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Old 11-05-2013
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^ That sounds like a terrible situation, Phoenixx. You're right in that you should never do anything for this "friend" again!
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Pissed off and worried. My brother's ex-friend went running off out of state this week on a whim, and asked my mom and I if we could babysit his two dogs, one of them new, and clean out the new (used) car he got. [side note: Even though he and my brother haven't been friends in nearly 2 years, he's always still kept it touch occasionally, mostly because he lived with us and my mom took care of him for a short period some years ago -- long story.] Anyway this week he got a new dog, a special needs dog to be exact. We had no idea what we were taking on when we agreed to do this, since the idiot said she was friendly and just needed her daily seizure medicine. Turns out not only does this dog have seizures, but she's scared to death of people and has anxiety issues. Getting her to come out to eat, go for a walk, and clean up her mess she made in her kennel was near impossible yesterday. Growled at us a few times but she was mostly just shaking, so we just left her food mixed with her medicine she needed, and water, laid down newspaper since we couldn't get her to go out, and left her kennel open so she could stretch her legs. I also had no idea how horrible of a place he lived in until I went yesterday, where it's nothing but a trailer with NO heat and all he has are these tiny kennels for these two dogs. I was appalled, and still am. This morning my mom did the duties and everything was fine, aside from a bit of mess. Tonight I just went down there to do night duties and she was gone, ripped through the tin and insulation of the trailer wall. I feel horrible, like it's my fault even though it isn't. It's so cold, I hope hope hope she's going to be okay, that she found a warm barn or shed nearby that she escaped to. I'm really worried about her seizures, even though I was told she was already weaning off from medication since they weren't as bad. (but who knows, that might be a lie or a very vague detail as to what's really going on) I'm so angry at this idiot, I will never do anything for him ever again. It's a wonder I don't call the SPCA for the other dog he has there (who's a sweet little beagle that loves people). I'm still thinking about it. Screw him and his money, I'm not cleaning his stupid vehicle. I'll continue to check on his dog and look for the other the rest of this week. Already had a post on Facebook made for her, so I hope she is found. If she is, I'm going to try my best to not have that dog given back to him.
Oh dear. I hope the little girl is found, though if she is that fearful then it doesn't sound too good for her. Is the other dog healthy/taken care of?
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I'm tired, but I have tomorrow off so I'm just going to relax and savor it.
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Old 11-06-2013
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Confused. I'm wondering if I picked the wrong major. Technically this is the major is the career field I want to be in, but with a different major I could have still entered the same career field. Hm.

But also happy. I think I may have made my first friend in a very long time.
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^ That sounds like a terrible situation, Phoenixx. You're right in that you should never do anything for this "friend" again!
^ Yeah it won't ever happen again. I'm just counting down the days until Friday now, when he comes back from Florida so I can rip him a new one. He was always a selfish arse, but this time he's even managed to surprise me and I've had enough. I could always call him or leave him a Facebook message, but I'd rather say it all to his face.

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Oh dear. I hope the little girl is found, though if she is that fearful then it doesn't sound too good for her. Is the other dog healthy/taken care of?
^ I hope so too. I'm hoping maybe her desperation will overcome her fear, but who knows. The other dog is healthy from what I could tell, and we took good care of him tonight. Gave him some treats and some lap attention time because he was feeling lonely, he really enjoyed that.
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After eating dinner and watching a pretty awesome episode of Supernatural, I'm feeling a little better. My head still feels fuzzy and kinda achy from my anger earlier though. I hope my worrying won't keep me up tonight either.
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Ah, not good tonight. Negative thoughts and intense loneliness have come to beat me up. I need better coping strategies.
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^ I hope so too. I'm hoping maybe her desperation will overcome her fear, but who knows. The other dog is healthy from what I could tell, and we took good care of him tonight. Gave him some treats and some lap attention time because he was feeling lonely, he really enjoyed that.
That's good to hear. As much as I wish all animals had awesome owners, sometimes you just have to be content that the animal is being adequately taken care of.
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Ah, not good tonight. Negative thoughts and intense loneliness have come to beat me up. I need better coping strategies.
Sorry you're feeling down, Mikey. If you need to talk, you know where to find me! It's too bad we don't live closer, I could bring you some chocolate. :P
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Ah, not good tonight. Negative thoughts and intense loneliness have come to beat me up. I need better coping strategies.
You and me both, brother. You and me both.

Hope you feel better soon.
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Old 11-06-2013
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feeling the seasonal affectivz
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feeling the seasonal affectivz
Me too. This horribly cold and rainy day is making it hard to get out of bed today.
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Me too. This horribly cold and rainy day is making it hard to get out of bed today.
the dementors have come!
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I have a morality problem. I just received some Amnesty International emails urging me to take action for people who they said were unjustly imprisoned. I was surprised to see such emails in my inbox because I wasn't active in Amnesty anymore. The last time I did something for them was back in high school, when I was more optimistic and confident. I was going to delete those emails but before I even clicked delete, I told myself, "If I delete these emails, would i be a bad person for not doing anything?" But then I had another voice tell me, "Just delete them! You don't even know these people, why are you helping them anyway? Besides, you won't make a difference just by sending emails, faxes, or tweets. If you don't do anything, there will be many other Amnesty volunteers who would take your place."

