First Kiss

student1

New member
Hi my friends,

I'm 24 and my first kiss was when I had 22. The kiss wasn't because my approach, but the girl.

The weird thing is that when she kissed me, I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO MOVE MY LIBS, i didn't know how to kiss her. I was very embarassed, I begin blushing and sweeting, get very nervous, and I tried to find the best excuse possible at that moment. I told her: "I can't do it. I have a very serious relationship with a girl and I love her very much. I don't want to hurt her". :roll:

It's the problem with SP: it makes us like children without social experience regardless of the age.

At 24, I don't know how to kiss, and I'm afraid that I'll disappoint the next girl who wants to kiss me (I don't have the courage to begin or maintain the "kissing action")

I'd like to know your "first kiss experience" and if you think you have learned how to kiss. Are you afraid of kiss a women?
 

Horatio

Well-known member
well it wasnt really a kiss but it was supposed to be

age 17 and on a theatre stage in front of the entire cast and crew of a theatrical production during a rehearsal... script said to lean in and kiss girl

when told by the director to kiss her I just blushed and admitted I didnt know how, much to the amusement of everybody present who thought it was hilarious that a 17 year old had never kissed a girl

I managed to persuade the director to rewrite that part of the script to make it a "nearly kiss"

Im 23 and thats the closest I ever have got and probably ever will get to a kiss
 

renegade

Well-known member
yetisbabe said:
I was very lucky not to have had a real problem with the opposite sex when I was younger.
This might seem really stupid but...have you ever thought of practicing on your own hand. Its what myself and my friends used to do....all those years ago.

Just a suggestion. :D

Good point there :) I'll follow it myself. Never thought of that. I know practice makes perfect, but since I can't do that with a girl I'll practice it with my hand.

Another advice is 2 watch kissing scenes in movies, not porno ones, erotic films or use google to find tips on how to learn kissing.

I never kissed a girl and I'm 20, and i'm thinking with horror about my first kiss, how can u tell a girl u never kissed someone at this age ? It will sound really stupid, so probablly i'll explain to her i'm a bad kisser. (if any of that is gonna happen...)

I came very close once but it was with my aunt and i backed away, stupid me, now I regret it :oops:
 

Skyla

Well-known member
I never kissed a girl and I'm 20, and i'm thinking with horror about my first kiss, how can u tell a girl u never kissed someone at this age ? It will sound really stupid, so probablly i'll explain to her i'm a bad kisser. (if any of that is gonna happen...)

dont tell her. so its a little white lie, so what! lol. I didnt tell the first person i kissed i had never kissed before (i was 17, im 18 now). kissing is so natural. theres no right or wrong way, it just happens. they wont even know you havent done it before.
i was quite tipsy on my first date when it happened. and i was worried that when i was sober, he wud suss, but it was exactly da same.
 

justsomebloke25

Active member
renegade said:
I came very close once but it was with my aunt and i backed away, stupid me, now I regret it :oops:

I think you should look at it as a good thing that you're not desperarate enough to make out with your aunt :lol:

It will happen for you one day. I had to wait until I was 23 for my first kiss so you've got 3 years until you're as much of a loser as me! :)

I was dead worried about how I would explain the fact that I didn't know what I was doing so I just went for it........she didn't break off and run away shouting "virgin" so it went pretty well really!
 

Angie_05

Well-known member
I had my first kiss a very long time ago and I was so scared. I just followed what he did and I caught onto how to do it within seconds. It's not that difficult. There isn't a real way to kiss.

I've had MANY kisses since then and each first kiss with a new guy is like my very first kiss. Every person kisses different and if you go a long time without it, you will kinda forget. That means the other person has probably forgotten too.

