How to fool around with a girl

getbornagain said:

somebody needs to enlighten me.

how the **** do you go from conversation to fooling around... whats the ****in password?! cannot for the life of me figure this one out. help me make the transition o wise sickjoke.....

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LMAO

All right, my son, I will bless you with my wisdom.

If you've been talking to a girl for a while, and suddenly you want to start touching her, she's gonna deny access.

The trick is to start touching her immediately, as soon as the conversation starts. That doesn't mean walk up and grab her ass. [Disclaimer: I cannot be held accountable for sexual harassment charges.]

So here's what you do. You'll start out with light touching, and progress all the way to... sex?! This is called kino escalation. Kino is short for kinesthetic, aka touching.

Bear in mind this is a simplified version:

STEP 1: Say your opener (this could be a simple "Hi!") Touch her arm/shoulder with your left hand. Shake hands with your free hand.

STEP 2: While you're talking, be expressive with your hands. Touch her arm to convey that you understand what she's saying. Before you tell a story, push her shoulder back gently as if saying "Get this..."

STEP 3: As the conversation gets more playful, add in more playful touching. Bump your hip against hers, see if she bumps back. Poke her belly when you tease her. Say "Hey, follow me I wanna show you something" and take her hand. Squeeze her hand, see if she squeezes back.

STEP 4: As the attraction heats up, start adding in some more sexual touching. Touch her hair. If she pulls away, tell her there was a piece of fuzz in her hair . If she's ok with it, smell her hair and tell her she smells nice. Do triangle gazing: Gaze at her right eye, then her left, then her lips, and repeat. If she's smiling, move in for the kiss.

There you go, grasshopper. May the force be with you and all that shit

It's worthy to mention that Mystery considers this process of kino escalation to last up to a week before actual intimacy, by the way. Not in the same day, although it can obviously happen sooner at times.

It's all about the girl wanting to be around you, to be talking with you, to be touched by you.

PS I've gone only half way with it though. Never completed it yet. This, in my opinion, is an excellent piece of advice from the dating community, and specifically, Mystery.

Walk said:

It's worthy to mention that Mystery considers this process of kino escalation to last up to a week before actual intimacy, by the way. Not in the same day, although it can obviously happen sooner at times.

It's all about the girl wanting to be around you, to be talking with you, to be touched by you.

PS I've gone only half way with it though. Never completed it yet. This, in my opinion, is an excellent piece of advice from the dating community, and specifically, Mystery.

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Actually his theory is that it takes 4 to 10 hours from meeting a woman to having sex. This could be all in 1 day or spread over a few days.

Sometimes it can happen in a half hour, or instantly in the bathroom depends on the situation

Oh, no question that it could be sooner. But he said that those 10 hours are usually spread out in about a week; no need to stress it out to happen in a day. But waiting way too long can lead you to be in the friends zone.

Like in my life, once I was dating this hottie, but I waited too long, like two months. Dude, looking back, I can tell that she was interested. I didn't go for it, and I can tell that she wanted me to go first. I then went into friend zone. BLAH!

Walk said:

Oh, no question that it could be sooner. But he said that those 10 hours are usually spread out in about a week; no need to stress it out to happen in a day.

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Yeah, he teaches that usually it takes 7 hours, and 2 actual meetings. A good portion of that can be over the phone too. So it's like this:

Day 1 - meet, chat for maybe 2 hours
Time bridge - chat on the phone, an hour here... an hour there... maybe 1 or 2 phone conversations for up to 3 hours
Day 2 - meet up again, chat for maybe 2 hours, and close the deal

That's an example of 7 hours. But yeah it can definitely play out in any number of ways.

Walk said:

But I've heard that waiting way too long can lead you to be in the friends zone. Once I was dating this hottie, but I waited too long, like two months. Dude, looking back, I can tell that she was interested. I didn't go for it, and I can tell that she wanted me to go first. I then went into friend zone. BLAH!

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Ouch, yeah that shit is painful

All this logic just kills the romance and mystery dosn't it lol

Hahaha, wow, have you tried this all? this is funny all this trial and error to see what works to get a girl into bed and what doesn't....may aswell just go hire a hooker...


no wonder i'm single...

So what's your score sickjoke??

ugh...........

dottie said:

ugh...........

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Ditto! lol

I was feeling done in, couldn't win
I'd only ever kissed before.
I thought there's no use getting into heavy petting
It only leads to trouble and seat wetting...

Now all I want to know is how to go
I've tasted blood and I want more
I'll put up no resistance, I want to stay the distance
I've got an itch to scratch, I need assistance:

Toucha toucha toucha touch me, I wanna be dirty
Thrill me chill me fulfil me
Creature of the night.

Then if anything grows while you pose
I'll oil you up and rub you down
And that's just one small fraction of the main attraction
You need a friendly hand and I need action...

