friendship frustration

LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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I've been talking to this person who was in my class who I added on facebook and we've been talking back and forth for like a week. She still hasn't asked to hangout or anything and I don't feel it's my job. I've added her on facebook and initiated contact so I don't have to ask to hangout now right? It's not fair how some people can say like one funny thing and then everyone wants to hangout with that person instantly. UGH :(
 
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sorrow1

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If you have added her and initiated things then yes the pressure is probably on you to arrange a meet, The online talking thing is easy and requires no effort whatsoever though so if you want to be friends with this person just ask to hang out. Its the only way you will get the confirmation either way that your looking for. It doesn't sound like you've got much to loose if they are no longer in your class so why waste time waiting for them to make the first move.
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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sorrow1 said:
If you have added her and initiated things then yes the pressure is probably on you to arrange a meet, The online talking thing is easy and requires no effort whatsoever though so if you want to be friends with this person just ask to hang out. Its the only way you will get the confirmation either way that your looking for. It doesn't sound like you've got much to loose if they are no longer in your class so why waste time waiting for them to make the first move.
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yeah you're right thx very much
 
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Aylaa

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It's not anyone's "job" to ask. But if you want to hangout with them, you have to ask.
 
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sorrow1

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its only been a week which I wouldn't get too stressed about, She may be busy or have other people she hangs out with so shes not going to be feeling the need to ask you to hang out.
but that's not to say if you asked her she wouldn't be pleased and she may make the time to hang out with you she obviously wouldn't talk to you online in the first place if she didn't want some sort of friendship so if you want her friendship just ask.
 
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bsammy

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social status is what you are talkig about OP...a smart, witty guy will always have people wanting to hang out with them as they are generally popular..

the only way to see whats going on with her is to ask her to hang ut, see what she says..are you a uy or girl OP?if a guy i assume you want more than friendship??
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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Sry I guess I'm being dramatic with calling it someones job. I just like it when ppl come to me more since it's easier lol. If she says no it's whatever... nothing to lose. Thanks.
 
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bsammy

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LazyHermitCrab said:
Sry I guess I'm being dramatic with calling it someones job. I just like it when ppl come to me more since it's easier lol. If she says no it's whatever... nothing to lose. Thanks.
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well of course its easier if everyone came to you and asked you to do things..i would love it if it were that way but just think, if you were to start asking more people to do things, what would happen?youd prbably end up doing more things and aving more friends..

then again, i forgot this is a social phobia and avoidance pd board so much easier said than done :)
 
LazyHermitCrab

LazyHermitCrab

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bsammy said:
well of course its easier if everyone came to you and asked you to do things..i would love it if it were that way but just think, if you were to start asking more people to do things, what would happen?youd prbably end up doing more things and aving more friends..

then again, i forgot this is a social phobia and avoidance pd board so much easier said than done :)
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just realized she's on vacation so I'm going to ask her to see a movie when she comes back. it's easier to ask online and at least in a movie you don't have to talk much lol... kinda wish i was more approachable sometimes but oh well thanks :)
 
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