how to find a girlfriend

ok i just have to ask this! im just lost!

i see everyone have girlfriends everyone have someone, and i just feel so fucking lonely and on top of this people say to me its easy to find girlfriends!

so i want to know now! where the heck can i meet girls and i want to hear the tactics what to do!
where did you meet your partners? what did you do to get them?

its freaking me out! 8O

hope to hear some good stuff 8)

Hey bro, I am 21 , I met my wife, yes I am married, at little caesar's pizza. we both worked the together. I instantly liked her but never acted on it. I seen her date a few guy's while we worked there, all of whom were pretty much fuckin losers.

We actually were friends for 2 years before anything happened. We just always hung out and after a while the vibe just changed between us. But one night we were real drunk and I pushed the idea of us dating so hard I think I made her say yes. well She avoided me for about a week and then broke up with me. It KILLED me bro. I was in love.

But we continued to hang out and one night(while drinking) we ended up getting wild. and we had relations for a few more months(friends with beni's) and I asked her out again and she thankfully said yes.

We got married a year later and now we have 2 kids.

She is my dream girl and I need to get my act together before she leaves me, but thats a different story.

Don't put girls on a pedestal. If you're not happy, don't bring yourself even further down by worrying about girls. Do something productive, something you love, because a girlfriend shouldn't fill that gap. Trust me on this, I just hung out with a friend today who has a great life, is really really outgoing, but is happier being single because there are more important things than worrying about getting a girlfriend. Don't beat yourself up about it. Worry about your being incomplete socially before you worry about being incomplete romantically. Most teens date for the wrong reasons anyway.

I am pretty sure you will find a nice girl when you least expect,just dont keep worrying to much.

It feels like an impossible task. I reckon it'd be easier to become a world boxing champ, than it would be to get a girlfriend!!

First of all: Our kind of males is not attractive to women. We are in the other group of males, those who becomes good friends who's shoulder to cry on when the girl's boy is rude to her. Never to become her partner.

Stop looking for one haha. It will probably happen when you least expect it.

Work in a place full of girls. Maybe a bank?

Most people find their gf/bf's in their workplace. Just make sure no drama ensues inside the workplace

I know that there's lots of people in clubs or bars, but most of the long term r/ships I've seen were made in more common place environments like work, school, etc

Yeah, I'm also w/o a gf. But I haven't been putting enough effort in it lately. Plus I work at night, and I only work with 2 male coworkers as of now.

Kien said:

First of all: Our kind of males is not attractive to women. We are in the other group of males, those who becomes good friends who's shoulder to cry on when the girl's boy is rude to her. Never to become her partner.

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That's definitely true in my case.

I'm always amazed at the people around me who are married, get divorced, and then are almost immediately dating again, married, divorced, dating again, etc. while the whole time I am always single and never have anyone. It just baffles me how I never meet anyone and no one takes any interest in me whatsover. I'm a pretty decent looking person, but the whole socially anxious thing just kills it.

theblank said:

Kien said:

First of all: Our kind of males is not attractive to women. We are in the other group of males, those who becomes good friends who's shoulder to cry on when the girl's boy is rude to her. Never to become her partner.

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That's definitely true in my case.

I'm always amazed at the people around me who are married, get divorced, and then are almost immediately dating again, married, divorced, dating again, etc. while the whole time I am always single and never have anyone. It just baffles me how I never meet anyone and no one takes any interest in me whatsover. I'm a pretty decent looking person, but the whole socially anxious thing just kills it.

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That's right.
You won't get a woman you're probably going to be attracted to unless you get out of social anxiety.

Look at it this way...

If you can defeat social anxiety for good, getting a girlfriend will be gravy.
In fact it would probably happen along the way.

ripewithdecay said:

theblank said:

Kien said:

First of all: Our kind of males is not attractive to women. We are in the other group of males, those who becomes good friends who's shoulder to cry on when the girl's boy is rude to her. Never to become her partner.

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That's definitely true in my case.

I'm always amazed at the people around me who are married, get divorced, and then are almost immediately dating again, married, divorced, dating again, etc. while the whole time I am always single and never have anyone. It just baffles me how I never meet anyone and no one takes any interest in me whatsover. I'm a pretty decent looking person, but the whole socially anxious thing just kills it.

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That's right.
You won't get a woman you're probably going to be attracted to unless you get out of social anxiety.

Look at it this way...

If you can defeat social anxiety for good, getting a girlfriend will be gravy.
In fact it would probably happen along the way.

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Yes, it would be great if I could defeat social anxiety for good, but at this point in my life I don't see it happening. I seem to have been born with it and no matter what I do it doesn't go away. I'm trying my best just to manage it.