Does AvPD make people reluctant to get into relationships? And be too picky?

joey_122

Member
I'm currently 19 going on 20 and all my life I've never had a serious girlfriend. Although their were a lot girls that told me they were interested throughout my high school years I never could bring myself to date any of them. Cause I was honestly scared I thought that people would judge me for who I am dating I thought my friends would make fun of me I even thought my family would disapprove. Even when I liked the girl I was always too shy to make a move like that. I thought that dating somebody would be a liability and the only thing I could deal with was hooking up with girls and not getting serious.
After growing up and moving out of high school I'm starting to realize that all these fears we 're in my head and that no body cares about.

Do people who have avoidant disorder experience something similar and have high expectations.
 

Darryl

Well-known member
Hi joey 122,

Mate, we have high expectations about everything.

I do remember reading that as Avoidances we long and need to closeness of some-one.


Welcome to you, nice to have you aboard.
 
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benno

Member
I have the same problem. Thinking what others think about me when I would date someone. But it shouldn't matter.

And with the expectations, I had that too. But I managed to lower my standarts by a fair amount over the last years. Althought it sounds kind of sad, its a good thing, i was far too picky.
 

sfmarkh

New member
Yes I was too picky. Since I could never meet anyone's standards I learned that those standards were the way to judge others. And of course, very few could meet them. (I hope that makes sense)

I too was always concerned about how others would think- but mostly I never felt good enough for anyone to be interested in. Thats the tough one for me to challenge.
 
Relationship? What's that?

I am thinking blanks right now to a more meaningful response. Will start with: The.

And if anything comes up I just might add it.
 
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