expressing your opinions

alex29

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usually I dont share my opinions with people, especially large groups, not b/c I don't have them, but b/c I dont articulate myself well.

in my head I know exactly what I want to say about something, I feel mad when things I disagree with are being said and people are agreeing without hearing the other side (my) side, but I stay quiet!

if I could put what I think into words it would be so much easier :(
 

ripewithdecay

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I know what you mean. It's on the rare chance you don't over-analyze something you still just can't speak up and say it.
 

xSleepy

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im exactly the same way. and i think its hard for me to express my opinion because i dont think people will care what i have to say so whats the point in saying it?
but also i am HORRIBLE at explaining things. If i was asked what I had for breakfast i would say something like..... i had that one thing, you know you put it in a bowl and you add milk and stuff.....OH, its called cereal.....

but its even harder for me to express my opinion when i wanna say something really important. its really frustrating
 

ripewithdecay

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It's even worse when you start explaining something but give up midway, and then someone usually insists that you finish what you were saying but you just want to get the attention off of you so you're like "Nah, forget about it!".

So embarassing...!
 

AsHLeY

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Yeah, I know exactly how ya feel!

Did anybody else have to do those stupid debates on random topics in highschool? Those were the worst because it was infront of the whole class & you would fail if ya refused. That shit should be illegal!

I remember I was sooo nervous trying to explain my point of view ~ feeling like everyone was staring at me & picking apart everything I was saying.
The odd time that we would be allowed cuecards, I would read them so fast and my hands would be so shaky that I'd lose my place...then there was that horrible silence for what seemed like forever! I could even hear myself swallow & my heartbeat! Sometimes my eyes would start going blurry too.
The worst part is that through all the anxiety, even if you know you're 100% right and there's no way that anyone in their right mind could possibly disagree with what you're saying, you're still afraid that you're being criticised!!
 

alex29

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AsHLeY said:
The worst part is that through all the anxiety, even if you know you're 100% right and there's no way that anyone in their right mind could possibly disagree with what you're saying, you're still afraid that you're being criticised!!

yes! I always worry that Im wrong somehow even when I know Im 100% right
 

Infected_Malignity

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the more you think about and analyze fear, the worse you make it. when i can just speak my mind with no hesitation or even thinking about what i'm about to say, the more clear i become even in the most tense of situations. even if it sounds funny, i kind of dumb myself down in scary situations. instead of being analytical, i just don't think about anything. or if that doesn't work, just divert your attention. you'll be pretty surprised at how bold you can become if you harness the power of learning to let things go.
 

zlench

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I just remain quiet because what I will say will just come out wrong to what I want to say.
 

AlinaGirl

Member
alex29 said:
usually I dont share my opinions with people, especially large groups, not b/c I don't have them, but b/c I dont articulate myself well.

in my head I know exactly what I want to say about something, I feel mad when things I disagree with are being said and people are agreeing without hearing the other side (my) side, but I stay quiet!

if I could put what I think into words it would be so much easier :(


I'm not a fan of large groups, either. My problem is, I'll want to say something, but I don't have time to plan it out well enough first. So when I actually say it, I'll say the wrong words, or get tongue-tied. Or everyone else will just talk over me accidentally, because I won't speak loudly enough. It drives me crazy.

The funny thing is, I have no problem giving speeches or participating in a debate, as long as I have planned out what I'm going to say. I think I have an issue with thinking quickly enough to get out what I want to say in a fast-paced conversation. Because you know how fast conversations can move, especially in groups. I feel like I can't think of things to say fast enough; that I can't articulate well. And because of this, I'm afraid that people must think that I don't have an opinion.
 

EveM

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yeah sometimes I find it hard to put what I want to say in words but then again sometimes it's easier.
 
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I agree so much. The same thing happens to me. I know that my opinion would be better than the other people or something but i rathe be quiet. I analyze it too much and then when i speak... i come out sounding stupid. I just listen and be like damn i wish i could say mines because is pretty good but then again, i can't do it.
 

eR1k

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Depressed4life said:
I agree so much. The same thing happens to me. I know that my opinion would be better than the other people or something but i rathe be quiet. I analyze it too much and then when i speak... i come out sounding stupid. I just listen and be like damn i wish i could say mines because is pretty good but then again, i can't do it.
It's not about who's opinion is the better one, you don't have to be right all the time. From your own personal point of view your opinion might always be superior to others, because you might have different beliefs than them. Keep an open mind, learn from others and you will be more happy.

You don't have to say the perfect thing if you want to express your opinion, there's no need to outsmart anyone. This is pure self destructing pressure you put on yourself, too high of a standard which is impossible to achieve, just say what's on your mind. The act of saying what's on your mind shows your vibrancy and willingness to participate in conversation, because you care.
 

Generical

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Yep, was always the quiet one that needed to participate more in class discussions etc. At the beginning i couldn't say a word ever, saying yes to the register was bad enough (woot croaky quiet voice) anyways the weird thing was when i improved a bit i could shout out jokes or stupid stuff even though it would be embarrasing, i guess i acted like a dumbass as peeps would know i am kidding so there was kinda no judgement.....i think i act like that so there are no expectations, no responsibility....i can't disappoint.

I think the one of the worst things was when they went around the class asking questions so you knew it was coming eventually.....that was harsh. I would pretty much panic and obsess over what other people said so i couldn't come up with anything new. Then when the time came it would be "Urm.....i dunno" and the teacher would try to help but i would lose focus forget what they say, forget what the question was even about.......lol you get the point. I think i would prefer just to write down what i think and just give it to the teacher but then avoiding it would be bad too......hmmm dunno lol anyways im done.
 
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