Have you ever stopped caring

WastedPotential

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or felt so indifferent, that you'd think 'Fuck it, it doesn't matter anymore', that for a moment of time you'd stop sweating?

I'm guessing it has something to do with a lack of worrying/nervousness, since you wouldn't care, you wouldn't worry, either.

This has happened to me a few times...but only briefly...it's hard to stay in that state of mind without looking like a complete fucking nutjob to others for a few hours.

sure would be nice to control that lack of feeling and apply it in certain situations...

I dunno.
just something I thought you guys have gone thru, too.
 

WastedPotential

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I guess what I was getting at is completely clearing your mind.

But yeah, I know exactly how you feel.
There are so many people I'd like to, uh, make friends with at work, except I try to act what I think they think what they want (erm that sounds confusing) out of someone, and in the end I come off as some jackoff with all the personality of a hardwood floor.

Which is insane, because in high school I was voted class clown, yet I act so different and boring at work.

an odd dichotomy, fer shur
 
Yea I feel like that sometimes. For some reason I occasionally get the "fuck its." And it's like "fuck this and fuck that." Then later it's like "No I actually really do give a fuck."
 

Jellybeans

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i don't sweat, and i got no hyperhydrosismatism...

but i think that caring less is the answer to depression, anxiety, anger, frustration... any negative feeling a person could have that never subsides. the more attention you give it, the more it perpetuates itself. find a DIVERSION. ;)
 

Angel_Of_Death

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I think that part of being a social phobic is CARING!

If we didn't care, we woudn't be afraid...

But we ALL care...we care about the way we look, we care about what others think about us, ect...

Not caring would in a way beat the social anxiety, but how do you stop caring ?
 
That's the ideal state to be in and it requires you to come to terms and accept yourself and all your issues as they are.

It's all about dropping those fear based emotions!
 

Sophie67

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Wastedpontential (I hate you calling you that :)
I replied to a post you made back in Jan. today...
Dont know if your still in the same predicament exactly
Sounds like you now have a job!!!!
Lighten up on yourself a little, some of your problem sounds like
you judge yourself too harshy, and worry to much about what others
think.
You probably never look at anyone as closely as you do yourself,
or judge them by what they look like, wear, etc? Do you?
I doubt you do, neither do I.
I suggest you look, not to judge, just to observe, and when you realize
that they are just people like you, not perfect by any means either, they are just people who dont worry so much about what others think. You will really see that you are not indifferent, and stop looking at yourself so closely so to speak. It gets easier as you get older, lol... it really does.
If only we could have a forty year old mind in a twenty year old body, that would be grand, as you'd realize the things that dont really matter, and you'd be a lot easier and accepting and non judging of yourself.
My hope is to inspire that in my children, as well as help out anyone here that is young. Dont waste those years being consumed with how you are supposed to be, just be who you are.
Not to long ago I heard this women say (referreing to something else)
"some people like pineapple, and some dont" she was talking about the people that liked her, and the people that didnt.
Its that way for all of us! Even those without hh.
Give yourself a break, and dont worry if you please everyone, or everyone likes you. Let out that personality of yours!!!!
Some people will like you, and some wont, and it will be that way all your life, so you might as well get used to it, and not worry about it.
Par for the course.
Anyhoo, I always have too... much input to just about everything lol,
but read my response to your Jan post about your Effed life.
 

WastedPotential

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I've started to wear stupid clothes that I would've been embarrassed of before, stop worrying about my hair and looks in general as much, acting like everyone else I guess.

I've been into video games my whole life, I know now it's OK to like them, but growing up I was really, really ashamed of them. The other day I bought an absolutely tacky jacket with a video game theme, something I never would have bought, and I love it.

Not caring has helped out tremendously.

Or maybe it's not 'not caring' exactly, but just...not worrying what others would think of me, and not stressing out over the smallest details of appearance, whatever.

Life has been pretty fantastic these past few weeks, at least.
 
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