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So, to keep it short..We are two strangers happen to be in the same team playing an online game..
I am in a relationship & my partner also playing this game..
The feeling started when we get annoyed by some members & plan to quit the game but then decided to continue playing & getting closer with the members..
One of the guys caught my attention & we were chatting on line apps ever since..
I mean we created the account to connect with the whole members but we get closer day by day..
The thing is I have never met him, never knew his name, never heard his voice but I tend to grow fond of him..
And it is messing with my head at the same time I have this joyous feelings that are hard to explain..
We are not flirting when texting but I kept staring at my phone waiting for his text!
There is nothing serious going on but the game requires us to protect all of the members & the guy is super protective & it is hard for me to ignore his existence..
So actually I posted this thread not looking for an answer, I just need to let it out of my chest since nobody knows about this but myself..
I cannot even let my partner knows because he is one jealous dude..I know I am flirting with someone else but I know it leads nowhere..
So I am pretty sure our relationship will not be affected..
I just want to enjoy this crush / flirting moment to make me day brighter..

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I know you're not looking for some kind of answer or advice, but maybe the reason why this other person makes you feel the way you feel is because your relationship isn't doing so good?

On the other hand, even people in relationships like validation and feeling wanted. However, feeling giddy while waiting for the other person to text you is worrying. How would you feel if that were happening with your boyfriend?
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My guess would be the relationship isn't doing so good.
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I cannot even let my partner knows because he is one jealous dude..I know I am flirting with someone else but I know it leads nowhere..
So I am pretty sure our relationship will not be affected..

My guess is this is a big part of the thrill. You're doing something in secret that you know is taboo in the relationship. There's a thrill to that but if you look deeper, I think like others have stated, there's probably some kind of deficiency in the relationship that's causing you to need a thrill from elsewhere. Is your partner not attentive enough to you? That's a huge relationship killer.

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I know you're not looking for some kind of answer or advice, but maybe the reason why this other person makes you feel the way you feel is because your relationship isn't doing so good?

On the other hand, even people in relationships like validation and feeling wanted. However, feeling giddy while waiting for the other person to text you is worrying. How would you feel if that were happening with your boyfriend?
Hi, sorry for the late reply..
I totally forgot that I posted a thread in here..
My relationship is actually great, he's a great guy & clingy to the extend that sometimes I have to force him out of the house so I can have the me time, so it's not about the attention..
It is just me being a selfish bitch & I cannot control the feelings !
Yeah, I would be mad if the same thing happens to him but as long as I know it wont do harm to our relationship then I think I won't stop him..
Or am I just saying this out of quilt? I don't know..
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My guess would be the relationship isn't doing so good.
That's not it..haha
Our relationship is good, not perfect of course but it is still the best..
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My guess is this is a big part of the thrill. You're doing something in secret that you know is taboo in the relationship. There's a thrill to that but if you look deeper, I think like others have stated, there's probably some kind of deficiency in the relationship that's causing you to need a thrill from elsewhere. Is your partner not attentive enough to you? That's a huge relationship killer.
I don't think it is because of the thrill of doing a taboo..
but to tell you the truth what I felt for him is real..
I mean I get nervous for real..my heart is beating fast & makes my head feels dizzy and giddy..

My partner is attentive enough, more than enough..He is really great & not the caused for my selfish behavior..
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Hi, sorry for the late reply..
I totally forgot that I posted a thread in here..
My relationship is actually great, he's a great guy & clingy to the extend that sometimes I have to force him out of the house so I can have the me time, so it's not about the attention..
It is just me being a selfish bitch & I cannot control the feelings !
Yeah, I would be mad if the same thing happens to him but as long as I know it wont do harm to our relationship then I think I won't stop him..
Or am I just saying this out of quilt? I don't know..
Maybe you simply don't have enough emotional maturity to be in a commited relationship, or are not in a place in your life where you don't really want to be in a relationship, and want to be involved with other people.

But if you are able to reach a point where you think "okay, this is wrong and would hurt my boyfriend's feelings if he found out' and can break off all contact with the other person and tell them you're happy with your boyfriend and want him to be able to trust you, I think you can keep that relationship healthy.
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