In short, I'm conflicted! I think I should help others when I FEEL like it, when I am IN the mood to do so, but obviously this morning I wasn't feeling the holiday spirit. Also, years of harassment by others made me more suspicious of others. Even if I won't make a difference, I still feel bad for deleting those emails because one part of me will tell me, "you suck! You should have done something! That's why you don't have friends, because you don't care about other people". blah blah.
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I have a morality problem. I just received some Amnesty International emails urging me to take action for people who they said were unjustly imprisoned. I was surprised to see such emails in my inbox because I wasn't active in Amnesty anymore. The last time I did something for them was back in high school, when I was more optimistic and confident. I was going to delete those emails but before I even clicked delete, I told myself, "If I delete these emails, would i be a bad person for not doing anything?" But then I had another voice tell me, "Just delete them! You don't even know these people, why are you helping them anyway? Besides, you won't make a difference just by sending emails, faxes, or tweets. If you don't do anything, there will be many other Amnesty volunteers who would take your place."

In short, I'm conflicted! I think I should help others when I FEEL like it, when I am IN the mood to do so, but obviously this morning I wasn't feeling the holiday spirit. Also, years of harassment by others made me more suspicious of others. Even if I won't make a difference, I still feel bad for deleting those emails because one part of me will tell me, "you suck! You should have done something! That's why you don't have friends, because you don't care about other people". blah blah.
What "morality" problem?? A morality problem is if someone is dishonest, lying, stealing etc. - youīre not doing anything of this (or if so i donīt know, but here itīs not relevant). Youīre NOT obliged to get yourself exploited by some charities or anything (besides I heard Amnesty International is shit). If someone tells you things like "give or donation or youīre a bad person", then thatīs emotional exploitation. If you wanted to do any help of this kind, then it should be your fully voluntary decision. Another thing, with things like giving donations is good to keep check about where the money is going and make sure itīs really received by people in need. Because otherwise it can be grabbed by gangs or used for financing terrorism etc. So the final result is not moral, but immoral. If some people hand out money too easily to whomever, without keeping check if itīs really used for the right thing, thatīs not only naive but in its final result immoral too.

As for your case, "people who were unjustly imprisoned". How are you and how is any ordinary citizen competent to evaluate if they were really imprisoned unjustly?? Youīre not a judge, you didnīt study their case or anything, you basically know nothing about the whole thing. All that is happening is, youīre receiving the whole story and moral judgment secondhand from Amnesty International.

My opinion: 1) Donīt think if you act on what they say that youīre a moral person
2) Donīt think if you donīt act on it that youīre an imoral person.

Just have your own judgment and donīt listen to others who are telling you what you should do or what you should think.
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by who? hope you're ok.
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What "morality" problem?? A morality problem is if someone is dishonest, lying, stealing etc. - youīre not doing anything of this (or if so i donīt know, but here itīs not relevant). Youīre NOT obliged to get yourself exploited by some charities or anything (besides I heard Amnesty International is shit). If someone tells you things like "give or donation or youīre a bad person", then thatīs emotional exploitation. If you wanted to do any help of this kind, then it should be your fully voluntary decision. Another thing, with things like giving donations is good to keep check about where the money is going and make sure itīs really received by people in need. Because otherwise it can be grabbed by gangs or used for financing terrorism etc. So the final result is not moral, but immoral. If some people hand out money too easily to whomever, without keeping check if itīs really used for the right thing, thatīs not only naive but in its final result immoral too.

As for your case, "people who were unjustly imprisoned". How are you and how is any ordinary citizen competent to evaluate if they were really imprisoned unjustly?? Youīre not a judge, you didnīt study their case or anything, you basically know nothing about the whole thing. All that is happening is, youīre receiving the whole story and moral judgment secondhand from Amnesty International.

My opinion: 1) Donīt think if you act on what they say that youīre a moral person
2) Donīt think if you donīt act on it that youīre an imoral person.

Just have your own judgment and donīt listen to others who are telling you what you should do or what you should think.
I completely agree with you. It's not just Amnesty International. Sometimes I get emails from MercyCorps and somebody named "Love" with pictures of starving children and asking me to donate. I used to donate to MercyCorps but I couldn't do it anymore because I don't have a job and have student loans to pay. Everytime I see these emails, it makes me feel bad that I can't donate, but it also feels like emotional manipulation. Like you said, I should use my own judgment and common sense to get through situations like this.

In the future, if I had a job and have money left to spare, I would want to research the charity before donating. Then I would need to keep tabs on how it spends its money.
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I like the way this video puts it all out there so simple for people who want to say it's b.s.

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Old 11-06-2013
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I completely agree with you. It's not just Amnesty International. Sometimes I get emails from MercyCorps and somebody named "Love" with pictures of starving children and asking me to donate. I used to donate to MercyCorps but I couldn't do it anymore because I don't have a job and have student loans to pay. Everytime I see these emails, it makes me feel bad that I can't donate, but it also feels like emotional manipulation. Like you said, I should use my own judgment and common sense to get through situations like this.

In the future, if I had a job and have money left to spare, I would want to research the charity before donating. Then I would need to keep tabs on how it spends its money.
**** Amnesty International is US State Department Propaganda*** :*** Information Clearing House: ICH
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