madeup
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Let's just %#$@ around for just a second and make a generalization.
Everyone with social anxiety is choosing to be anxious in order to play the victim.
So the game is to answer this question.
If it were true that everyone here was choosing to be anxious despite the fact that they hated it, how could that come about?
I have an idea... What if...
Everyone here had some type of problem with where they perceived themselves to be on some social hierarchy. Maybe at school, at home, with friends, or at work... Somewhere, they felt dissatisfied with their position among their peers. It doesn't matter whether they felt they were at the bottom of it or just not at the top... they just share a dissatisfaction with where they think they stack up.
Assuming that was true, and its true for a LOT of people... everyone whose not a king has probably felt it at some time and the kings themselves have probably felt it before.... but anyways, assuming that was true, what if people with social anxiety were stirring up this anxiety in order to have something to blame for not being at the top?
Like our ego wants to believe that we are special and unique and secretly the best no matter what and when we aren't perceived that way by others we create excuses.
But why would anyone ever choose anxiety... Well think about it... Anxiety is a feeling, it comes and goes, it's not permanent.
Compare saying these two things to your peers:
1. "I'm not the leader because I suffer from social anxiety."
2. "I'm not the leader because I'm too ugly."
You could replace ugly with stupid or short or any other more permanent condition.
I think that what could be happening is that people have a gimmick that they play in order to avoid people seeing them as having a serious, permanent disadvantage in terms of being electable to the top of the social hierarchy.
The general idea is "if it wasn't for this damn anxiety, then I'd be at the top and I'd have everything I ever wanted..."
Not only does it create an excuse to give to others, it gives us the ability to disillusion ourselves into thinking that we can solve all problems by solving one problem... social anxiety
If you think hard about it, it's really not difficult to solve at all.
It's just doing two things.
1. Being around people
2. Feeling calm
You can damn well do those things separately so why not together?
Think about what would happen if you were calm around people. What would change?
Personally I have a hard time making friends and I used to think that it was my social anxiety that caused this but I haven't had social anxiety for a few years now since recovering and this problem is still around.
I'm just now turning it around but it's taking a lot of work... It has taken me a long time of blaming everything under the sun before I finally took responsibility for it and now I'm finally making progress.
What do you think?
Everyone with social anxiety is choosing to be anxious in order to play the victim.
So the game is to answer this question.
If it were true that everyone here was choosing to be anxious despite the fact that they hated it, how could that come about?
I have an idea... What if...
Everyone here had some type of problem with where they perceived themselves to be on some social hierarchy. Maybe at school, at home, with friends, or at work... Somewhere, they felt dissatisfied with their position among their peers. It doesn't matter whether they felt they were at the bottom of it or just not at the top... they just share a dissatisfaction with where they think they stack up.
Assuming that was true, and its true for a LOT of people... everyone whose not a king has probably felt it at some time and the kings themselves have probably felt it before.... but anyways, assuming that was true, what if people with social anxiety were stirring up this anxiety in order to have something to blame for not being at the top?
Like our ego wants to believe that we are special and unique and secretly the best no matter what and when we aren't perceived that way by others we create excuses.
But why would anyone ever choose anxiety... Well think about it... Anxiety is a feeling, it comes and goes, it's not permanent.
Compare saying these two things to your peers:
1. "I'm not the leader because I suffer from social anxiety."
2. "I'm not the leader because I'm too ugly."
You could replace ugly with stupid or short or any other more permanent condition.
I think that what could be happening is that people have a gimmick that they play in order to avoid people seeing them as having a serious, permanent disadvantage in terms of being electable to the top of the social hierarchy.
The general idea is "if it wasn't for this damn anxiety, then I'd be at the top and I'd have everything I ever wanted..."
Not only does it create an excuse to give to others, it gives us the ability to disillusion ourselves into thinking that we can solve all problems by solving one problem... social anxiety
If you think hard about it, it's really not difficult to solve at all.
It's just doing two things.
1. Being around people
2. Feeling calm
You can damn well do those things separately so why not together?
Think about what would happen if you were calm around people. What would change?
Personally I have a hard time making friends and I used to think that it was my social anxiety that caused this but I haven't had social anxiety for a few years now since recovering and this problem is still around.
I'm just now turning it around but it's taking a lot of work... It has taken me a long time of blaming everything under the sun before I finally took responsibility for it and now I'm finally making progress.
What do you think?