Have you changed in the last year? How?
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Section_31
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My outlook has changed.
My rationale, my objective.
Ive discovered I want things in life I didn't previously want.
Now I have the painful and hard task of doing whats necessary to achieve these things.
My rationale, my objective.
Ive discovered I want things in life I didn't previously want.
Now I have the painful and hard task of doing whats necessary to achieve these things.
SamD
Member
But it'll be more than worth it, because to achieve these things, you'll have to become a more advanced version of yourself. That's the truly valuable part - not the achievement itself. Hope that makes sense!
Section_31
Well-known member
maybe so.
the problem is it involves causing a lot of hurt to another. But to avoid doing so would be to remain what I am without changing. And doing so I know not if I can achieve the goals I now desire. damned if I do and damned if I don't.
it becomes more a question of whats worse, the devil that you know? or the devil that you don't?
socialorphan
Member
I've stopped trying to change myself and am just accepting myself for who I am.
I have goals I want to accomplish, more friends/interaction isn't high on the list.
I have goals I want to accomplish, more friends/interaction isn't high on the list.
nightcrawler
Well-known member
Yes I have. Since I started taking anti-depressants about 4 months ago things have definitely improved for me. I am less anxious and a little more confident. I initiate conversations more, and have also done some social stuff (meeting my mate's family, a wedding) and just generally done things that before would have had me running for the hills. I'm nowhere near out of the woods yet, but one step at a time 
Girlfriends still elude me though
Girlfriends still elude me though 
mikebird
Banned
The world around me is undergoing more change
I react to suit the world.
To keep it short:
I was buffetted by the wind of work opportunities
Causing stress and dozens of hopeless bullying phone calls with a clear intention to be eliminated when I say a word wrong
An occasional minute's break between calls from all
That was a decade ago.
Today, I'm ignored. Persistent efforts to be noticed
I can only assume I've achieved an ultimate pinnacle status of an eager jobseeker
I react to suit the world.
To keep it short:
I was buffetted by the wind of work opportunities
Causing stress and dozens of hopeless bullying phone calls with a clear intention to be eliminated when I say a word wrong
An occasional minute's break between calls from all
That was a decade ago.
Today, I'm ignored. Persistent efforts to be noticed
I can only assume I've achieved an ultimate pinnacle status of an eager jobseeker
Yeah, I'm an introvert and still am. I can act like an extravert but at the end of the day, I'm still me. I started helping out my parents more, like doing more house chores. I'm volunteering and started creating a portfolio of works, doing what I like doing. I discovered my own interests and started on a spiritual journey. I know myself better and express myself more. It's a pretty big change from years ago when I was more materialistic, lost, and very depressed.
sahxox
Well-known member
I've gone from 4 restricted years of social phobia, started chipping away in 2011, massive progress in 2012, circumstances changed in 2013 and now I'm drifting between the two extremes on a weekly or monthly basis. It's all mental my mind keeps conjuring negative past experiences and pushing out positivity. A month ago, I was feeling like I could do anything. Now I'm full of anxiety and overall depression. Forgot how to get back up.
Richey
Well-known member
^ Congratulations!!
No not really, it's been a bad year for me, probably the worst in the last 6 years. I am seeing a therapist, educating myself on how to deal with things, but the procrastination bug has got to me it seems. lots of planning is going on, but not enough action.
But I have a new job coming up, which is nice. There are good things happening.
No not really, it's been a bad year for me, probably the worst in the last 6 years. I am seeing a therapist, educating myself on how to deal with things, but the procrastination bug has got to me it seems. lots of planning is going on, but not enough action.
But I have a new job coming up, which is nice. There are good things happening.
EscapeArtist
Well-known member
Moving helped you? Interesting, whenever I'm in a new city I feel like a brand new person, always wondered how much moving would help. Different cities also feel more comfortable, sometimes populations as a whole are less standoffish...
Last year... Oh I've gotten a lot better, last year I was mostly contained except for one unhealthy and rather demanding friend who was a horrible influence. I was getting involved in drugs and drinking a lot, the worst year ever. Cutting out that friend distinguished that. Last year was a backstep from the year before though, so I've come full circle and plus a little because I've been slowly acclimatizing myself to the idea of dating by talking to some people on a dating site. Also had a very short but yet exposing job experience that made me more accustomed to the process of applying.
Last year... Oh I've gotten a lot better, last year I was mostly contained except for one unhealthy and rather demanding friend who was a horrible influence. I was getting involved in drugs and drinking a lot, the worst year ever. Cutting out that friend distinguished that. Last year was a backstep from the year before though, so I've come full circle and plus a little because I've been slowly acclimatizing myself to the idea of dating by talking to some people on a dating site. Also had a very short but yet exposing job experience that made me more accustomed to the process of applying.
LoyalXenite
Well-known member
In the past few years i have changed a lot, i was engaged and have just been dumped, i was homeless for some time and now i have a place, i finally got into university. Emotionally i feel as though i've aged thousands of years and at the same time feel like a child again.
I think the biggest thing I did, that could indicate progress, was traveling to Nebraska by bus to visit some online friends for a week. Unfortunately I wasn't as social/relaxed as I had hoped to be but it went pretty well.
This year hasn't been as different as I wanted it to be--and hoped it would be. I think having the tripped to NE planned for months gave me some kind of fuel/high, and then after it was over I lost all of that fuel.
But the year isn't over yet.
This year hasn't been as different as I wanted it to be--and hoped it would be. I think having the tripped to NE planned for months gave me some kind of fuel/high, and then after it was over I lost all of that fuel.
But the year isn't over yet.