Does this make me a ****

Well this is a question about a situation I'm in, inside the dating world.

Well about 2 weeks ago I went on a date with a girl. It went well and I had a good time. Only thing was I didn't feel a spark or butterflies in my stomach. Me and that girl have not spoken to each other for a week despite me messaging her although I only did around 3 times in a run of a week.

Well on the weekend I saw a video of a girl I knew from school, that I never really talked to. Well it was saying how she survived cancer as a kid and told her story. The story intrigued me and I couldn't help it so I added her and messaged her. We've been talking ever since and even talk on the phone. When I talked to her I just felt a connection. She still gives me butterflies when I talk to her and I always smile. We talk about everything with 100% complete honesty. She also admitted she is also very interested in me so we are hanging out now and I love getting to know her. We understand each other and we have the same moral choices. We know how to give each other space, but when we talk it's full sentences and not just 3-4 words.

I'm just wondering if I'm a **** for being more interested in the second girl, because I really felt no connection with the other one. I'm going to go with the second one I know that much I just don't want to be a ****. I don't think I would be though because me and the first girl never talk anymore and she hasn't tried to talk back so do you think I'm making the right decision?

dannyboy65 said:

I don't think I would be though because me and the first girl never talk anymore and she hasn't tried to talk back

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^ There's your answer. Nothing wrong about what you're doing. You guys went out, had fun, but nothing came of it. You tried to talk, but haven't since. Seems like she felt the same way, since she hasn't messaged you either. It's okay to move on. Good luck! :thumbup:

Phoenixx said:

^ There's your answer. Nothing wrong about what you're doing. You guys went out, had fun, but nothing came of it. You tried to talk, but haven't since. Seems like she felt the same way, since she hasn't messaged you either. It's okay to move on. Good luck! :thumbup:

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Thank you for this I don't want to be a bad guy. I just really like the second girl a lot like we clicked right from the get go.

You're not an a** for being interested in someone you have a better connection with. That's something that is out of your control. It's not like you did anything to go out of your way to be mean to her. If she wanted to continue things, she could've tried talking to you. If you only went on one date and haven't talked for a week, then you should not feel bad for taking a chance with someone you feel a connection with. As Pheonixx said, she must've felt the same as you did.

chev said:

You're not an a** for being interested in someone you have a better connection with. That's something that is out of your control. It's not like you did anything to go out of your way to be mean to her. If she wanted to continue things, she could've tried talking to you. If you only went on one date and haven't talked for a week, then you should not feel bad for taking a chance with someone you feel a connection with. As Pheonixx said, she must've felt the same as you did.

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Yea I've never been in this kind of situation before usually I only have one girl interested in me.

You just added the person and started talking to her out of nowhere? How the **** do you people even do that shit. I have trouble talking to some people I interact with daily.

Razzlecherry said:

You just added the person and started talking to her out of nowhere? How the **** do you people even do that shit. I have trouble talking to some people I interact with daily.

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I just pushed myself. I've worked on it so much that I like to push myself. I'm really happy I did to or I would have never met her.

Razzlecherry said:

You just added the person and started talking to her out of nowhere? How the **** do you people even do that shit. I have trouble talking to some people I interact with daily.

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Aside from what he said about pushing himself there can be a ton of other factors. His level of anxiety, the origins of his anxiety, his personality, experiences, whether or not he's received positive reinforcement from women yatta yatta. People are too complex, this is why Im not a psyche major lol.

And to Dannyboy Im glad you found someone you click with bud. :thumbup:

No, that doesn't make you a ****. It makes you human. You can't help it if you're attracted to someone or not. Sometimes you'll just hit it off with someone. Often you won't. You can't force a connection. It doesn't sound like the first girl was all that interested anyway and if she contacts you again, it's ok to say you're not interested.

Razzlecherry said:

You just added the person and started talking to her out of nowhere? How the **** do you people even do that shit. I have trouble talking to some people I interact with daily.

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Yeah, this.mg:

Well today I went on a date with her and it went amazing we were together for 6 hours . We kissed and we talked about so much. It was a great day.

dannyboy65 said:

Well today I went on a date with her and it went amazing we were together for 6 hours . We kissed and we talked about so much. It was a great day.

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Good to hear. Hope things are still going well.:thumbup: