Hardly Talk?

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Jodie-Tyler

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Hi,
I'm in my last year at school, and I hardly EVER talk.
People think I'll snap at them in they approach me. But it's just that I honestly have NOTHING to talk about.

I've completely isolated myself cos of this cos I just don't want to bother with meaningless small talk to people I don't even care about.

Unfortunately, this has made me VERY lonely and I talk to myself in my head ALL......THE.....TIME!
Which is not good cos I'm afraid that VERY soon I'll become psychotic.
 
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xxaimsxx

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Don't force yourself to talk if you have nothing to say. It's not your fault!
You just need to clique with someone and have things in common. The rest will follow.
Do you have any hobbies??
 
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mrb

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spider04 said:
You are just like me, I most of the time talk to myself
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lol my mate said to me the other day oi gary are you talking to yourself again :eek: i said no im calling you names but i dont want you to hear it cos it will only hurt your feelings :rolleyes::D
 
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Jodie-Tyler

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xxaimsxx said:
Don't force yourself to talk if you have nothing to say. It's not your fault!
You just need to clique with someone and have things in common. The rest will follow.
Do you have any hobbies??
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I do have one particularly good friends. She's just as crazy as me though. In different ways though.
She has OCD, and panic attacks when at school. She doesn't go any more, which sucks for me, cos it's left me alone.

I have 2 other friends that I hang out with, but they're both guys and I'm female so I can't really have the same friendship with them as my female friend above.
 
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Jodie-Tyler

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So glad to hear that you 'anomicdeer' and you 'spider04' are going through the same as I am.

If you don't mind me asking spider04, but what kinda things do you talk to yourself about? Are they out loud or in your head. Or both?
 
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spider04

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hmm mostly in my head, what kinda things uhm about everything I cant say something specific now, sometimes I imagine myself talking to a girl or someone else and what i would respond at certain question and what i should ask, i do this a lot... if my english was better i could answer you better :)
 
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spider04

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I live in the caribbean, people are really social here, I only talk when someone says something to me, other than that im quiet... I went to the beach with my classmates and one of them bringed his girlfriend... monday at school he told me that his gf said im a real boring guy, too serious and don't talk
 
Predacon

Predacon

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Jodie-Tyler said:
Hi,
I'm in my last year at school, and I hardly EVER talk.
People think I'll snap at them in they approach me. But it's just that I honestly have NOTHING to talk about.

I've completely isolated myself cos of this cos I just don't want to bother with meaningless small talk to people I don't even care about.

Unfortunately, this has made me VERY lonely and I talk to myself in my head ALL......THE.....TIME!
Which is not good cos I'm afraid that VERY soon I'll become psychotic.
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Man does that take me back to High School. I hated small talk too. My only suggestion is don't force conversation, just let it flow naturally I'm sure there are plenty of opportunities in class where you have to talk to others just use those as a way to communicate more.
 
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Jodie-Tyler said:
I do have one particularly good friends. She's just as crazy as me though. In different ways though.
She has OCD, and panic attacks when at school. She doesn't go any more, which sucks for me, cos it's left me alone.

I have 2 other friends that I hang out with, but they're both guys and I'm female so I can't really have the same friendship with them as my female friend above.
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But don't you have hobbies? Like interests?
That will make you talk more, because hobbies are interesting to talk about ;)
I sing alot, and people always ask me, ''So, you're still singing?''
and then you have a conversation rolling ;)
And also a TIP, first a good thing to start with,
TALK about the person you are talking with, ASK questions,
People like talking about them selfes, I figured that out.
And when it comes to yourself, just tell them what first comes up to your mind,
people with SA mostly over think before they say something, just say what comes up. Don't think too much, just do it!!!!
I know this sounds like I'm a professional-talk-active-walkytalky.
But I'm totally not, but I do get better by steps
 
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chained

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latley i've been having noting to talk about, well nto lately, almost always..and its ahrd, having out going friends :/ analyzing their every word..feelung like ur an idiot.. etc
 
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Jodie-Tyler

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Predacon said:
Man does that take me back to High School. I hated small talk too. My only suggestion is don't force conversation, just let it flow naturally I'm sure there are plenty of opportunities in class where you have to talk to others just use those as a way to communicate more.
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no, there isn't opportunities where I HAVE to talk. If I'm put into a group or pair in class, I'll talk, that's only so I don't seem insane.
But 90% of the time I'm not put in that position, therefore making me alone and silent.
 
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Jodie-Tyler

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Saskia said:
But don't you have hobbies? Like interests?
That will make you talk more, because hobbies are interesting to talk about ;)
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My hobbies are film. I'm very interested in film, and I know ALOT about them.
Unfortunately a lot of people do not. And most people my age just hang out with friends, get drunk catch up with latest gossip ect.

I don't do any of that, so seriously, I NEVER have anything to talk about cos I don't do anything.
I would talk about the films I'v seen, but no one seems to have seem them, therefore isn't interested.
 
dooby-duck

dooby-duck

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There's always the weather to talk about, every English person likes to talk about the weather:D.
I always find it more difficult talking one-on-one with people, it's a lot easier with groups because there is less pressure. I also hate it when other people come along to join in, that usually shuts me up. I used to hate being in lessons when none of my friends were there, I used to feel like a right leper. I find it difficult to initiate conversations with people.
 
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userfriendly

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My mind goes blank, and I can't think of anything to talk about.
When I do my mouth becomes glued shut, and I can't speak no matter how badly i want to.
I scream in my head just talk, say something, but I can't open my mouth.
 
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