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Well, I used to fill my days with filling myself up from boredom . But I wasted 10 and more years of my life doing so really. I mean, I had a good time - but it was in the confines of my fears and over time they became like cement and almost invisible but present. It became harder to get out of. Kinda like a nice prison.

I think to keep the future in mind. Whats going to help you create a future where your going to be happy and so on. What can you do now thats not going to be too much of a strain that can set you up for some future happiness?

For me, it always comes down to self esteem. If I can have time to set little goals like self care and watching what I eat and exercising (out of fun) - those things set me up later to feeling good about myself and would greatly help me gain confidence.

I honestly think that without direction and goals, we really set ourselves up for low self esteem and depression.

Of course theres a balance though. Have your down time where you relax and so on. I like to watch Netflix in bed on my macbbook and use a VPN so that I can get every countrys netflix lol. I also am addicted to rollercoaster tycoon which is a game on ios now I used to play (prob goingto give up on it cause it reminds me of my past lol). I read alot about health too.

Theres a japanese saying I cannot remember how it goes, but its something like mind hygiene - where you work on goals but also work on pleasure and relaxation. Someting like that.
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Yes, the tricky part is how to fill ALL the hours of the day, not just some. I tend to flick between the few activities i do all throughout the day, to keep them "fresh". I flick when something is become boring/etc (ie when my mood starts to drop). I'm trying to increase the number of different activities i have in my "master list" so to speak; the theory is, the more different activities/options you have, the less likelihood of being bored.
Exactly. What do you mean by fresh? What activities do you do and suggest me to do?
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I mean doing sport and after that setting a goal in that sport. In the first days you will be demotivated at all but you must continue for that long the sport you are practicing.

After 1-2 month you have to set a goal but not sooner.

And after all you must seek professional medical advice.

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I feel I have to work on my myself and reduce my anxiety before joining a team sport.

I think I'm going to exercise by myself.

Receive medical advice about what?

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I don't know how to cook but I guess I learn. Not motivated enough though.
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Well, I used to fill my days with filling myself up from boredom . But I wasted 10 and more years of my life doing so really. I mean, I had a good time - but it was in the confines of my fears and over time they became like cement and almost invisible but present. It became harder to get out of. Kinda like a nice prison.

I think to keep the future in mind. Whats going to help you create a future where your going to be happy and so on. What can you do now thats not going to be too much of a strain that can set you up for some future happiness?

For me, it always comes down to self esteem. If I can have time to set little goals like self care and watching what I eat and exercising (out of fun) - those things set me up later to feeling good about myself and would greatly help me gain confidence.

I honestly think that without direction and goals, we really set ourselves up for low self esteem and depression.

Of course theres a balance though. Have your down time where you relax and so on. I like to watch Netflix in bed on my macbbook and use a VPN so that I can get every countrys netflix lol. I also am addicted to rollercoaster tycoon which is a game on ios now I used to play (prob goingto give up on it cause it reminds me of my past lol). I read alot about health too.

Theres a japanese saying I cannot remember how it goes, but its something like mind hygiene - where you work on goals but also work on pleasure and relaxation. Someting like that.
You're saying make my future self happy, set goals and direction?

How do you set up a VPN for Netflix? Well I watch the news everyday but it doesn't take up my whole day and I could watch tv all day but it is not recommended. I use to go on YT all day but that's not recommended either plus I'm too anxious and other reasons I stated to go watch what I use to watch.
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What do you mean by fresh?
I mean not tedious, or boring, or sick of. Or it's fun, & feels new-ish. It's hard to explain.

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What activities do you do and suggest me to do?
In recent years, i've reached 100% boredom a LOT (& apathy, depression,..). I've gradually been getting out of that hole, where i had almost nothing to do (or that i felt like doing, which is apathy). To avoid getting depressed again, i have HAD to try to stay occupied with things, even though i was still very bored. I've created HABITS of doing various things (& those things becoming part of my comfort zone). I'm still getting there with boredom, but presently i'm not doing too bad.

I usually just do the activities off-the-cuff, but when i find i have nothing i WANT to do, i find having a LIST of things to do helps REMIND me that i have PLENTY of things i could be doing, and that right now i could very well WANT to do one or more such activities in the list.

