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Old 11-17-2017
 

im 14 , no social life , no one ever talks to me thinking im a weirdo (for being a good student) , i can't stay with a person for more than 15 seconds even online.
i don't find any reason to live , nothing give me a reason to live.
i think that i will stop trying , i tried too much and never succeded.
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Old 11-17-2017
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Woah...take a step back. Please don't do anything rash. I've been there. I had the same issues when I was 14. I'm 28 now, things have gotten a lot better. There's a chance for things to get better for you to, if you give it some time.

I'm not qualified to help you, but if you think you're in crisis or might be a danger to yourself or to others, I encourage you to take a look at the resources in this thread. If you need to talk, or if there's anything else I can do, let me know.

Best of luck!
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im 14 , no social life , no one ever talks to me thinking im a weirdo (for being a good student) , i can't stay with a person for more than 15 seconds even online.
i don't find any reason to live , nothing give me a reason to live.
i think that i will stop trying , i tried too much and never succeded.
congratulations for being a good student. For those who think you're a weirdo and aren't being like you are, they're the ones who won't succeed later in life. As for nobody talking to you for the reason you stated, that's weird lol, you can try to go to another school then ok? but it could likely be that you can't be w/ a person for more than a certain amount of seconds incl. online that a person wouldn't talk to you in that case you should pray alone to a god even though you don't believe in one or call a counseling service good luck!
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Old 11-18-2017
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Look for other 'weirdos' and outcasts and start a conversation with them. I think you'll find you have a lot in common with them and you might get along quite well. Think shy kid in class or kid who's having lunch by themselves at the school's caffeteria.
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You might think this is stupid but , find a good church with GOOD christians and join the youth group. It might change your life.


or just join some kind of TEAM in general. Baseball , football, fencing,..something with camaraderie .


when I was 14 I was in a church youth group . I was the black sheep in my family and (mostly) a loser at school. I was really depressed at that time but when I went to youth group it was the only place I really felt like I was "one of the guys" . They accepted me there.
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Look for other 'weirdos' and outcasts and start a conversation with them. I think you'll find you have a lot in common with them and you might get along quite well. Think shy kid in class or kid who's having lunch by themselves at the school's caffeteria.
i tried to look for other people that have the same problem as me , and there is no one cuz i live in a horrible place , where life is a FFA and no one cares for another person :/
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Surely you can't be the only person in your town who's in that situation. Usually people like you tend to hide more, so just try to keep an eye out. Also join groups as suggested, groups involving things you enjoy doing (photography, writing, things like that).
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Old 11-19-2017
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i tried to look for other people that have the same problem as me , and there is no one cuz i live in a horrible place , where life is a FFA and no one cares for another person :/
What is FFA?

I assume it means messed-up but indulge me, please.
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What is FFA?

I assume it means messed-up but indulge me, please.
FFA is an abbreviation of the phrase free for all. Took me awhile to get that as well. But then I noticed Rayan mentions about no-one caring for each other in that post you quoted.
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Old 11-19-2017
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I'm guessing Future Farmers of America. That tends to be a big deal in rural communities.

Keep the school efforts up. In the long run that sort of thing will pay off. Social popularity peaks in importance at junior high and high school, then career importance starts picking up and quickly exceeds it.

If you can't find some compatible group to join (has band been mentioned?) then find a hobby. Art, cooking, learning languages--anything that appeals to you even a little. Throw yourself into it. Become awesome. Eventually you will become good at it. It will become useful. It can gain you respect (especially your own) and give you opportunities, and help define you as something more than just some guy.

Edit: Graeme is probably right about ffa.
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I'm guessing Future Farmers of America. That tends to be a big deal in rural communities.
This was the first result I got when I typed "FFA" into Urban Dictionary.

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Keep the school efforts up. In the long run that sort of thing will pay off. Social popularity peaks in importance at junior high and high school, then career importance starts picking up and quickly exceeds it.

If you can't find some compatible group to join (has band been mentioned?) then find a hobby. Art, cooking, learning languages--anything that appeals to you even a little. Throw yourself into it. Become awesome. Eventually you will become good at it. It will become useful. It can gain you respect (especially your own) and give you opportunities, and help define you as something more than just some guy.
That's probably the best thing to do, especially finding a hobby. Since throwing yerself into that usually takes yer mind of whatever bothering you, even if it's just for a few hours.

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Edit: Graeme is probably right about ffa.
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Band is defintetly a good option. theater as well. My cousin took fencing lessons at that age.



When I was in high school there were ALOT of students involved in FFA (future farmers of america) . There was a metal shop and agricultural classes offered . We even had a small barn on campus. no joke. anyway, some of the kids who became certified welders in like 10th grade actually have their own construction business's today.

some students just became burn-outs though... *shrug*...but that was pretty much across the board, not just FFA.


But even more importantly, there was one teacher there who taught ALL of the networking and computer repair classes . ALOT of students took wise advantage of their time there and eventually got A+ certification (compTIA) before they even finished high school .



anyway, ALL of that is something to consider .

Department of Computer Science - Loyola University Maryland
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Old 11-23-2017
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When I was 14, I was sexually abused and had a pretty rough time. I put on heaps of weight after, lost all my friends and had to seek a new group to hang out with. I was so depressed and ashamed of myself. My grades were down too.

To cope, I skipped school for a while- hiding in the bushes and crying. I became so anxious to even step into the school grounds later on. And all though I didnt know it- I had severe BDD too.

But you know what? As much as I was feeling so bad and like nothing would take away how bad I felt. Overtime, things actually got better. I took a seat back and nurtured myself- and started to find new people to hang out with- ones that were better suited to me. It wasnt easy, but I did it and one friend I am still in contact with became the best influence on me and best friend I ever had.

Id say, dont beat yourself up. Learn about the psychology of communication and what makes people do the things they do. People react to open body language and self-conscious positivity like a magnet, the same goes with the opposite.

Be yourself and learn to appreciate all the wonderful things that make you, 'you'.
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Old 11-23-2017
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This is sad because I felt that way at your age and still feel that way now. (27)
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