Family acting odd towards me?

cowboyup

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My family has been acting strange around me. OK....I get that I've been living here for quite a few years, but I have saved them money by watching the kids and cooking, cleaning, etc., I clean up after myself, I don't eat much...so a couple months back my sister asked our dad if he could help her out financially. He said no because he had found out credit fraud on his report (he lives in another state but it all pointed to where I live) My brother, being the ever so living cop that he is grilled me - "did anything come in the mail" "are you sure"

You get the point.

There has been nothing coming to this address in my dad's name, or anything...I don't know what's what. I told my brother to have them file police report in that case because I honestly don't know how or what could have happened.

My brother didn't want to talk about it because 'it made him angry'....I dropped it.

Well, I am looking for part time work and got a couple bites, and a credit report and background check came back on me stating I have about 6,000 dollars in credit card debt and live in Illinois. OK, I do not live in that state nor have I taken out any credit cards. So, I will be filing police report myself...
(and brother and SIL know this)

Here's the kicker, ever since all this stuff happened, my (ex) SIL and brother have been silent towards me....not speaking to me unless they absolutely have to. I feel they suspect me - but in all honesty, I DID NOT. As a matter of fact, my credit has been blown to pieces and NOT BY ME.

They go places with the kids without even asking if I'd like to go, (usually they'd at least ask me) and I am spending Thanksgiving alone because I've not been invited - SIL made other plans, as has my brother.

So, I am making a conscious effort to be happy and cheerful and all that stuff just to get them to say HI to me. I even told them that I am looking for work and as soon as I get work, my brother won't have to pay me 200 dollars a month for watching the kids, and I will give over all my paycheck minus money for gas for my car and my car insurance payment - they can have the rest. SIL said, "OK, sounds good."

So where do I go from here if nobody even wants to talk about it or to me?

What's a smart way to handle this issue that is making me feel very uncomfortable?

I'd leave but they would then have to shell out at least 1000 dollars compared to 200 dollars a month, not to mention a housekeeper, etc. But when I want to do the "let's talk this out" thing, everyone goes silent. If they want me to move, I will...just communicate with me please and I will be gone!!

Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate :)
 
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