Hurting people hurt people?

Is is this true in my case?I am literally a people repellant:I have no idea why,but everytime I befriend some one they abandon me.I'm simply wondering if they are hurting themselves?Why doesn't anybody care about me?

I'm a human repellent. Any human looks at me they melt.

Eristelle said:

I'm a human repellent. Any human looks at me they melt.

Click to expand...

How come you never talk to me anymore?Im trying to make friends,but I feel like it's becoming useless to try:/Btw,you seem to have much better luck than me with socializing as people like you very much on this site.

On this site, patience is a requirement. A lot of us are very slow to warm up to new people, and even prone to avoiding people we've decided we like. Also problems crop up like poorly expressing our feelings, and so on. Remember, it's a site for people with brain problems! ::

I feel the same way, i try to befriend someone then they abandon me, I am a bit unwarm to new people and appear cold but that's because i struggle to get to know someone new and get nervous whether they adjust to me or not.

I care about each and everyone of you. I may not know any of you at all but why let that stop anyone from being compassionate to one another. I may not be the greatest friend on planet but i will give it my all. If you ask for help i am also prepared to give my all. If you need a friend or just a ear , i am here.

You have to pinpoint what you think it may be that turns others off. Is it that you are acting desperate or clingy or that you call them too much and they never call you? Is it something about the way that open up too much to them? Is it the people that you are trying to open up to--they aren't people you would be compatible with?

I'm not trying to blame everything on you, however often times the average person will be turned off by certain things that another person does. First and foremost, you have to learn that you deserve friends, and there are reasons why anyone would like you. You are not unlikable. If you feel that you don't deserve friends or when someone does like you, you wonder why, then that's a problem. You have to know that there is every reason why someone would want to be your friend.

This may take time, damaged people often have trouble doing this because somewhere along the line, someone or something damaged us so that we have these negative feelings about ourselves. it's a step by step process.