Does anyone not like the way their voice sounds?

rko74

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• Mar 24, 2006

• #1

I think a big part of my social phobia stems from my utter lack of confidence in speaking to people.When im at home with my parents i think i sound very "kidlike" and when i go out or talk to people i try and purposely sound more adult.Is anyone else not satisfied or really insecure with their voice?

 

LibertadIlusoria

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• Mar 24, 2006

• #2

I think I sound like a kid too. My voice always comes out whiney-like I think. And I swear I'm going to punch the next person who says they couldn't hear what I said. Maybe if they actually listened to me for a change! I guess that's a different issue though...

 

LittleMissScareAll

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• Mar 24, 2006

• #3

I hate my voice; it's too raspy and deep. 8O :? I'd much rather have a "kid-like" voice.

 

Septor

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #4

Yea I really don't like my voice either.Sometime people say I have accent which I never understand because I don't.

 

Waybuloo

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #5

i have a quite small voice which i dont' really like, makes me sound like a kid on the phone.
but the other day someone said i speak nice, but anyway,

i want a sexy voice

 

IceLad

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #6

I don't like my voice either, especially on my answer phone message, so much so that I've deleted it and gone to the phone's default message.

 

Richey

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #7

oh! i know how you feel, i try singing in the car and i sound terrible and i cant shout, i cant seem to shout or talk loud and perhaps its because ive repressed and restrained my vocal chords so much over the years that they are overtight so im trying to loosen them up again because i know when i was a kid i was happy and loud, so i just lost that element that i need to reclaim

 

loucat

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #8

i hate my voice it's too deep for a female and i always sound as if i have a cold

 

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scatmantom

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #9

My voice is too high and Squeeky! I sound like a kid sometimes in my mind, but i know that I dont. Its silly to think that people wont like your voice, because out of every1 i know, there isnt 1 person who i think twice about thier voice....unless its really camp or something

 

Rainman

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #10

I actually quite like my voice, particularly my singing voice. However, I have a lot of problems with my speaking voice. It varies from resonant, confident, deep to sqeaky and too soft, and at other times, nervous or perhaps even arrogant.

I often get people asking me to repeat what I said, or misunderstand what I say. It can really upset me and leave me somewhat disorientated.

 

pixies_cry

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #11

i hate my voice, its kinda deep for a 16 year old girl.

the only thing i dont mind about it is the fact i dont have a strong scouse accent, its still there but its not as broad as most scousers.


Xx FrAnCeScA xX

 

lily

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• Mar 25, 2006

• #12

Chihiro said:

i have a quite small voice which i dont' really like, makes me sound like a kid on the phone.
but the other day someone said i speak nice, but anyway,

i want a sexy voice

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yeah, others have said that I have a nice voice and they really like the way I talk or it's cute but I thought they probably meant it in one way and not another.
or else they do like it in every way so there are ppl who would even wish they had it or admire you, that's s/th positive to have in mind.

 

GIOLANDA

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• Mar 28, 2006

• #13

My voice sounds like a kid too! When I answer the phone people tell me:Give me your mother please! It's also very low. However,everybody says it's nice and sweet,but I don't like it. It's amazing that we've got even this thing in common! I love you all,I really do!

 

redlady

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• Mar 28, 2006

• #14

For the most part i like my voice. It can sound a little deep and monotoned on occasion - but it's fine as voices go. I wish i could sing like an opera singer though.

 

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DemonDayz

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• Mar 29, 2006

• #15

My voice is pretty deep and I talk soft~ especially to people I'm not familiar with, so people always think I'm grumbling or something. :roll:

 

Boundless

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• Mar 29, 2006

• #16

Well im not to keen on my voice,but my girlfriend sure as hell likes it heh,and i like hers to ^^ thats why its so easy to spend hours on the phone to her.Then again we are harsher on our selves (well i am and im sure others are to).

 

rko74

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• Mar 29, 2006

• #17

IS speech therapy good idea ?

I often find myself really anxious when it comes to speaking to people.Would speech therapy benefit at all?

 

lily

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• Mar 30, 2006

• #18

Re: IS speech therapy good idea ?

rko74 said:

I often find myself really anxious when it comes to speaking to people.Would speech therapy benefit at all?

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No I don't think it will, it's a confidence issue that needs to be viewed differently or else it's magic again, that can give you another voice. Unless you would like to learn how to converse better, you could get others' advice but even they might not have the correct or only way. And if it's a learning issue then that's the only time behavior therapy works or speech therapy.

 

Lotrsfan

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• Mar 31, 2006

• #19

I didn't really take any notice of my voice until when i had to record my own advertisment for music class onto a cassette and i listened to it, and i thought "god, my voice sounds awful", but when i hear myself talking without listening to it on a cassette or wherever it sounds much different. Then it got my confidence down a little, so that whenever someone talked to me, the first thing that i thought was "Oh, my voice is going to sound awful to him/her" and i began to be careful how i say certain words incase they came out bad. Now i'm really loud at home and crazy, and i don't care how my voice sounds to my family and i kinda have forgotten to worry about what my voice sounds like to other people when i respond. Like when i've finished talking they don't say: "Oh my god, did you know your voice sounds awful!?" or something. so that's good, maybe i'm just being paranoid at how my voice sounds, but to other people it probably sounds nice, or cute. :lol:

 

speakeasy

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• Mar 31, 2006

• #20

Overtight vocal chords

Richey said:

oh! i know how you feel, i try singing in the car and i sound terrible and i cant shout, i cant seem to shout or talk loud and perhaps its because ive repressed and restrained my vocal chords so much over the years that they are overtight so im trying to loosen them up again because i know when i was a kid i was happy and loud, so i just lost that element that i need to reclaim

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I know how you feel Richey. I've had a problem with my voice for a long time. I've found a course which is happening at the end of April for people who have problems with their vocal chords which is being run by a speech and language therapist and someone who specialises in breathing. I think a lot of voice problems are affected by bad breathing habits which people get into when they are tense. This could be for all sorts of reasons - maybe because they feel shy or they don't like the sound of their voice or feel they have nothing much to say to people. If anyone's interested in finding out more about the course, let me know.