Greetings

LaLaLa

Well-known member
Does anyone else struggle with saying hi? After all this time I'm still finding it very difficult to greet people, unless they are friends or people that usually say hi to me, like those I work with daily or the person I have to report to at work. With everybody else it feels weird to greet them but then I feel rude for not doing so. When I do greet them, though, they sometimes ignore me, so I've kind of given up on greeting everybody I see, lol. It bothers me because I feel awkward especially around those ones. I try to say hi to most people when I can but I'm finding it too difficult. :kickingmyself:
 

sahxox

Well-known member
yes this is annoying me very much at the moment. I dread saying hi to people, don't wanna come off as timid, or rude, such an annoying battle. Confidence is fragile and dependent on this - if it goes well, it's all good. If not it's a bad day. Bye is even worse for me... atleast when you're arriving, people know it. When you're leaving, it feels like you're making an announcement. :/
 

laure15

Well-known member
I struggle with saying hi too. Sometimes I say hi and that person doesn't respond so I don't do it again. Other times, I say hi when I meet that person but then I see that person again later so do I say hi again? I'm not sure, but I do say hi again. Later, I learnt that I only need to do it once not twice. Sometimes I wonder if people get tired of saying hi to each other everyday. I don't get tired of saying it to my parents though.
 

Flanscho

Well-known member
Hmmm, no. At work, I just say hi and shake hands. Regarding friends, I say "hi", give a short wave, hug the close female friends and shake hands with the male friends and other female friends. Except when it's more than 8 or so people. Then I just hug the close female friends, shake hands with those that are nearby and have the rest be content with a "hi" and wave to the group.
The close friends always respond. If too many people don't respond of my friends, I say something like "yeah, thanks, I missed you too", at which people apologize and greet me. :)
 

SmartyPants

Active member
There are soooooooooooooooooooo many people where I work and I just feel really uncomfortable doing it. If you come across as so uncomfortable it can make others uncomfortable talking to you, or they just have no respect for you. Not everybody but some. I don't say hi to a lot of people where I work. It feels like a charade, if I do it one day I can't keep it up. When I go into my job I have intrusive thoughts. Without my medication I would not step in the building. Without my meds I wouldn't talk at all. I wouldnt be here. I just dont feel normal.
 
I hate greeting people. I usually respond with some mangled version of "good morning" "hello" or "how's it going?" combined in such a way as to be indecipherable in any language .

And almost 100% of the time when someone asks "What's up" I usually respond "Good". Feels great when that happens.
 

nicole1

Well-known member
Usually, yea. If there's an instance where I have to get up and greet a room full of people. I hate it... I just like to walk in a room and say nothing.
 

Diend

Well-known member
Here are three tips:
1- get into the mindset that you are not bound by any of society's rules. Go nuts doing whatever you want.

2- down a shot or two of vodka

3- dress fashionably (look nice/presentable) and look sexy (bodybuilder/swimsuit model)
 
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