Does living where you live now, make you depressed?

Are you depressed because of where you live?

  • Yes, and I am working towards moving somewhere else.

    Votes: 18 36.7%

  • Yes, but I have decided to stay and settle here.

    Votes: 2 4.1%

  • Yes, I will stay here for now and a few years down the road I'll move away.

    Votes: 13 26.5%

  • No, I am perfectly fine where I am (I don't apply).

    Votes: 16 32.7%
  • Total voters
    49
voodoochild16

voodoochild16

Well-known member
Hey all,
Just wondering what you all think about where you live, and does it make you depressed?. My parents divorced so my sister lives 8 hours away, and so does my dad now. Living in a smaller town really feels depressing, I just don't want to live here the rest of my life. That thought feels normal, as my sister felt the same way but, did you guys even feel this way and just decide to stay where you were despite having the feeling of hate in you for living where you are?.
 
kihira

kihira

1
Would like to move somewhere else, but there are factors that hold me back. Wish I had lived overseas when I was younger
 
Alienated

Alienated

Well-known member
OH HELL YES.... This place sucks !! But I have searched the world, and there are worse places. I have talked to people all other the world, and I don't trust their opinion. After talking to them for a little while... they don't even know where they are !! The whole world has become so stupid, they couldn't tell the truth if they had to... because they just don't know it !!

So here I stay in Satan's arm pit !! But at least it's not his a** !!
 
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jc972

1
I grew up here but I want to move to Wyoming or the Florida Keys eventually. The only thing keeping me here is my grandparents, they're in bad health and I don't trust anyone else with taking care of them.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

Well-known member
Hm... As a whole, I don't know if the place I live truly depresses me so much as it just makes me feel trapped, which can contribute to the depression. There are perks to living in a rural area, but it really just isn't for me. I like cities, I enjoy cities, I enjoy larger towns and suburbs. I basically like convenience. The quiet in the country is nice (but some days I don't get it at all, thanks to rednecks), but living 30+ mins. away from the nearest grocery store is really annoying. It gets extremely boring here after a while when I can't walk really walk anywhere. Woods are okay, but I'm not a total nature person. I like coffee shops and libraries and little stores and commercial stores and streets and sidewalks. Not surrounded by trees and dirt roads and wild animals and nothingness for miles. I know some people love it, but like I said it's just not for me.
 
SamD

SamD

Member
If you'd asked me this a year ago I'd have said yes. Last year I moved to Thailand, and it has helped me no end. I'm much happier. I'm more compatible with this location.

Anyone reading this: If you're sick of your location, make the jump and move somewhere that you feel will be more compatible with your interests in life. If you don't know what those interests are, have a good thorough inner search and find them - and then move somewhere that aligns with them. It'll be the best decision you ever make.
 
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laure15

Well-known member
Alienated said:
OH HELL YES.... This place sucks !! But I have searched the world, and there are worse places. I have talked to people all other the world, and I don't trust their opinion. After talking to them for a little while... they don't even know where they are !! The whole world has become so stupid, they couldn't tell the truth if they had to... because they just don't know it !!

So here I stay in Satan's arm pit !! But at least it's not his a** !!
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Same here. I've lived in worse places (aka Satan's a**). My current location is definitely way better than the previous places I've lived in. My depression and anxiety were through the roof in the past. Now at least I have more happier days even though it's not perfect here. Also ever since I moved back I started to recover and grow a bit.
 
Richey

Richey

Well-known member
I can tell you this. I live in a quiet, grey, gloomy sort of area. I mean the council doesn't really look after the streets very well. It's a nice sort of escape for people in the city, but it feels really lifeless.

Contrast, that, recently I was working near the city, all the streets have colour, people are out and about walking, running, there is a warm, happy feeling about some of the inner suburbs. An aliveness.

I am 100% sure that where you live can affect your mood, outlook, life. Just because I can see the contrast between a gloomy-quiet area and a warm-alive area I firmly believe that existing in a happier area can change your life. But you need to be apart of the rich/middle/upper classes or pay high rent to be closer to the city. But at least the councils look after the streets, they repair things, new structures are built, things are upgraded.

^^ This makes people happier, there is more community. People help each other out. I just think you'll feel more a part of a progressive and warmer area. Your going to be existing around successful people, positive people.

Outside of the city you can tell that no money goes into upgrading areas. Aside from maybe a few traffic lights.

I would go as far as to say, living in a grey, quiet, colourless area = you feel negative, living in a well looked after, warmer area = you'll feel more positive.

