He's obsessed with women's faces -triggers me

Yes- so I am not into him anymore. But I still get feelings. Because at work he can seem so normal.

But I just dont get it. Why does he have to follow me on Facebook and yet when I look at his page- its all completely obsessed with women's faces - esp blonde women- and he follows blonde women he doesn't know too- that is all his friends - just a 8 or so women he doesnt know - except for me- because I work with him.
And to have a made up last name as a model - and have 1000s of selfies of himself on there.

I mean, he knows I am going to see that. And for me, its not very nice- to see all these women's face like that- what he thinks are beautiful - Im not blonde.

It really triggers me because I have had body dysmorphia in the past and its come back with avengence. I dont want to block. I dont like doing that. I know I should. And he does have schizophrenia.



But what would should I do? I try not to go on there because it upsets me- but even if i block he will know and I work with him. So idk. How do I not let this trigger me. Because it makes me feel like I am so un-worhty - so ugly etc.. Because its not just his page that triggers me now- its everywhere.

The advice I'll give is not what you're going to want to hear.

When a child puts their finger in an electrical power socket and gets zapped, the child cries in pain. The child stops crying and puts his finger in the socket again - same result. And again.. etc.

If what you see on his FB doesn't make you feel good, you'd be best off not putting your finger in the power socket.

(I don't mean any offense here, just putting it in plain terms).

Oh, by the way. Perhaps you could put a pic of yourself on the 'post your picture thread'.
Lets have a look and see how ungodly hideous you are... (I bet you're not).

Yep - you are right. The temptation to go on there because he is linked to my page is quite high and I always kick myself before hand. Because once I click on those pages its just completely unreal- of the love hearts and all this romance stuff on his page followed by pictures after pictures of women- and their crotches and all that stuff- sure he is male right- but to go to those extremes of having a facebook page dedicated to himself just to look at women- that is why I just dont get why he has to follow me from that page- I work with him- cant he see that it is offensive to me- that it is even hurtful - or he just doesnt care??!!

Its equally hard because he has showed me affection and I know at one stage or so had feelings for me until he discovered my life was small or what ever else put him off. But it does make you want to question your image and all that - it hurts.

I just give up on it all- even more than before. I dont like what I look like right now- my feminity and confidence are not very high right now- I destroyed my hair and other things trying to change myself.

There is a photo of me in the photo thread- a time when I felt happy about myself- I want to go back to that time.