How does being left out make you feel

KiaKaha

Banned
Just out of curiosity. It makes me feel pretty bad.
I find exclusion on both a macro and micro level to be extremely damaging.

Humans are meant to be social. We crave acceptance. From a psychological perspective, we need people - we need to feel a sense of belonging.

Do you care if you are left out - or do you prefer it that way?

Does being left out, excluded, ignored, overlooked and unappreciated hurt you?

Or do you just suck it up and move on?
 

hidwell

Well-known member
Just out of curiosity. It makes me feel pretty bad.
I find exclusion on both a macro and micro level to be extremely damaging.

Humans are meant to be social. We crave acceptance. From a psychological perspective, we need people - we need to feel a sense of belonging.

Do you care if you are left out - or do you prefer it that way?

Does being left out, excluded, ignored, overlooked and unappreciated hurt you?

Or do you just suck it up and move on?

My response is to go back into my shell, which has always been my fall back position, sad but true.:cool:
 

Hellhound

Super Moderator
I haven't bothered to socialize with new people in ages. I don't care about strangers or what they would do. If I am left out, well... f*ck them. I just go back to my own world and leave them alone.

But it'd bother me a lot if I considered someone a good friend and they hurt me. It's hard for me to get over that stuff.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
It hurts, but I'm trying to deal with it because I will not be included in everything in life.

I overcompensate, though. I was left out of a lot of things in school and now I try so hard to fit in that I overdo it. My post count here is one example of that.
 

hidwell

Well-known member
It hurts, but I'm trying to deal with it because I will not be included in everything in life.

I overcompensate, though. I was left out of a lot of things in school and now I try so hard to fit in that I overdo it. My post count here is one example of that.

I have noticed, when it comes to posting you leave me in the shade. Watch out Coyote Mikey is coming for you.::p:
 

Fighter86

Well-known member
Sorry to hear Srijita52. Sometimes things do get very difficult. Just when perhaps you see a ray of light you get pulled down again into the deep storms. Guess I have nothing much encouraging to say except I feel your pain ::(:
 

Kat

Well-known member
If they are intentionally doing it to hurt me I’d have a bit of a problem but if they happen to be doing it because they know I’m a shy person and their just trying to take the pressure off it’s a bit of a different story. I don’t like being in the spot light so in some respects them being overly attentive may hurt me more but I know most people don’t view it like that so I appreciate the effort. I think I have offended some people at times because I haven’t been able to keep to the social demands they may have expected of me so I’m a bit more forgiving of their behavior especially when I know some of mine could be interpreted as something bad. I try to look at it from an objective perspective and take it from there being left alone caters to my introverted phobic side not being liked by everyone makes sense to my rational side demanding respect and standing up for myself is the diplomatic reasoning and my sense of dignity and sometimes you have to do that to achieve the things you want.
 

Lea

Banned
When I think back of the places where I worked, I think I mostly had quite good coworkers - with some exceptions, there are bitches and idiots here and there but not all people are like that.. depends on the individual person. Some are difficult to relate to, some are easy and friendly. I had no friends in the high school but I don´t think it´s a fault of the others, I find it natural that when I am quiet and shy others won´t make friends with me.
 

Srijita52

Well-known member
Sorry to hear Srijita52. Sometimes things do get very difficult. Just when perhaps you see a ray of light you get pulled down again into the deep storms. Guess I have nothing much encouraging to say except I feel your pain ::(:
Thank you.
It makes me feel very pathetic and upset. But it was a frequent scenerio at school and now at work ::(:
I can relate too, I'm sorry.
 

MrSunday

Well-known member
Just out of curiosity. It makes me feel pretty bad.
I find exclusion on both a macro and micro level to be extremely damaging.

Humans are meant to be social. We crave acceptance. From a psychological perspective, we need people - we need to feel a sense of belonging.

Do you care if you are left out - or do you prefer it that way?

Does being left out, excluded, ignored, overlooked and unappreciated hurt you?

Or do you just suck it up and move on?

Probably in the past I would have cried a river. Now I'm like whatever. I don't care. Most people are annoying.

However I would get along with the members on this forum. Ya'all are so interesting and are not zombies.
 

coyote

Well-known member
it hurts to feel left out

when this happens i ask myself two questions

1. are the others leaving me out on purpose?
2. why do i think i should be included in the first place?

exploring the answers to these questions usually enables me to let go of the need to make myself a part of that particular group, thereby allowing me the freedom to find somewhere i do fit in

sometimes it happens to be the very same group i felt left out of to begin with

it's funny how that works
 
Last edited:

Lea

Banned
Well the about only places where there is (seeming) equality and unconditional love and acceptance are religious sects. But it comes with price ::p:.
 

WeirdyMcGee

Well-known member
I think I've learned to accept that I'll always be left out unless I actively MAKE people include me.
It doesn't hurt much anymore.
I do get a bit irritated sometimes; thinking about how much harder I have to work just to have the things that other people take for-granted constantly.
 

Hoppy

Well-known member
I've never been part of any group.

It did bother me at one time. It doens't bother me now, I've learned to accept it. Maybe one day it will change, and I will enjoy it if it happens.

But I will not force myself into a group.
 

Valhalla

Well-known member
I've always accepted it, even at a very young age. At some points I guess I was a bit "sad" about it. Nowadays it's still much neutrality, it has also started to turn into irritation and anger.
 
Top