It has to be. Ever played Sims? If you don't match people with a good lifestyle then they stay in bed and feel down. Lifestyle is affected by surroundings, environment, circumstances, beliefs.

my advice is to make your living area, apartment, house into something that makes you feel good. whether it's colours, furniture, posters, whatever it is. Perhaps go for walks in the best area close to your suburb. Whether it's a nice park area, nice streets. New building areas. Make the most of the best areas of your area.

The problem is that the money isn't evenly shared to councils and suburbs. The money goes into the already rich suburbs. None of it makes any sense.
 
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Koime

Koime

Active member
I live way out in the country. I'm not a country boy and I'm not from here. I really do hate it but I have no clue where would be a better place for me. Hmm.. I think maybe a small city but even then, I can't see it changing me. It might make it worse, who knows -shrug-
 
Subpop

Subpop

Well-known member
SamD said:
If you'd asked me this a year ago I'd have said yes. Last year I moved to Thailand, and it has helped me no end. I'm much happier. I'm more compatible with this location.

Anyone reading this: If you're sick of your location, make the jump and move somewhere that you feel will be more compatible with your interests in life. If you don't know what those interests are, have a good thorough inner search and find them - and then move somewhere that aligns with them. It'll be the best decision you ever make.
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Hey SamD, I am in a similar situation but I haven't yet made the move.

What is it in particular that has changed your outlook?
 
Subpop

Subpop

Well-known member
Richey said:
I can tell you this. I live in a quiet, grey, gloomy sort of area. I mean the council doesn't really look after the streets very well. It's a nice sort of escape for people in the city, but it feels really lifeless.

Contrast, that, recently I was working near the city, all the streets have colour, people are out and about walking, running, there is a warm, happy feeling about some of the inner suburbs. An aliveness.

I am 100% sure that where you live can affect your mood, outlook, life. Just because I can see the contrast between a gloomy-quiet area and a warm-alive area I firmly believe that existing in a happier area can change your life. But you need to be apart of the rich/middle/upper classes or pay high rent to be closer to the city. But at least the councils look after the streets, they repair things, new structures are built, things are upgraded.

^^ This makes people happier, there is more community. People help each other out. I just think you'll feel more a part of a progressive and warmer area. Your going to be existing around successful people, positive people.

Outside of the city you can tell that no money goes into upgrading areas. Aside from maybe a few traffic lights.

I would go as far as to say, living in a grey, quiet, colourless area = you feel negative, living in a well looked after, warmer area = you'll feel more positive.

It has to be. Ever played Sims? If you don't match people with a good lifestyle then they stay in bed and feel down. Lifestyle is affected by surroundings, environment, circumstances, beliefs.

my advice is to make your living area, apartment, house into something that makes you feel good. whether it's colours, furniture, posters, whatever it is. Perhaps go for walks in the best area close to your suburb. Whether it's a nice park area, nice streets. New building areas. Make the most of the best areas of your area.

The problem is that the money isn't evenly shared to councils and suburbs. The money goes into the already rich suburbs. None of it makes any sense.
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This is true to a point, however I think that if you grow up in a relatively affluent area you know no different so it has become 'normalised' in your life experience, you don't know any different and an illness, such as depression, will still affect how you feel about life.

I suspect that living where I do is making me somewhat depressed.....I feel I need to get outside my comfort zone which I have been living in for a long time. The interesting thing about this is that I am absolutely sure, based upon past experience, that I will find it far easier to move to a non western country and basically have to be forced to interact with people to 'live'. The other issue for me is I am becoming really frustrated at how expensive it has become to live where I do. For what it costs to live here I could be living a pretty financially comfortable life in Canada, New Zealand or even Indonesia and enjoying the amazing environments that these countries offer.
 
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Slytherin88

Slytherin88

Well-known member
yes, I grew up in a very small country town and that is cause of most of my social anxiety, the bullying, the 'everyone is watching me and judging what I do' and the immense pressure to not get pregnant and screw up my life like all my friends. That, and it was very closed minded and white. I moved 3 weeks after finishing high school and never looked back. Now to undo the 18 years psychologically..
 
Z

Zod

Well-known member
Yeah.

I face certain issues, and I HATE the fact that I have to live with roommates, and in a very crowded student flat. I need some space to breathe, but find myself suffocated here. Literally everywhere you go, there's people. Sometimes I just want to shout out loud.

Definately want to go and look for my own apartment or space in a quieter town, because this is driving me nuts.
 
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