Toucha toucha toucha touch me, I wanna be dirty
Thrill me chill me fulfil me
Creature of the night.

I dont know man. it seems awkward to just touch on first contact. at least for me.. It's just not part of my character I guess.

Why? because I don't know whether she wants to be touched or not.

This is pure manipulation IMO.

If you wanna touch her go ahead and touch her but don't try to manipulate her into giving up her vagina this way.

She may not take too kindly of someone who touches her. Or she may think it's part of your character, even though it's pretty weird. She might think "hasn't this guy ever thought that we may not want to be touched until we get to know each other first?"

The fact is.. girls/guys think that just because one is a friend, sex will ruin relationship because if the sexual relationship doesn't work out, so will the friendship.

That leads to close mindedness. ie, the girl doesn't want to make a friend into a boyfriend. But who knows this may be the best candidate! They don't though FOR FEAR and nothing more.

or she might think "this guy is very touchy.. hard to find."

so yea it depends I guess.

some cultures don't allow this though, until later at least.

I knew one girl, that I wasn't touchy with, and she was touchy with me.

I guess it's just best to sort of make that into your personality. That you are a touchy person with girls.

You have to make it seem like it's normal to you, and be casual about it.

Some girls will like it, some girls won't.

Remus said:

All this logic just kills the romance and mystery dosn't it lol

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Maybe... but it works

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Off The Wall said:

Hahaha, wow, have you tried this all?this is funny all this trial and error to see what works to get a girl into bed and what doesn't....may aswell just go hire a hooker...

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It's not like there was

STEP 7: Pay the girl $200 an hour

This is what guys who are naturally good with women DO without even realizing it.

Off The Wall said:

no wonder i'm single...

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Hahaha

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j_brown2 said:

So what's your score sickjoke??

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Over 9,000!!!!

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dottie said:

ugh...........

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Yes, the secret's out! Don't worry, it'll be OK.

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Sabbath9 said:

touch me

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HAHAHA WTF is this karaoke night?

no1 said:

I dont know man. it seems awkward to just touch on first contact. at least for me.. It's just not part of my character I guess.

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It's more awkward without any touching. When you touch someone's arm, they're more likely to trust you, this stuff is science.

no1 said:

Why? because I don't know whether she wants to be touched or not.

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So you assume that she does.

no1 said:

This is pure manipulation IMO.

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Nonsense, this is an example of a comfortable interaction between a man and a woman.

no1 said:

If you wanna touch her go ahead and touch her but don't try to manipulate her into giving up her vagina this way.

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Manipulation my ass! Touching is natural! If you don't touch a girl all night, and then suddenly you want to score - ain't gonna happen!

no1 said:

She may not take too kindly of someone who touches her. Or she may think it's part of your character, even though it's pretty weird. She might think "hasn't this guy ever thought that we may not want to be touched until we get to know each other first?"

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Touching might seem weird to you, but it's natural.

no1 said:

The fact is.. girls/guys think that just because one is a friend, sex will ruin relationship because if the sexual relationship doesn't work out, so will the friendship.

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It takes a hell of a lot of effort to transition from friendship to sex. Once you fall into the friendship zone, you are probably stuck.

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That leads to close mindedness. ie, the girl doesn't want to make a friend into a boyfriend. But who knows this may be the best candidate! They don't though FOR FEAR and nothing more.

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Can you blame her? If she considers you her friend and nothing more, you're basically one of her girlfriends. For you to suddenly show sexual interest in her after all that time as her friend, she's going to be surprised and turned off.

SickJoke, It is obvious to me that you do not respect women and think of us as playthings in your sick little game of getting laid. SickJoke, what a fitting name for you.

Bianca said:

SickJoke, It obvious to me that you do not respect women and think of us as playthings in your sick little game of getting laid. SickJoke, what a fitting name for you.

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Welcome to the club.

Just note that this isn't stuff you should just go out and start doing. This is how you do it but not something to jump right into. You need the right persona first.

Bianca said:

SickJoke, It is obvious to me that you do not respect women and think of us as playthings in your sick little game of getting laid. SickJoke, what a fitting name for you.

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First of all I do respect women. In this sick little game of life, getting laid is just one aspect . And by the way, girls want to get laid just as much as guys. They put on makeup to improve their physical appearance, we learn techniques to improve our personalities (I'm talking in terms of sexual attraction. Of course women can improve their personalities as well).

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Riiya said:

Welcome to the club.

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Oooo, can I join?!

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Day_Tripper said:

Just note that this isn't stuff you should just go out and start doing. This is how you do it but not something to jump right into. You need the right persona first.

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It is something you jump into. Practice makes perfect.

SickJoke said:

It is something you jump into. Practice makes perfect.

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No... someone who hasn't even made the girl laugh yet, or made her comfortable around you, shouldn't even think about touching her. You need a few "IOI's" first.