nicola_maire
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ive got this thing where when people r trying to get closer to me, or tbey think we beter mates than we are, i get scared n act all of putting. i know y i do it, but anyone get that?
gettting nervous when people r wanting to befriend you?
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Scottish_Player
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I always put people off that want to be mates, for example through work i meet alot of decent people and i would love to be close mates with some of them but i always put them off for some reason i just wish i could let the barriers down and give it a try for once but i cant :roll:
black_mamba
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arlequin said:
Me too, its like I always keep something in reserve for the special people I meet. 8O Oh dear, that sounds quite sad doesn't it. :lol:
GettingThere
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The golden rule is, SP symptoms increase the more that we want to impress.
nicola_maire
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hey thx people.
i think even in my personality im quite reserved, i save the maddness for when i need it, or the 'apropiate' moment. im not sure why i hold back so much, dont get me wrong tho, ive got alot better than i was, i can actualy join in on jokes now, and properly get overly hystericaly laughing, so ive come a long way for some of those who ahve read my posts when i first came here.... jesus i was self concious. but i sapose some things we sp people dont accept is, relationships take a long time to build, i gues we see people getting on well at work, and think o y dont we get on that well, then i remember, ive only been there a month.... and the stage im at now is alot better.
as well is im from south england, out side london towns....n i live in milton keynes now, modern new city, as u lot no, peoppe form differnt area's genraly r a lil differnt, so that counts for something.
ok im blabbering now,lol.
thx again guys, nice to know, and sad i sapose that others agree
i think even in my personality im quite reserved, i save the maddness for when i need it, or the 'apropiate' moment. im not sure why i hold back so much, dont get me wrong tho, ive got alot better than i was, i can actualy join in on jokes now, and properly get overly hystericaly laughing, so ive come a long way for some of those who ahve read my posts when i first came here.... jesus i was self concious. but i sapose some things we sp people dont accept is, relationships take a long time to build, i gues we see people getting on well at work, and think o y dont we get on that well, then i remember, ive only been there a month.... and the stage im at now is alot better.
as well is im from south england, out side london towns....n i live in milton keynes now, modern new city, as u lot no, peoppe form differnt area's genraly r a lil differnt, so that counts for something.
ok im blabbering now,lol.
thx again guys, nice to know, and sad i sapose that others agree
LittleMissScareAll
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nope, cause nobody's tried to befriend me since elementary school.
lonesomeboy
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i push people away. i act arrogant and up myself a bit as a defence mechanism to prevent ppl getting close to me. I cant help it. I try to be friendly but i been hurt in the past. i promised myself never again. now iam all alone.
earth200aleg
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i also get freaked out when somone trys to befreind me i get the thought they trying to use me
sillsbs
Member
Yeah that happends to me also...especially now that I got a new job a couple of months ago...So i'm meeting new ppl. It's hard to let them in and talk to them. It's been forever it seems since i've had friends and talked to them. Its just hard to learn to be social...when as a kid I wasn't at all. I was terribly shy...my parents shy as well. So I never learned. And when I try to be...it always comes out as if I'm rude or mean and I don't intend it. I think I'm a nice person i just don't know how to act especially with men. I'm so scared about that...that I don't even try.
kiwi
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I only seem to be able to form superficial friendships, usually with people I work with. I never have deep and meaningful conversations with anyone, at best it's the joking, exchanging-banter kind of friendship. I tend to get a bit worried if I become too friendly with someone in case they start inviting me to social events (parties etc) involving their friends.
lostboi
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I have a hard time getting close to people because that's when they can hurt you. I feel like if I try to get close they will find out how vulnerable I am and take advantage of me. or when they find out what I'm really like they will just stop talking to me. It sucks! :?