Allow yourself to be nervous over it. That's all the fun of it; its exciting. Kissing would be so boring if I thought I knew exactly how it was going to go.
 

maggie

Well-known member
hi Student1....i don't know about everyone else..but, for me..i would rather be with a man who was inexperienced...and willing to learn with me....than to be with someone who slept with every woman who was in his path of possibility....no matter what age...and as far as the kissing thing goes..it's whatever feels nice :wink:
 

student1

New member
hi Student1....i don't know about everyone else..but, for me..i would rather be with a man who was inexperienced...and willing to learn with me....than to be with someone who slept with every woman who was in his path of possibility....no matter what age...and as far as the kissing thing goes..it's whatever feels nice

Yeah, it would be great most girls think like you. But most girl would expect her boyfriend knows the "basics" of a kiss.

Most girls don't want an inexperienced and insecure guy. I've working on my self esteem and own security, but my inexperience with girls is a great problem to me, specially when I get older.
 

4myself

Well-known member
Awww, this is such a sweet subject! :wink: Seriously, if a girl really likes you then shes not going to care too much, anyway most first kisses are pretty awkward, as its been pointed out everyone kisses differently so it takes a bit of time to get to find whats comfortable for you and your partner. Anyway, if a girls going to laugh at you, do you really want to date her?. Heres to lots of sweet kisses and romantic times!.
 

Too_Shy

New member
Student1, I know exactly how you feel.

LIke you I am 24 and I didn't have my first kiss until I was 21. I suppose its an event that most poeple would look back on with fondness however usually when I think about it I get somewhat depressed.

It all transpired one night at a pub after a girl that approached my friend and I and started to have a converstaion with us. She was sitting next to me and after a while she began to rub my leg with her foot and she also touched my hands on several occasions. I ever so slowly began to realise that she was interested in me but due to my social anxiety problem I was too scared to flirt back.

After a while my friend went to the toilet and while he was gone the girl looked at me for a moment then lent over and kissed me (which was good because there was no way that I could have made such a move). Unfortunately, at this stage my hands were shaking and I really wasn't sure what sort of movements I should be making with my tongue. She commented on the fact that my hands were shaking but I simply denied it and changed the subject.

We kissed each other for a little while longer, or rather she kissed me, and we then exchanged phone numbers. She asked me whether I wanted to go back to her place for the evening however I lied by claiming that I was too drunk and needed some sleep. During the following week she called me and we spoke for a while but unfortuntely my social anxiety problem affected me even while I was on the phone. Unfortunately, I couldn't really think of anything to say to her.

After that phone call I simply didn't answer her calls. I think the main reason that I chose not to answer her calls was that if I ended up in a relationship with her she would find out that I am overly shy and terribly inxperienced. So when I reflect on my first kiss it only makes me sad as it reminds me of a lost opportunity and solidifies my anxiety. And sadly the more time that passes the more anxious I feel.
 

geyser

Member
I'm 23, and I've never kissed a girl. Never been a date, or even had a close friendship with a girl for that matter.
 

Fredscars

Well-known member
I've recently started going out with this new guy, and we're both really shy.
Hes 17 going on 18 and i'm his first gf, so i was also his first kiss..
he didnt really know what to do..but it doesnt matter..you lean with time
Each new person you get with is differnt and its like leanring all over again. thats the fun of it all.
 

the_recluse

Active member
Well my first kiss was when i was 16 at a gig, where i was drunk and sort of pressured into doing it, as this other guy was drunk and flinged himself at me. Erm....with my first boyfriend i was his first kiss too. I mean you have to feel fairly comfortable with the person i think or okay with them so it will make it all the more better. Also its sort of nice to learn with someone. I just thing its nice that you all havent just rushed into something, it shows you respect yourself enough to not just jump in. Im sure you will all find someone, i mean there are people that are willing to understand.
 

renegade

Well-known member
Got my first kiss at xmass eve 2005 :D I mean a lot of kisses.....and many more at new years eve...i know how to kiss now...one step forward :wink:
 

MarCPatt

Well-known member
I had my first kiss when I was 19, with my hubby, I was also his first. We both were nervous, the very first time, but we got better and better with practice. :wink:
 
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