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Old 10-25-2009
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Ever since I've started "dating" or rather, getting into serious relationships, they simply crash & burn not even a few months afterwards. When I was 16, my first boyfriend constantly kept telling me that I don't care about him, that I never want to see him, that I never do anything that shows how I feel about him. That was then. I'm 19 now, and just recently, I was almost in a serious relationship..which lasted a totaly of 3 weeks. The guy was head over heels for me, even other people could see it, yet they couldn't believe it, especially since he has a reputation for being the Casanova in our group of friends. He completely changed, began to want to see me constantly, and then he began telling me that I was abrasive, that every time he wanted to kiss me, I would give off a disgusted body language, which he called me being "abrasive" towards him. Once again, just like my first boyfriend, this guy was asking me if I even actually like him. (I did, er, do. Very much.) He would tell me how I would never actually tell him I like him, which was true, but that I wouldn't even show it. I live about 40 minutes away from him, and I'd drive all the way, whether I was sick, tired, had a bad day, didn't matter, just to see him. But that wasn't enough for him. Another problem we had was that I didn't want to publicize our relationship to our mutual friends, because I knew that all the rumors and gossip would eventually break us apart. We go to the same university with all our mutual friends, so whenever we would be on campus, I wouldn't hold hands, kiss him, barely even hug him. In fact, I can, although this is very difficult for me, admit that I was actually uncomfortable kissing him. Even though I liked him! When he told me that he couldn't deal with this emotional abuse from me anymore, he asked me to change his mind and prove him wrong. And I just sat there and stared blankly into space, even though in my head I was screaming. But I couldn't say anything to him, since I couldn't even describe to him how I feel. I don't know what's wrong with me, I've actually began to research this issue, and I think I may have SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder), or simply emotional/intimacy issues. Can someone PLEASE help me? I'm ruining my own life!!
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Girl you are not alone! I just posted a thread similar to this. I just started dating this guy, and even though I like him whenever I'm with him I have this strong urge to get away from him! Its really bothersome because I don't know why I'm feeling this way either. My first boyfriend broke up with me for the same reasons as yours did, because I was so uncomfortable with making out, holding hands, etc. I just always felt really self concious and anxious which he mistaked for me not being into him anymore. I wish I could help you, but unfortunately I am in the same boat as you are
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Girl you are not alone! I just posted a thread similar to this. I just started dating this guy, and even though I like him whenever I'm with him I have this strong urge to get away from him! Its really bothersome because I don't know why I'm feeling this way either. My first boyfriend broke up with me for the same reasons as yours did, because I was so uncomfortable with making out, holding hands, etc. I just always felt really self concious and anxious which he mistaked for me not being into him anymore. I wish I could help you, but unfortunately I am in the same boat as you are
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I thought I was just a defect or something..you have absolutely no idea how good it feels to know that I'm not the only one. This has been so incredibly hard for me, since I actually truly like this guy, but whenever I'm with him, I completely shut down. I am so uncomfortable around him & I get so mad at myself for it. He even told me that he wants someone he can hold hands with, someone to cuddle with, & in my mind, I would ADORE that..but when I'm around him and he wants to cuddle or simple hold hands, I pull away. We were only together for a little bit, but then he basically told me that he wants to be with me, but he can't because I don't want him as much as he wants me, which isn't even close! If your bf accepts you for who you are, you have no idea how lucky you are..because my guy simply couldn't handle it.
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