Failing or never trying?

This is a hard one for me. I hate failing, but I equally hate not trying. I think it's like love. When your heart gets broken you'd be happy if you'd never met the person. I'd rather never know of certain opportunities than try and fail or ignore them.
 

ScaredToBreathe

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in my opinion, never trying is much worse than failing. if you never try to do something, you'll never have the chance to accomplish it. but if you do try it, even if you fail, you still have a chance to be successful.

failure is not nescessarily a bad thing; it shows us our mistakes and tells us that we need to strive to do better. never trying, however, is a lack of ambition or self-confidence which has no benefit. when you don't try something, you never have the potential to be successful at it, but if you do try, no matter how many times you fail, you still have the potential to succeed.
 

WeirdyMcGee

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never failing to try?
never trying to fail?
flailing my arms around above my head?

haha- I don't know!
I suppose it depends on the situation.
 

MrJones

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If you fail at least you know you tried, you can learn something and try to do it better the next time you try.
If you don't try you have nothing. Never.
 

R3X

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From what I've experienced in the past,NEVER trying is the worse.At least when you failed,you know the answer but if you didn't try at all?You'll just keep guessing back and forth "what if.....?" and regret about it later on if it was a good opportunity.
 

Mokkat

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For general wise and logical answer: Trying and failing is always better, because learning, regrets, etc.

For living with one-self, with AVPD and SA, without being crippled by inferiority complexes and depression: Never trying and ignoring stuff, and sticking to the few things you can do, works
 

Deus_Ex_Lemur

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Never trying is the only failure, I thought.

Yes! I know many of us have gotten to an avoidance habit because not trying is short-term easier than trying and failing.

But we only GROW when we fail. We learn that way. There is NO ONE who's become "great" without many failures along the way. Failures are not to be feared really. They suck - hurt - it's how you deal with them that's the difference.

But with SA and AvPD it's certainly tougher.
 
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