Does anyone can't get a date?

I used to be an OkCupid head but cancelled it 'cause i was afraid people i know would see me on it.
Plus when i put up photo's that actually looked like me, as opposed to the ones i took myself to make me look skinnier and prettier, i never got any messages.
I'd be afraid incase we met up and they found out what i REALLY looked like....
Its amazing what a shot from above showing a lil cleavage can do though!

Besides the idea of meeting someone in person will be a nice story to tell the grandkids!
Fat chance of that happening though...

x_No_Oil_Painting_x said:

I used to be an OkCupid head but cancelled it 'cause i was afraid people i know would see me on it.
Plus when i put up photo's that actually looked like me, as opposed to the ones i took myself to make me look skinnier and prettier, i never got any messages.
I'd be afraid incase we met up and they found out what i REALLY looked like....
Its amazing what a shot from above showing a lil cleavage can do though!

Besides the idea of meeting someone in person will be a nice story to tell the grandkids!
Fat chance of that happening though...

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You never know until you try I hate the way I look,and wouldnt think any girl would look at me twice or give me a chance since I got ill.But about a year ago I met someone online...and as scared as I was..we met up and it didnt all go horribly wrong like I thought it would

Were still together as well,it can happen!

Danfalc said:

You never know until you try I hate the way I look,and wouldnt think any girl would look at me twice or give me a chance since I got ill.But about a year ago I met someone online...and as scared as I was..we met up and it didnt all go horribly wrong like I thought it would

Were still together as well,it can happen!

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True that! You're one of the lucky ones.
They need to create sites like that especially for people with SA y'know that?!

I know it has been known to work but the last thing i want is to have someone walk up to me and say,
hey i recognise you from [insert name of dating site here].
I'd probably have a panic attack and die on the spot, because people would know i'm on a dating site! Some people are dead shallow too. If they saw me in person they could get disappointed and insulting... It happened me once! Valentines Day 2006.. I'll never forget it!

I've so much respect for anyone gutsy enough ta do the online dating thing.

Word of advice to everyone on SPW....
Never put up misleading photo's of yourself... it only turns out nasty!

I never set out to date,I wasnt looking as I didnt feel I could cope with a relationship.I met her on here as a friend not a dating site and things just clicked.

My gf was worried like you,she was sure once I saw her for real I would walk off and dump her.I guess sometimes it is harder for girls..because guys can be so shallow (well both genders can).But dont let one jerk but you off trying again

I am still doing the online dating thing... I really have not stopped yet, but as time progresses I am really thinking that if I was meant to be with someone it would have happened a long time ago... Time is against me, my "biological clock" is ticking.... I'm 41 now, but I can easily see myself in this same situation at 61....then death, maybe sooner rather than later? IDK...

Wow Danfalc, if that happened me I'd be in shock..
And you're with someone who understands you as opposed to a "normal" person. That's always a good thing.

Iamthenra, you've as much a chance of meeting someone as i do. especially with the whole online dating thing. I'd say i'd do it when I'm your age. It seems more socially acceptable around then. Or am i wrong?
Gah! I wish i didnt care what society thought!

funny thing, i already had a gf a few years ago but i never went on a date, which i don't think i would be able to handle anyways

Going on a date? That's something impossible for me...

Just gotta look at me and that's a big enough turn off without me having to open my mouth.

Going on first dates isn't a hard thing to do. In fact, it's pretty easy. It's hard to find someone who would be willing to. And then, it's hard to motivate oneself to go on a second date. Not to mention a third.

The point is, most people, while initially attractive, are a huge turn-off once you get to know them closer. That is, it's doubly difficult to find a "girlfriend" (or "boyfriend") if you fail both at making many people like you and liking many people.

Never really dated and ever had a girlfriend. It's my fault really because i never have the guts to ask::

Askings the worst part!
You never know if its too soon or not...
Though Dating kind of scary too. Trying to keep conversation going for so long and thinking of questions- while trying not to talk about yourself too much....


Oh shudder!

Well... 'get a date'... Where I live it ain't about getting dates, it's about hanging out with someone you're in love with, then becoming their boy-/girlfriend, then doing stoof together if you like so. Or if your boy-/girlfriend likes to and you can't say 'no'.

There is only one girl for me. She's perfect in every thinkable view. Analysed from a scientific perspecive, so I'm not just saying it because I like her so much, it is true - non excaggeratedly.

And I am a terrible person. The only good thang is that I am a bit self-conscient. If I got the chance to travel back in time for like 16 years I'd kill my own person laying in the incubator.

The conclusion is that I shouldn't even bother trying to hang out with her, which, as mentioned before, is an early step to getting a girlfriend. If I did bother, it would make me even more of a sickening person. Why would she want me? Why would anyone approve a failure such as me messing with such a divinely-succesful girl? All I can do is sitting here, watching her and thinking about her, without any hope that she will ever feel the same for me. I'm doing the best I can accepting that some people (c'est moi) are just bad people, not entitled to happiness.

But now I'm going off-track. The anser is 'yes, I am anyone who does cannot get a date'.

recluse said:

Never really dated and ever had a girlfriend. It's my fault really because i never have the guts to ask::

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This and the fact that I'm still unsure of my sexual orientation

No,never.Seems everyon my age has been on one.Kind of a downer,but then again im in an all-girls school so in speaking to boys id actually have to go somewhr other than school or home and talk to some,only to probably have thm ridicule me or label me as a weirdo.
But i want to deal with SA first before dating and all that anyways..Its far too intimidating at the minute.bsides most of the boys ive sen are either immature or not my type

No dates here as well. That's why I'm thinking mail order bride. At least if she arrives flawed or damaged I can send her back for another one.

When I was 14, I met a girl online and after speaking to her online for 2 years, she and I met up (we lived on opposite ends of the continent and met in the middle).

Once again, when I was 17, I met a girl online who was about 10 hours away and after speaking on the phone for a year, she and I secretly met while she was on vacation with her family in my area. Several months later, I secretly drove to see her in the middle of the night and got in serious trouble for it (no one really knew the seriousness of our relationship, but they found out).

I've been pretty bold at times; I just decided to risk it. Other than these occasions, my date/girlfriend life is pretty non-existent.

I would love to go on a date...without ending up freaking out in the bathroom. *sigh*

I love OKCupid!! I have an account there.. theres some really colorful people there! lol No oil painting.. I guess i took misleading pics too, because i eventually had to put up a disclaimer saying that i WASNT thin.. lol

Tiercel said:

No dates here as well. That's why I'm thinking mail order bride. At least if she arrives flawed or damaged I can send her back for another one.

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Can american women be mail order brides? I think that might be the solution to my problems..lol

illumination86 said:

I've been pretty bold at times; I just decided to risk it. Other than these occasions, my date/girlfriend life is pretty non-existent.

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I can relate to that.

I throw myself into weird situations because I'm scared to death of the regret I'll have if I don't. It's not so much loneliness or isolation that makes me look for a sexual partner, as much as a fear of having an empty book of memories to read some day.