xtina_fan81
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I have a problem, ill give you the main details so its more clear.
Basically I started college in Sep and gradually made friends with two girls. As timewent on I started to feel the effects of SA really bad, and started to feel likethe "third wheel", "second best", you know what i mean. I was kind of angry at them cause it felt like they were leving me out, but I still knew very well that there wouldnt be an issue if my SA didnt exist. I ended up going really weird with them until they asked me what was wrong, so i told them. They said they wouldnt treat me any different than they had been just because they now knew that I had an actual disorder, which was supposed to be a good thing, but was it? Didnt I tell them because DIDNT LIKE the way they were treating me? The thing is they thought they were being helpful by treating me the same as before, but its worse because that was exactly what was getting to me and made me tell them in the first place. I thoguth id just keep trying and see what happened.
One of the things that got to me before I told them was in the mornings. We all live kind of close together, and and we all got the same bus to College. However, they wouldnt always meet in the morning and never ask me. I would make my own way there. The only time I would meet one of them is when the other wasnt going in and only asked me because he didnt have the other. Second best.
BUT, on friday one of the girls passed her driving test and she already has a car so would now be driving to College instead of bussing it. So today I was on my way and they text me saying they are in the car together on their way too. So she didnt think to ask me if I wanted a lift, but obviously asked the other girl.The girl who doesnt drive would usually ask me if I wanted to meet and get the bus if she was going to be on her own which annyed me in a way but what now annoys me even more is that she didnt even bther to let me know what she was doing now that she was offered a lift why would she bother with me. As far as they were concerned I was getting the bus by myself, and arranged to go together in the girls car. I was off with them at College when they got there and I ended up crying in class which is never fun. Am I overreacting or what, as far as Im concerned its selfish and inconsiderate and they said they always make the effort to include me and everything but I dont see that when they do something like this. Or maybe Imjust being stupid.
So I want to know what people think how much I should expect people to put on hold or change in order to make things a bit easier for me. And also shuld I tell them what pissed me off? I said tothem that I couldnt because its prob stupid and its just me. But is it really?Is it something I have a right to be upset at?
Basically I started college in Sep and gradually made friends with two girls. As timewent on I started to feel the effects of SA really bad, and started to feel likethe "third wheel", "second best", you know what i mean. I was kind of angry at them cause it felt like they were leving me out, but I still knew very well that there wouldnt be an issue if my SA didnt exist. I ended up going really weird with them until they asked me what was wrong, so i told them. They said they wouldnt treat me any different than they had been just because they now knew that I had an actual disorder, which was supposed to be a good thing, but was it? Didnt I tell them because DIDNT LIKE the way they were treating me? The thing is they thought they were being helpful by treating me the same as before, but its worse because that was exactly what was getting to me and made me tell them in the first place. I thoguth id just keep trying and see what happened.
One of the things that got to me before I told them was in the mornings. We all live kind of close together, and and we all got the same bus to College. However, they wouldnt always meet in the morning and never ask me. I would make my own way there. The only time I would meet one of them is when the other wasnt going in and only asked me because he didnt have the other. Second best.
BUT, on friday one of the girls passed her driving test and she already has a car so would now be driving to College instead of bussing it. So today I was on my way and they text me saying they are in the car together on their way too. So she didnt think to ask me if I wanted a lift, but obviously asked the other girl.The girl who doesnt drive would usually ask me if I wanted to meet and get the bus if she was going to be on her own which annyed me in a way but what now annoys me even more is that she didnt even bther to let me know what she was doing now that she was offered a lift why would she bother with me. As far as they were concerned I was getting the bus by myself, and arranged to go together in the girls car. I was off with them at College when they got there and I ended up crying in class which is never fun. Am I overreacting or what, as far as Im concerned its selfish and inconsiderate and they said they always make the effort to include me and everything but I dont see that when they do something like this. Or maybe Imjust being stupid.
So I want to know what people think how much I should expect people to put on hold or change in order to make things a bit easier for me. And also shuld I tell them what pissed me off? I said tothem that I couldnt because its prob stupid and its just me. But is it really?Is it something I have a right to be upset at?
