Ever been in a long-distance relationship?

miss_amy

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Not relationship as such..but my one and only friend lives 3000 miles away.

Just have to chat a lot on msn, spend a long time on the phone and spend a fortune on plane tickets and have as much fun as we possibly can when we do manage to see each other.
 

FlirtyandDirty

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I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly three years and it is unlikely that we will be together for another year. Although we are hoping he will be able to come to the UK in a few weeks. But that depends on his job. He is 4,000 miles away.

We were friends fro a year first, but I fell in love with him and thankfully he felt the same way. We talked in the beginning about what we expected of each other and having an open relationship was quickly dismissed as neither of us felt that was right.

We were not expecting to be apart for this long, and it has tested us. However, we feel that because we are good at communicating with each other that we have half the battle won. We know everything that there is to know about each other, Serge says he even know what my silences mean and he can tell what the different tones to my voice mean. There is definitely a physical attraction. The man makes me feel things I never thought possible. But there is a meeting of minds and hearts before anything else. So if for some reason we could not be physical, we would have a lot of love to put in its place.

It is extremely lonely, and I miss him, even though I have never been with him. But I have so much to look forward to and do not regret waiting this long.
 

afrodelicious

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Re: Even been in a long-distance relationship?

i hear ya honey all i sayin is somewhere else you tellin everbody how your man be shy and does everything you wants him to in life and wit women and my opinion thats not a real man but a wimp and so its a man you cravin deep down and that what this all about any way..

yall are more concerned with yourself and gettin yalls needs met than respecting ya boy and if ya'll thinking any good come from this LDR when he tellin you how he feels already. you playing both sides of the fence on this one and i respect yalls honesty but y cant eat your cake and count on gettin the frosting too havin it all one way.

yall have a choice, get your play on with who you wit or hold out for ya man but ya cant have it both ways is all im sayin unless the man you plan on marryin feels ok wit yall havin a side dish.

whispering_screams said:
I suggested already that we should have an open relationship. If he sees other girls but doesn't have sex with them, it's completely fine with me. Even if he does have sex, as long as he does it safely, I'm okay with it as long as he is open and honest with me about it. I don't know how long we are going to be away from each other at this point.

Don't assume things just because you fail to understand me. What I'm looking for isn't sexual pleasure and I've stated that already. I have that taken care of myself. What I want is platonic but meaningful love. And genuine human contact. In short, I need to be loved, with attraction involved but WITHOUT sexual gratification.
I couldn't care less if you get what I mean or not.

I've had anxiety problems for 5 yrs and I've been doing so much better now that I'm on my own. I feel free for the first time in my adult life and I don't want to hold myself back from going after things I want. I'm sick and tired of being guilt ridden. If my bf wants to leave me, he can. I already gave him that option. I'll never love anyone else as much as I do him and there's no one else I rather spend my life with. But I'm no madame butterfly and I'm not asking HIM to be either. It could be year(s) before we even see each other again. I'm sick of feeling restricted and tied down. He's not here to take care of me and I'm not there to take care of him. If we are destined to be together which I believe we are, it'll bring us back together no matter what. There's nothing I want more then for him to date other girls and realize I'm still the one he wants to be with in the end.
 

whispering_screams

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Re: Even been in a long-distance relationship?

My bf is the furthest thing from a wimp.

If I wanted to just have my cake and eat it, I wouldn't have been torturing myself for the past weeks and I wouldn't have told my bf about it either. I would just have went ahead and do whatever I wanted to do. There wouldn't be any way for my bf to find out about it either. But that's not the route I want to go. The guilt of having feelings for someone else was killing me inside. I love my bf very much.
 

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FlirtyandDirty

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FlirtyandDirty said:
I have been in a long distance relationship for nearly three years and it is unlikely that we will be together for another year. Although we are hoping he will be able to come to the UK in a few weeks. But that depends on his job. He is 4,000 miles away.

We were friends fro a year first, but I fell in love with him and thankfully he felt the same way. We talked in the beginning about what we expected of each other and having an open relationship was quickly dismissed as neither of us felt that was right.

We were not expecting to be apart for this long, and it has tested us. However, we feel that because we are good at communicating with each other that we have half the battle won. We know everything that there is to know about each other, Serge says he even know what my silences mean and he can tell what the different tones to my voice mean. There is definitely a physical attraction. The man makes me feel things I never thought possible. But there is a meeting of minds and hearts before anything else. So if for some reason we could not be physical, we would have a lot of love to put in its place.

It is extremely lonely, and I miss him, even though I have never been with him. But I have so much to look forward to and do not regret waiting this long.

I had to bring this up to date.

I finally met the man of my dreams and I was not disappointed.

We met on another SA board in the pen pals section, here is the link: http://bb.bbboy.net/sauk-viewthread?forum=12&thread=337

Serge replied to this and we began chatting. At first we did not speak too much, however, before long speaking to each other became an important part of each others day and we became firm friends. As I said in the original post, it became obvious how I felt about him and thankfully he felt the same.

So now here we are. We have spent the 11 days together and will be together until next week. Unfortunately, I got the flu, this coupled with being on crutches after having surgery the beginning of December meant that Serge has had to look after me, and a damned good job he has done too.

We still have a way to go yet. Serge has to work in another country for a while, maybe a year, but then we will be together and marry.

I just needed to say what had happened, and also that oftentimes the love we crave is not as far from us as we would think. We just need to take a deep breath and take a chance. I ma glad that I did, and I hope that some of you can too.



Take care,



Billie xxx




 

miss_amy

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:)

Congrats. Its nice to hear happy stories here once in a while. Hope you continue to be happy together.
 
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