Famous

Everytime when I imagine myself in a fantasy kind of situation, like daydreaming, or when I imagine myself being really good at one of the instruments I play, I realize that I usually am imagining myself to be the best, like it's a competition. I enjoy the flute, but if I imagine myself being good, it's like I only want to be good to be famous or better than others. I wish I could do things just because I like to, but it seems like I always want to be the best. This might have to do with the fact that people used to ignore me at school and I might have wished to be famous so they would acknowledge me. Does anyone have any ideas on this, to be able to let go to these silly fantasies of wanting to be famous just to be well liked? Does anyone else share these kinds of fantasies?

do they bother you? i mean, we all have silly fantasies, and just because you are daydreaming about something that you may not agree with, support, really want, whatever - doesn't mean it's bad to think it or that it's your real intentions.

i find peace in my daydreams, i do it alot, i'm such a day dreamer. are you worried that you're just getting your hopes up? i'm not sure i understand why you don't like them, they should be a place of comfort.

Well the nature of fantasies is to imagine yourself as better than you currently are (it wouldn't be a very good fantasy otherwise :lol: ). Dreaming that you are better at something than everyone else is quite common, everyone has something they are good at (or wish they were good at) and comparing your abilities to that of others is an easy way to measure your skill. So dreaming that you are not just great at playing the flute but famous for it could just mean that you want to improve your skill or that you would like to be recognized for it but not necessarily the best. Also like Cilling_Echo said just beacuse you daydream somthing does't mean it's what you want to happen and it could be nothing but a fantasy.

I think it's best not to over analize things like this, daydreams can mean a lot of things or absolutly nothing, I would like to know why it bothers you so much though.

well I can make lists miles long. of all the things i day dream about. From being famous, to being popular. to having a lot of friends. But as long as these dreams don't prevent you from living your daily life, no more than sa, anyways. you'll be ok..

The reason this upsets me is because I feel like the only reason I am doing things (flute, sports, etc.) is to get attention, not just for the enjoyment out of it.

I want to be famous too...for my acting & writing. Always have daydreamed about being famous.

I used to have big elaborate fantasies about being the first female formula 1 race driver to compete and win etc etc. I feel pretty stupid looking back on it, but I can't say it wasn't fun pretending.

I love to play the guitar, but have never had the nerve to join a band. When i listen to music - especially on headphones - I imagine myself on stage in a kick-ass rock band. But the strange thing is, I never imagine myself playing in any of the major venues around the world - but in my local pub!

The crowd consists mainly of family and aquaintances, or the the attractive woman I see on the train when coming home from work, or any number of people I may have crossed paths with in my life - regardless of how fleeting. Basically people I would like to impress. But there are never any Famous movie stars or rock stars in my fantasy. it's like, if I allowed that, it would somehow make the fantasy too unrealistic. I guess I'm trying to make my fantasy more achievable. Does this make sense? Or am I waffling?

refined_rascal said:

When i listen to music - especially on headphones - I imagine myself on stage in a kick-ass rock band.

The crowd consists mainly of family and aquaintances, ... Basically people I would like to impress.

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I do the exact same. *high five* 8)

Currently featuring in my head is a scene where I play drums in a rock band that just so happens to be doing a gig at the uni bar where all my classmates hang out. :wink: