styrka
Active member
this is the first time I do anything like this. first time I write about my problem. its very scary. have been shy always and didn't know about social phobia until I was in college. my social issues started the very first time I started school (kindergarden), which to me was the first time I left the protection of my parents and was faced with other humans from the outside world. since then it has been a nightmare and I've lived in fear. my teenage years have been blocked from my mind and buried. my college years were better and somehow I managed to survive but now the real trouble has come when I've had to face the 'real world', the world of adults, the world where you have to defend yourself, make a living and be successful. social anxiety has stopped me from pursuing my dreams. I don't want to say it but deep down I feel like a failure. I had such high goals in my life.... but fear has kept me from achieving them. my first serious job as an engineer was a night mare, I cried every night thinking I had to go to work the next day. I can't have a real job, I can't handle the stress, the challenge.... I'm afraid of everything, of expressing my opinion at the work place, going to meetings, talking on the phone, etc.......
how can you be sucessful and have a bright career when you have social anxiety????????? not to mention the pain of not having real friends. I have never had a best friend. I built a wall around me to protect myself from being hurt and now the wall is so thick other people can't reach me and I can't reach them. I feel so alone.
thank you for reading this. if anyone wants to email me, I would be so happy to have even if its just 'virtual' human contact.....
how can you be sucessful and have a bright career when you have social anxiety????????? not to mention the pain of not having real friends. I have never had a best friend. I built a wall around me to protect myself from being hurt and now the wall is so thick other people can't reach me and I can't reach them. I feel so alone.
thank you for reading this. if anyone wants to email me, I would be so happy to have even if its just 'virtual' human contact.....