Hating Your Parents

mikebird

Banned
is awkward

This came naturally to me

It took many years to discover the potent reasons

At age 4 this took place when I was sure I was far more intelligent.

This affected many areas of life. It spread to all relationships. The mistake was rooted either with the child or the parents. Perhaps this is not a one-off incident in the biological world?

I was set to ardently avoid being a parent, although it might change

There is responsibility
Any alternative minder can make a significant change for the better or worse
being sternly controlled or set free affects the individual character

It hurts to know that every person who met me would have a better life if I hadn't been born

I was desperate to get away from home :veryangry:
It made everything worse
 
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Capsaicin

Well-known member
I haven't been close to my parents in a long time. I'm not sure if I'm feeling more angry about what they put me through or more guilty about not wanting to be around them much these days. There's definitely a huge void left by not having a real relationship with my parents that I see mostly when I look at other people. I don't even notice it in myself since I grew up with it, but it's there.

I don't really think people like you would have made everyone's lives better by not being born. I think a lot of difficulty with parents can become internalized and the children can blame themselves, believing they deserve it or they're the reason for it despite only being a child.
 

sahxox

Well-known member
Great timing. I am feeling mega depressed. My Father lets my stupid cocky self righteous younger teenage brother walk all over me and if I react, they both gang up on me and label me a 'psycho' continually. Everything I do is mocked by these arseholes. I hate it. He's always calling me stupid and making passive aggressive remarks. Everything I do I feel is wrong, and his negative scrutinising voice is always in my head wherever I go and whatever I do. I am supressed; I don't know who I am anymore. He used to always be there for me, now he's turning everyone against me. He's voice is always in my mind, at work, if I'm having a crappy day it'll turn even worse because I can't do anything right. I'm surprised I remember how to breathe without thinking about it.
And my Mother is so freaking bad I'm not even going to go there.
Right now I am tense and anxious. I don't even say anything to him when he is angry; he just storms around and makes a complete show of it by slamming dishes and throwing things around the room.
I internalise this guilt and anger and feel stupid, like I've done something wrong... he blames his shittiness on me and my other siblings. It is not healthy here.
I told him I was and have been depressed today for as long as I can actually remember. He laughed and said same here. He has nothing to look forward to in life.

I've cut all ties with my Mother and it pains me so much that I'm still being treated like shit from the one person I thought I could trust. It's adding to my contempt for the human race in general and my need to avoid everyone. I dunno what to do because I know deep down I am a good person with a lot of potential. But nobody can be relied upon, he is the one person who I am truly supressed around and have 0 self esteem around. I hate it so much.
Parents are just another series of ****wits the human race is plagued with. Only problem is that you're stuck with them.
I think of dying, but that is stupid because no one will give a **** in a decades time and I unfortunately would have wasted my life for these sorry *******s.
He is the main voice in my apathetic head - I've gone, he dominates.

I ****ing hate everything.

I have no energy to give a ****. But not giving a **** and I am a complete anxious. Thanks a ****ing lot you stupid cunts of parents. There is not one person in the World who hasn't ****ed me over.
 
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mikebird

Banned
Great timing. I am feeling mega depressed. My Father lets my stupid cocky self righteous younger teenage brother walk all over me and if I react, they both gang up on me and label me a 'psycho' continually. Everything I do is mocked by these arseholes. I hate it. He's always calling me stupid and making passive aggressive remarks. Everything I do I feel is wrong, and his negative scrutinising voice is always in my head wherever I go and whatever I do. I am supressed; I don't know who I am anymore. He used to always be there for me, now he's turning everyone against me. He's voice is always in my mind, at work, if I'm having a crappy day it'll turn even worse because I can't do anything right. I'm surprised I remember how to breathe without thinking about it.
And my Mother is so freaking bad I'm not even going to go there.
Right now I am tense and anxious. I don't even say anything to him when he is angry; he just storms around and makes a complete show of it by slamming dishes and throwing things around the room.
I internalise this guilt and anger and feel stupid, like I've done something wrong... he blames his shittiness on me and my other siblings. It is not healthy here.
I told him I was and have been depressed today for as long as I can actually remember. He laughed and said same here. He has nothing to look forward to in life.

I've cut all ties with my Mother and it pains me so much that I'm still being treated like shit from the one person I thought I could trust. It's adding to my contempt for the human race in general and my need to avoid everyone. I dunno what to do because I know deep down I am a good person with a lot of potential. But nobody can be relied upon, he is the one person who I am truly supressed around and have 0 self esteem around. I hate it so much.
Parents are just another series of ****wits the human race is plagued with. Only problem is that you're stuck with them.
I think of dying, but that is stupid because no one will give a **** in a decades time and I unfortunately would have wasted my life for these sorry *******s.
He is the main voice in my apathetic head - I've gone, he dominates.

I ****ing hate everything.

I have no energy to give a ****. But not giving a **** and I am a complete anxious. Thanks a ****ing lot you stupid cunts of parents. There is not one person in the World who hasn't ****ed me over.

You're very lucky to have any sibling closer to your age to grow and live with (less then 30 years' senior) and parents who weren't 50 or retired when you were born.

