was completely wasted which means I wasn't shy at all.

So I was making her laugh and just talking and talking and taking. We ended up going to my room and going to bed together. Where I made a move and we ended up doing it. (My first time ever :D) Buuuuuuut in the morning I was back to normal all quiet and not being able to think of anything to say...It was awkward because she had to stay for a few hours until her mom picked her up to bring her home. But she texted me throughout the day I guess it wasn't as awkward for her...
 

Shy_Gurl2007

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I can somewhat relate to your situation. I've never went as far as sex, but have messed around on a few rare occasions. It's werid, you would think a girl with Social Anxiety would be to shy to mess around with a guy, but I'm not. Afterwards, I do feel awkard; constantly worrying about what they think about me now. I guess it's a whole other issue with me, and my self esteem. My realtionships with guys aren't too healthy...
 

Slothrop

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Awkwardness and regret just come with the territory. Sex in general is highly prone to that sort of thing, doubly so with alcohol involved. Throw in low self-esteem and people you don't know very well and that's just asking for trouble. It sort of limits you to the worst kind of sex you can possibly have.

The one experience doesn't have to hang over you forever--you can just let it go as something that happened once and never again if you think about what you could do differently to avoid being in that position again. You you've only ever had sex while drunk, which to me sounds like you don't have a lot of self-respect: not only in that you feel you have to drink to be comfortable enough to have sex, but more importantly, the feeling that you have to have sex at all. The best way to be comfortable having sex is to know that it is something you want, that isn't clouded by what the other person wants, or by alcohol.
 
jschuley said:
Then he asks me how many guys I have been with, and I tell him. I wonder if he was nervous about getting a disease or getting me pregnant and that isn't why he stopped early rather than early ejaculation.

Unprotected sex can definitely lead to a fatal disease. Maybe you should get tested for HIV / AIDS or other STD's. Alcohol can make you do things you'd never dream of doing when sober. Try ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) to help deal with anxiety and depression.
 

Erdkunde

Active member
Solution: anal.






But in all seriousness I don't imagine all that many people will be too keen to describe their sexual misadventures.
I admire your openness though.
 

dpr

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First of all, that does sound kind of awkward and I feel for you. It's too bad he was such a bad lay, but it's not really anything you did. He's the premature ejaculator, not you lol... What I mean is, he probably feels a lot more awkward about the whole thing, because you were all ready to go and he was too horny for his own good I guess. So just remember that, that he is feeling just as awkward as you are about the whole thing, most likely more so.

The guy who said, "Don't sleep with guys you just met," may seem a bit harsh and "lecture-y" to some, but he's got a point. One-night stands are always going to have an awkward component to them IMO, because you don't know each other well enough to know what the other is into sexually. Most likely a long-time fuck buddy or boyfriend would be better in bed, of course those aren't the easiest to come by.

And yeah, probably a good idea not to have unprotected sex. Pulling out is not a reliable method of birth control as I'm sure you know. I know you were drunk, but still, you gotta be careful! Maybe see if you're pregnant and then get a hiv test in 6 months? I sincerely hope you're all good.
 

dpr

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Richey said:
He's the premature ejaculator

I dont underst-- WAAAIT a second....

...I.........

eewww..........

you're silly. sillybuns

lol... I'M a sillybuns? didn't you read her post? that's what happened... or did I miss something?
 

LittleMissMuffet

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Erdkunde said:
Solution: anal.






But in all seriousness I don't imagine all that many people will be too keen to describe their sexual misadventures.
I admire your openness though.

Your solution may be fail safe for preventing pregnancy, but it's actually a lot worse as far as preventing transmission of viruses.
It's probably one of the reasons why AIDS was originally a gay male disease.
 

Thelema

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I thought that alcohol was disproven for lessening anxiety?

Yeah, get some condoms so at least you don't have to worry about anything serious
 

Thelema

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Re: What happened??

ShyBeliever said:
Oh my God, i haven´t frequented this forum for a long time and when i come back i read this troll thread. What happened to the moderators?? What hapenned to the forum??

I'm a moderator and there's nothing wrong with someone saying what's on their mind as long as it isn't trying to hurt someone.

We should have more moderators, but nobody wants to step up and become one. I think there is only me and Zeroday
 
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