Guys who can't get dates with women?

Jesushasomeoneforme

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Are you a guy who gets rejected most of the time if not all the time? Tell us about your experiences? I haven't had a date in over a year. No one is interested but I do love me.
 

Tiercel

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The only dates I've been able to get are ones with pits, not women. ;)

But I gave up several years ago, hence no dates with women.
 
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userremoved

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If social anxiety can ruin possible friendships, which are easy to make, it's only expected that it'll screw up your romantic life, which is challenging to most people.
 

Luke1993

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Well there was only one girl who had shown interest in me but it turns out she was joking! So there's no dates on my record so far. But at 17 I think it's still posible I can find someone, and hopefully have a few dates!
 

iamthenra

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I've wanted a girl friend since I was about 10... Never had one, I've had three dates my entire life. I am only able to use online dating sites, since I am deathly afraid of approaching strangers to get to know anyone. Some people have said that I look unnaproachable... Because of SA and extreme fear, I will probably remain single until I die. Of course this makes me very depressed just thinking about it, because I do desire a love life, and company to talk to... ::eek::
 

lonely_drummer

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I never get rejected because Im too scared to even try, well not so much scared anymore, I just kinda gave up since i havent had a date in about 4 years
 

very_shy

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The only things that are attracted to me currently, are flies and tiger mosquitos. :rolleyes:

I am 27 and have never had a girlfriend. I used to daydream about it, but these days are coming to the end. Thinking realistically, I don`t even know what I would do with a girlfriend ::eek::
 

Lionheart

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The only things that are attracted to me currently, are flies and tiger mosquitos. :rolleyes:

I am 27 and have never had a girlfriend. I used to daydream about it, but these days are coming to the end. Thinking realistically, I don`t even know what I would do with a girlfriend ::eek::

Its never to late pls dont give up:)
 

EasySkankin

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Same here... but I have not given up. I"m looking to bettering my financial situation. When I do, I'm definately gonna go hunting ;). Come on guys, don't give up... everything is possible.. trust me ( I would not lie to you :)).

I used to weight ~120 pounds out of highschool (yeah very skinny so it was rare that I got any female attention.) I was tired of being small (and my friends having to develop normally), so at 19 I started working out... It was one of the hardest things that I have ever done... so stressful and painful, (sometimes working out 3 or 4 hours..:eek:), but i managed to get to 142 pounds :). That definately changed things for me, (hell I even grew a little bit - got taller and wider). And I got a lot of female attention. I went from an ugly duckling to a... whatever. Still, I still wasn't able to secure a girlfriend... just too insecure, my problem wasn't not being attractive anymore it was my SA.

I now realize that girls are more attracted to confidence/good personalities rather than nice bodies or nice faces (though those count too but not as much). Like someone once said, "girls like cool and they like money". I'm not cool though.... and money... LOL (well maybe I could change that)... so I'm pretty much screwed :p
 

da_illest101

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I never had any date. When women approach you they expect you to seem interested of have some kind of reaction. I freeze up like a mr freeze and i act like i don't care or just give a cold reaction. yea i suck ::(:
 

very_shy

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Jumping Flea: congratulations for the first steps! :)

It seems you really must have the courage not to fear rejections. What scares me is not the rejection itself but the thoughts of what the girl will think next. E.g. she would tell this episode to her friends, maybe on Facebook... how a poor red-faced guy approached her... I need some more courage for that ;)
 
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userremoved

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I have a great deal of respect for those who can face rejection and not lose their stride. I don't know what's wrong with me that I can't do that too. But nice work Jumping Flee.
 
I liked many girls, many girls probably were also interested in me, but since social contact just doesn't happen I've never had a date.

The closest moment with a girl ended up tragically and was really a sort of nightmare, not because of her but because of how I felt: she really liked me, we got together at a night party on the beach with plenty of people. The result? I just "freezed" even if I really liked her. She obviously then thought I was quite a weirdo so eventually just left me. The next day I just couldn't talk, not even with my friends and once I was alone at the station to go back home I had the biggest cry of my life (and the last one up to now). This SA really sucks.
 

mads

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I liked many girls, many girls probably were also interested in me, but since social contact just doesn't happen I've never had a date.

The closest moment with a girl ended up tragically and was really a sort of nightmare, not because of her but because of how I felt: she really liked me, we got together at a night party on the beach with plenty of people. The result? I just "freezed" even if I really liked her. She obviously then thought I was quite a weirdo so eventually just left me. The next day I just couldn't talk, not even with my friends and once I was alone at the station to go back home I had the biggest cry of my life (and the last one up to now). This SA really sucks.

Sorry to hear that mate, but try to remember she liked you. Try if you can and I know it is hard to think about the positive in it. You got quite far and I am sure next time you will get even more far.
 

spect01

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I've never been approached or asked out, even though I'm young but still, I should be experiencing relationships by now. I don't really know for the life of me why I'm just invisible to girls or something. Like a ghost. It's just really unusually like it wasn't meant to be this way. Maybe in the future. :/ When I'm ready, I'm going to do what every other guy in my situation does....and that's do the approaching myself.
 
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