cowboyup
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So, if any of you are familiar with my situation, getting a job is a big...a HUGE step!!
To recap: I was a live-in nanny for my brother and SIL for about 8 years and then my brother divorced and remarried. I stayed with SIL and the kids to help her. Well, things got so messed up that I ended up doing everything for her - admittedly I 'trained' her to count on me to do everything - all she had to do was go to work and bed.
Then, everyone's identity was stolen, or whatever you call it. Mine, my SIL's, my dad's, my brothers....well, SIL accused me and wanted me out of the house because she did not feel safe with me there. We all filed police reports, INCLUDING ME - remember mine was stolen as well.
Come to find out, she wanted me out of the house so she could move her girlfriend in. For lack of better words, she switched sides.
So, I moved to another state, moved in with my sister (biological sister) and brother-in-law. They have NO kids and are self-sufficient.
So, I am in therapy because for so long it threw me for a loop that I didn't have to really care for anyone and learn how to focus on myself and getting ME on the right track.
I applied for lots of jobs and now have 2 part-time jobs and am feeling so much better earning my own money, being more independent, etc.
A couple of uh-ohs happened: my BIL (brother in law) got hit by a drunk driver who had no insurance and the drunk driver totaled their car. Then he developed a nasty infection where his braces are on his legs. Sidenote: He is wheelchair bound and has Transverse Myelitis. But he works and doesn't let it get in his way.
My part-time jobs though have enabled me to help them get back and forth to work, but a lot of the time his mother helps and is signing over her old car to them so they have transportation.
But all in all, I am in a better place and I feel so much better
I miss my nephew and niece like crazy and am still working on my anger issues with my brother and SIL for falsely accusing me of identity theft, but I feel justice will come in time.
To recap: I was a live-in nanny for my brother and SIL for about 8 years and then my brother divorced and remarried. I stayed with SIL and the kids to help her. Well, things got so messed up that I ended up doing everything for her - admittedly I 'trained' her to count on me to do everything - all she had to do was go to work and bed.
Then, everyone's identity was stolen, or whatever you call it. Mine, my SIL's, my dad's, my brothers....well, SIL accused me and wanted me out of the house because she did not feel safe with me there. We all filed police reports, INCLUDING ME - remember mine was stolen as well.
Come to find out, she wanted me out of the house so she could move her girlfriend in. For lack of better words, she switched sides.
So, I moved to another state, moved in with my sister (biological sister) and brother-in-law. They have NO kids and are self-sufficient.
So, I am in therapy because for so long it threw me for a loop that I didn't have to really care for anyone and learn how to focus on myself and getting ME on the right track.
I applied for lots of jobs and now have 2 part-time jobs and am feeling so much better earning my own money, being more independent, etc.
A couple of uh-ohs happened: my BIL (brother in law) got hit by a drunk driver who had no insurance and the drunk driver totaled their car. Then he developed a nasty infection where his braces are on his legs. Sidenote: He is wheelchair bound and has Transverse Myelitis. But he works and doesn't let it get in his way.
My part-time jobs though have enabled me to help them get back and forth to work, but a lot of the time his mother helps and is signing over her old car to them so they have transportation.
But all in all, I am in a better place and I feel so much better
I miss my nephew and niece like crazy and am still working on my anger issues with my brother and SIL for falsely accusing me of identity theft, but I feel justice will come in time.