How do you deal with break ups..
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Chilling__Echo
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yeah, as someone else said, deffinately stay busy, know that the world won't end. go out and have fun and dont allow yourself to get depressed. breakups suck and sorry it happened to you! <hugs>
Crimefish
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I never have breakups, I just have the thing where they suddenly start to avoid you and they won't tell you why, so it just happens again with the next person. *thumbs up*
I'd recommend ripping up photos of the two of you. (No, I never do that 'cause I won't let anyone take my photo.)
What I do is just... bottle it up 'til I get a mental disorder.
Good luck.
I'd recommend ripping up photos of the two of you. (No, I never do that 'cause I won't let anyone take my photo.)
What I do is just... bottle it up 'til I get a mental disorder.
Good luck.
redwine
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I agree. staying busy as much as you can, and give you time to accept the new situation, witch is not easy.
Sometimes I blame myself about all the things tht happen to me , and tha´s wrong.So if you feel guilty ...don´t !!
I´m sure you will be better in a few weeks. It´s much better have a bad time because the things you lost than because the things you have never had
Sometimes I blame myself about all the things tht happen to me , and tha´s wrong.So if you feel guilty ...don´t !!
I´m sure you will be better in a few weeks. It´s much better have a bad time because the things you lost than because the things you have never had
Fredscars
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mhmm, stay really busy, as all of them said..if you have close mates/a close mate or jsut good friends, try and stay with them as much as possible..concentrate on work or whatever. The one break-up ive had i jsut cried for a day or so..then tried to have great fun with my (then) close mates. I had more fun in those days then i can ever remember.
LittleMissScareAll
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Crimefish said:
So I'm not the only one that happens to?...I thought it was just me. The same exact thing always happens with me in "relationships"...and unfortunately I believe it's happening again.
I hoped this time it would be different...but everyone's the same. :evil:
Yossarian
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LittleMissScareAll said:..and unfortunately I believe it's happening again.
Sorry to hear things aren't working out for you LMSA but have you given up too soon? It sounds like maybe you are predicting the end and therefore given up. Like a self-fulfilling prophesy. Maybe you can still get things back on track. Just because previous relationships didn't work out doesn't mean this one can't.
Sorry if this is bumbling nonsense but SP has sure made me just assume things are going to end badly so therefore not even try often enough.
LittleMissScareAll
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Yossarian said:LittleMissScareAll said:..and unfortunately I believe it's happening again.
Sorry to hear things aren't working out for you LMSA but have you given up too soon? It sounds like maybe you are predicting the end and therefore given up. Like a self-fulfilling prophesy. Maybe you can still get things back on track. Just because previous relationships didn't work out doesn't mean this one can't.
Sorry if this is bumbling nonsense but SP has sure made me just assume things are going to end badly so therefore not even try often enough.
It's not that I don't try though...I do. I still am. But nothing I ever do works...no matter what I do, I can't change things. And I can usually tell when somebody's avoiding me and making excuses... it's happened enough times for me to know that when people just keep putting off seeing me, it's not that they're "TOO BUSY"...they just DON'T WANT TO see me...and it's all happening again. I'm not going to completely give up yet...I'm still trying to get him to talk to me, but I'm pretty sure I'll never see this person again.
Rossettismuse1
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nothing worse than a break up, is there?
Well, I wouldnt really know, considering that I suffer from Social fucking Phobia.
You should feel lucky that you have had a relationship. All S.P males on this site have never had one and the feeling is no less than torturous.
Well, I wouldnt really know, considering that I suffer from Social fucking Phobia.
You should feel lucky that you have had a relationship. All S.P males on this site have never had one and the feeling is no less than torturous.
Pixeldot
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How do I deal with breakups? Not well, actually.
I've been in 2 relationships, and dumped both times (which does a number on my ego...)
The first time was a year ago, and it took a while... but I've convinced myself that my partner was at fault in the relationship. When looking at it objectively, its true, though its hard to believe.
The second time was a month ago, and I'm still not over it.
I've been in 2 relationships, and dumped both times (which does a number on my ego...)
The first time was a year ago, and it took a while... but I've convinced myself that my partner was at fault in the relationship. When looking at it objectively, its true, though its hard to believe.
The second time was a month ago, and I'm still not over it.
SilverLiner
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I'm sorry to hear lawyerguy I agree about keeping yourself busy and also writing how you feel so you can get it out as well. Nothing worse than holding in emotional. I hope things pick up.
I agree about keeping yourself busy and also writing how you feel so you can get it out as well. Nothing worse than holding in emotional. I hope things pick up.
Yossarian
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LittleMissScareAll said:Yossarian said:It's not that I don't try though...I do. I still am. But nothing I ever do works...no matter what I do, I can't change things. And I can usually tell when somebody's avoiding me and making excuses... it's happened enough times for me to know that when people just keep putting off seeing me, it's not that they're "TOO BUSY"...they just DON'T WANT TO see me...and it's all happening again. I'm not going to completely give up yet...I'm still trying to get him to talk to me, but I'm pretty sure I'll never see this person again.
Sorry if I came across as saying you didn't try etc. I guess it was supposed to be a morale boosting type effort but it was late and I'm better at being cynical :?
You sound like someone who used to visit this place called Elkapath. She was a bit gothic too, although that is irrelevant but hey. She went for a while and posted back saying she found someone really cool who she could be herself with, accepted her for who she was etc.
I think it's easy when you are the common factor to assume that it is your fault and you are no good etc. That things will never change, it will always happen etc. When in fact it's not you that is the problem but the fact you are seeing the wrong people for you.
Anyway I'm not sure what I'm talking about anymore sorry but even if this doesn't work out, don't kick yourself (that goes for everyone too), some people just don't click enough. It's not about anyone being no good. Hope it does work though. Black Mamba I think had some good advice too somewhere.
mr_jim
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Hi there
I have just broken up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years Its my 1st breakup and i don't know how to deal with it. I am really depressed, i think the breakup is all my fault because i didn't commit to her enough, and i just want her to see that we can make a go of our relationship again. She says she wants time on her own though, she is sticking around until i find a new place to live, but i feel like once she's gone i won't have anyone else. I don't speak with my mum or dad, i only have a couple of friends, and i'm not sure how much support they could offer. The most support i'm getting now is from online friends and my ex. I don't know what to do nor how long i will feel like this. We have lived to together our whole relationship and i can't imagine life without her
What can i do? I know people say to keep busy but i just cannot seem to motivate myself to do anything except cry and talk to people online.
Jim
I have just broken up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years
Its my 1st breakup and i don't know how to deal with it. I am really depressed, i think the breakup is all my fault because i didn't commit to her enough, and i just want her to see that we can make a go of our relationship again. She says she wants time on her own though, she is sticking around until i find a new place to live, but i feel like once she's gone i won't have anyone else. I don't speak with my mum or dad, i only have a couple of friends, and i'm not sure how much support they could offer. The most support i'm getting now is from online friends and my ex. I don't know what to do nor how long i will feel like this. We have lived to together our whole relationship and i can't imagine life without her What can i do? I know people say to keep busy but i just cannot seem to motivate myself to do anything except cry and talk to people online.
Jim