feeling small

alex29

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sometimes I feel really out of place in public. I'll approach someone or be approached by someone and I have trouble looking them in the face. I feel like I shrink in size, age, and importance, like they're the dominant ones.

they don't need to be unkind or threatening for me to feel this way. it can be anyone from a peer I'm talking to at school to a waitress at a restaurant. usually if the person is more confident than I am or is really good looking i'll shy away from them.

does anyone else get like this?
 

Danfalc22

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alex29 said:
sometimes I feel really out of place in public. I'll approach someone or be approached by someone and I have trouble looking them in the face. I feel like I shrink in size, age, and importance, like they're the dominant ones.

they don't need to be unkind or threatening for me to feel this way. it can be anyone from a peer I'm talking to at school to a waitress at a restaurant. usually if the person is more confident than I am or is really good looking i'll shy away from them.

does anyone else get like this?

Yeah 8O and gawd its orrible isnt it.But i think you will find most people with sp have simlar feelings i defiantley do.. it doest help i am a short arse to start with hehe.But yeah i feel ded small.. like inside.. and just cant be assertive.(its worth looking at cbt techniques.. and other therapies people have psoted about like acceptance therapy if you dont already know about em)
 

Foxglove

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I feel small AND ugly. At home, when I look at myself in the mirror, I think I don't look half bad. But when I get out somewhere, especially someplace like a shopping mall where all the women are dressed up like they're in a fashion show or something, I feel like a loathesome troll. I feel like people, if they notice me at all, are smirking at me and thinking "look at that fat, ugly bitch". Episodes like that make me come home and cry for an hour or so, and feel like going up to the attic with a stout rope.
 

alex29

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Foxglove said:
I feel small AND ugly. At home, when I look at myself in the mirror, I think I don't look half bad. But when I get out somewhere, especially someplace like a shopping mall where all the women are dressed up like they're in a fashion show or something, I feel like a loathesome troll. I feel like people, if they notice me at all, are smirking at me and thinking "look at that fat, ugly bitch". Episodes like that make me come home and cry for an hour or so, and feel like going up to the attic with a stout rope.

I'm the same with the mirror! at home I have all this confidence in myself, and then as soon as I step outside and see everyone seems to know what they're doing much better I feel like I have to run back inside.
 

shon

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Foxglove said:
I feel small AND ugly. At home, when I look at myself in the mirror, I think I don't look half bad. But when I get out somewhere, especially someplace like a shopping mall where all the women are dressed up like they're in a fashion show or something, I feel like a loathesome troll. I feel like people, if they notice me at all, are smirking at me and thinking "look at that fat, ugly bitch". Episodes like that make me come home and cry for an hour or so, and feel like going up to the attic with a stout rope.

That's how I feel. Even when it doesn't come to how I look. When I see an elderly lady and she looks at me, I'll think "she's nicer then me and she can see that I'm not good". I smile in my usual scaredy cat way wanting approval that I will never get :?
 

EveM

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Yeah, it's hard but you just have to remind yourself that they're no 'better' than you. Sometimes when I'm talking to someone, if I feel really small I manage to convince myself that I don't care what they think of me and that allows me to become less shy, but it is hard!
 

shynobody

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alex29 said:
I'll approach someone or be approached by someone and I have trouble looking them in the face.
i usually dont make eye contact while i'm saying something...i look elsewhere so i can think of what i'm trying to say. i mean who makes eye contact through a whole convo??...it would creep me out! i do usually look at the person while they are talking so i look interested. when i'm out in public...i just mind my own business so i wont have to talk to anyone. :?
 

w*n*c*a*m

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i also have that same feeling especially when I see that they look more intelligent, pretty or confident... I tried not to mind it but it's so hard, when I have to talk to them I still try to have an eye contact but I always feel uncomfortable so I just make the conversation faster as possible
 
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