I have 3 lists, starting with the most regular activities & which are most in my comfort zone: (i have edited them for here)

Main list: computer(tetris, solitaire, socialphobiaworld, sort saved pics, online crosswords), walking/steps (have steps-counter on smartwatch; goal=2000 steps/day), chooks (let out, see, shut up), sheep (see), tv(my favorite soap), radio (classical), beer/spirits (fetch/drink), coffee/milo/tea (make/drink), biscuit/s, reheat cuppa (a few times), toilet(#1 & #2), youtube music (usu at night, with alcohol), chocolate/nutella, shower, prepare/take medication, enter item/s into Point Motivator program (is a motivational tool which i've just started using again)

Next list: computer(listen to brain audio, reading (offline/online), tv(news, ...), watch sunset, yoga, pressups/mini-workout, recharge watch/phone, tv(other), programming/scripting, crisps/thins/crackers, ring/txt sby, talk to sby in person, masturbate (usu to porn pics), go abroad (eg to town to do shopping)

Extra list: walk out amongst nature, reading (book/magazine), workout (full), have dinner at sby's home, play PSP/PS2/Pc-[emulator] games, watch [old] movie online, study/learn a foreign language

Of course, you will have your own lists, according to what you want in them, but i think the above lists could be a good place to start.

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So recently I have been bored during the day and night. I don't do the things I use to do due to anxiety, fear of the unknown, low motivation, and fear. But what I was doing before and what I'm going to do is not recommended so idk what to do for activities that take up most of the day. Keep in mind that I tried drawing and coloring today. Any advice on what I should do?
you can also try doing little clean-ups in the house, add additional jumping jacks to your day, taking a shower and combing your hair, joining sth that doesn't cause you a lot of anxiety, do these things help? I'm trying to find things to do too, good luck!
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I do things that relax me and get me out of anxiety and stress-

- laying in bed is a big past time I love and I do these things:

I watch Netflix ( its worth having- if you havent seen THE STRANGER THINGS... you should watch that - oh and The Crown and so many others. Recently I watched Annihilation which was awesome. Also, you can put a VPN on your laptop and end up getting all the other countries Netflix too - which means more to watch and esp new releases if your country has later release dates to the US. (Also, if you have a VPN- you can go to SBS.com.au if you show your in Australia and they have an array of completely free viewing of heaps and heaps of films that are all types but good ones).

I draw cartoons/doodles on DrawingIsland.com for fun.

I write my goals as if I completed them in my private journal on my computer. Make myself get all excited about them. Makes me happy to believe in them. I know I ended up doing so when I believe. Im due to do a dream board. Something I only recently stopped doing due to rugs (ex) stuff.

I go on Facebook. I have a few sites though. 1 for my doodles, my normal social one and my favourite private one just for me to express myself with nobody else ( so I don't bombard or embarrass myself into other's feeds). I use it as my own personal blog with things that I like and can look back on.

Youtube is always good. I like to look up health stuff. But also, I like to type in funny weird things and see what comes up. Today though the Doctors program was in the feed and it had some person that had an extended bowel from years of impacted faeces. It was like a pregnant person. OMG lol

I like to read books in bed too. OMG - I have half a double bed devoted to books. Books from the library, my books. BTW, the library is where its at. You can get movies, all sorts from there. Put things on hold online, borrow ebooks even and so on. I have heaps of films I put on hold - new releases. Its a thing Ive done for ages. Saves money.

Not in bed:

Gardening and playing with your animals. When the season is right, I love to garden and make things neat and so on. I also like to clean my chicken's house and make their home better. Its fun.

I take my dog for walks, listening to music on my phone or an audiobook ( I listen to self help stuff). Or with a friend for a good talk or laughs. I have 2 pet sheep too, so I always go and pick some plants for them to eat.

I make juice- that is one of the coolest things you can do for your health. Beetroot juice is esp good for your mind and it can be like a surge of happiness that can even be present the next day. Its been scientifically found too. It also builds your blood - so it gives you energy too.

One thing Ive been addicted to lately is Roller Coaster Tycoon, which is an old dos game thats been re-released on ios. Its like OMG - I used to play that for ages. Everyone who had played that has been waiting for that to be released on ios lol. Its so much fun - esp in a waiting room or what ever.

Music can be such an enforcer to how you feel. And if you can dance or involve yourself to it for even just a song - it can make you feel so much.
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you can also try to go outside to somewhere you like to go definitely don't take spw out of your life whenever you need it
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i find social anxiety/phobia sites very ironic if that's the word how if you have social anxiety in one way but not another then you would still be alone on a site bc other people have it in another way than you. it's very isolating
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