I'm envious
 
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MikeyC

Well-known member
Great timing. I am feeling mega depressed. My Father lets my stupid cocky self righteous younger teenage brother walk all over me and if I react, they both gang up on me and label me a 'psycho' continually. Everything I do is mocked by these arseholes. I hate it. He's always calling me stupid and making passive aggressive remarks. Everything I do I feel is wrong, and his negative scrutinising voice is always in my head wherever I go and whatever I do. I am supressed; I don't know who I am anymore. He used to always be there for me, now he's turning everyone against me. He's voice is always in my mind, at work, if I'm having a crappy day it'll turn even worse because I can't do anything right. I'm surprised I remember how to breathe without thinking about it.
And my Mother is so freaking bad I'm not even going to go there.
Right now I am tense and anxious. I don't even say anything to him when he is angry; he just storms around and makes a complete show of it by slamming dishes and throwing things around the room.
I internalise this guilt and anger and feel stupid, like I've done something wrong... he blames his shittiness on me and my other siblings. It is not healthy here.
I told him I was and have been depressed today for as long as I can actually remember. He laughed and said same here. He has nothing to look forward to in life.

I've cut all ties with my Mother and it pains me so much that I'm still being treated like shit from the one person I thought I could trust. It's adding to my contempt for the human race in general and my need to avoid everyone. I dunno what to do because I know deep down I am a good person with a lot of potential. But nobody can be relied upon, he is the one person who I am truly supressed around and have 0 self esteem around. I hate it so much.
Parents are just another series of ****wits the human race is plagued with. Only problem is that you're stuck with them.
I think of dying, but that is stupid because no one will give a **** in a decades time and I unfortunately would have wasted my life for these sorry *******s.
He is the main voice in my apathetic head - I've gone, he dominates.

I ****ing hate everything.

I have no energy to give a ****. But not giving a **** and I am a complete anxious. Thanks a ****ing lot you stupid cunts of parents. There is not one person in the World who hasn't ****ed me over.
Sounds like you need to get the hell out of that situation, and fast. You can't keep living there if all you're going to be is scrutinised and set upon.

Also there's one word in your post that has avoided the now-abysmal swear filter. :eek:
 

sahxox

Well-known member
You're very lucky to have any sibling closer to your age to grow and live with (less then 30 years' senior) and parents who weren't 50 or retired when you were born.

I'm envious

Yes it is completely understandable to be envious of my fantastic situation.


Mmm I swear on here with the plan that the filter will block it out... but obviously failed on perhaps the worst word out. Ooops.
 

Shrimp

Member
I love my parents, I dont blame them for complaining about my non-existent social life and my lack of motivation.
They've been through allot with me, and I'm happy that they are still here to help.
 

Pacific_Loner

Pirate from the North Pole
You're very lucky to have any sibling closer to your age to grow and live with (less then 30 years' senior) and parents who weren't 50 or retired when you were born.

I'm envious

Hmmm... Would you maybe considere the possibility that the reason why your life is so miserable is not because your parents had you when they were older than the usual, but because you are so stuck on this idea?
 

Alienated

Well-known member
My parents are dead, and I miss them. They did the best they could, but they were mentally ill. And so was I.... I couldn't change them, but I changed myself. And I learned to forgive them, and now I see why they were why they were.

They... just like us... were doing the best they could.
 
hi man, all i can say is that my experience is pretty much like yours

i was totally ignored by my father since my childhood which made me feel guilty for what i'm & lowered my self-esteem, my mother was so dominating & aggressive

everything went so cold without any feeling for forever, the best movie i saw about that was Numb by Mathew Perry

i can't have friends or anyone else because i can't give what i don't have

i think they killed in me whatever could make me love & being loved from people, i can't feel that anything is real, everything is an obligation like work relations

i hate them so much as i was told before "your mother doesn't love" from many people because i'm the worst man to be known

i feel so lonely even if i'm with someone who loves me

i envy people who can trade love with others, i would give anything to be like them but simply i can't because i'm what i'm now

i now try so hard to deceive myself in order to make my day pass, try it, it's better than nothing:bigsmile::bigsmile:

good luck man & carry on
 

Steiner

Well-known member
I don't hate my parents, I like them a lot since they are kind and understanding. They keep an open mind about a lot of situations and aren't quick to judge. I can actually say I love my mom and dad.
 

NamiraWilhelm

Well-known member
I don't know that I'd want to say hate, because it has honestly evolved into indifference. My mother is an incredibly volatile, abusive, hateful person who took no responsibility for her actions and never admitted the fault was hers, so it proved impossible to have any sort of relationship.

Honestly, the hardest part about not having a relationship with my mother? Other people. They immediately assume I'm some sort of ingrate, it must be nice to live in that sort of delusional world where you believe every woman has a maternal instinct.
 
I wish death upon my father. I can be cordial with my mother but there's a lot of animosity there that she has created over the past 20 years. However, I am very loyal and loving to my grandparents, they raised me as their son and treated me as their own so I care for them as if I were their real child instead of a grandchild. They gave me a stable, loving, structured environment to call home and I'm eternally grateful.
 
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