have nothing to say when with my friend
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toothpastekisses
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anxiousguy83
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I've always done rather good one-on-one, cause then you can relax a bit. When one-on-one people usually adjust themselves "down" to you.
Groups are just stressful.
Groups are just stressful.
Agitprop
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I prefer one-on-one as well. It's pretty weird, generally it's more difficult to talk in a group, but on the flipside, when you're in a group, you can just make little contributions here and there while other people lead the conversation, and so it seems that you're fitting in well and talking etc.
BashfulDoll
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I prefer a small group of friends I know and feel comfortable with. One on one scares me cuz I feel like i need a buffer. LOL a 3rd person so I dont have to hold the convo on my own.
grakovsky
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I hate it too. I have a freind exactly like that but I can't say anything when he is with his "cool" friends. Yeah I'm shy and stuff but when I finally grew some balls and decided to just not give a fuck and I just decided to add to the conversation, and when I said something everybody laughed. "LOLOLOL WTFBBQSAUCE Grakovsky said he likes pepsi too LOL WTF DOOD AHAHAHAHA". No it wasn't about pepsi, I just made a normal comment pertaining to our conversation and was laughed at. How bullshit is that, I finally get over myself and try to talk more and it just makes me even quieter and even more depressed.
Smokeringz
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same dude. its probaly beacuse you dont know the person and dont feel to comfortable around him/her. Just start by saying hi and reaching out your hand it all starts there.
playthepsychedelic
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BashfulDoll said:
same here
anxiousguy83
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I feel crap when I'm in a group not saying anything. I have been bullied a lot for being quiet.
pyletta
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Yeah, even in a group I feel lonely or that what I say doesn't matter. Or that I will trip over my words and not make any sense! Then I will be labeled as some babbling idiot.
I understand being along with your friend and you have nothing to say. I think it's that you are not sure what to talk about so you remain silent. People love talking about themselves, try next time with your friend to ask a question about their activities or something about their hobbies etc. Sometimes people don't talk because you don't talk. That's very awkward.
I would do all the talking and realized that it was draining! It definitely takes two to keep a conversation going. And if your friend is busy talking to others while you're in their company...what do you think the message is...oh, well you're not talking so I will find someone who will!
Yeah, even in a group I feel lonely or that what I say doesn't matter. Or that I will trip over my words and not make any sense! Then I will be labeled as some babbling idiot.
I understand being along with your friend and you have nothing to say. I think it's that you are not sure what to talk about so you remain silent. People love talking about themselves, try next time with your friend to ask a question about their activities or something about their hobbies etc. Sometimes people don't talk because you don't talk. That's very awkward.
I would do all the talking and realized that it was draining! It definitely takes two to keep a conversation going. And if your friend is busy talking to others while you're in their company...what do you think the message is...oh, well you're not talking so I will find someone who will!
Silvox Black
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Perhaps you fear speaking to your companion alone because you feel pressured to speak, yet are too nervous to do so? Also, perhaps it would be easier to make conversation if you spoke privately to someone you trust. If this friend of yours is a close personal friend, it should be easier to speak to him. If he is not a close friend, then if you are willing, try to make him a good friend of yours.
Hellhound
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If they leave you just because you are more or less funny than them, then they are not your friends. No one can expect you to always be happy and joking. Plus, maybe what they think it's funny might not be funny to you and vice versa, that doesn't mean you are boring.
If they leave you just because you are more or less funny than them, then they are not your friends. No one can expect you to always be happy and joking. Plus, maybe what they think it's funny might not be funny to you and vice versa, that doesn't mean you are boring.
goldenapple
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