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I have one friend at work, but that's it. We also don't hang out outside of work. There have been plenty of stretches of my life where I have had literally no friends.
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As of right now, I literally have no friends. I just realized that tbh after i read this thread.

My buddy moved to a different city, and even that guy i hung out with maybe once every two weeks on average.

I just go to work and come home and watch sports or movies, or play video games.

If I had people who wanted to hang out then i would hang with them but nobody ever really calls me or texts me.

I know people don't like negativity but I do believe i'm in this situation because nobody really wants to be with a shy person who doesn't bring enough talking and charisma to the table. I'm seen as the boring person that most people want to avoid because i make many of them uncomfortable.

As BSammy said, people like me just don't have much to offer other people. I don't really understand how to socialize and don't have any "normal" behavior or stories to offer.

I'm just not an interesting person and it's difficult to talk to me so most people would just prefer to talk to other people that talk more and are fun.

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I have decided to disconnect from people for a while because it is so hard to trust people nowadays. No one values kindness anymore. No one deserves my company. I'd rather be alone.
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I have decided to disconnect from people for a while because it is so hard to trust people nowadays. No one values kindness anymore. No one deserves my company. I'd rather be alone.
People are just as shitty as they've ever been, no worse, no better.

As for me, "lack-of-drive" has always been one of my defining characteristics. Career-wise, I more than make up for it with an innate talent for my chosen profession.

Socially? Things get strange. Unusually, I get along with both sexes just fine . . . and they like me just fine in return, even resulting in me getting regularly invited to hang out, party, etcetera.

But I almost never go and I'm not sure why that is. People seem to perceive a "connection" to me . . . yet, something's not 'clicking' within me, even during an engaging, hours long conversation. It all feels . . . like nothing.

Consequently, I've people that consider me a "close" friend . . . but no one *I* feel likewise towards. Like I said, "strange."
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I have a friend that I go to bars with. That's really about it.

Pretty cool, wish I had this. Zero friends here, I have absolutely no one to count on in times of need.
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I don't have any friends at all. Like absolutely no one to talk to.
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Nope. zero. Zilch. Zip. None. Nyetski. Less than one.
No RL friends or online. I have 'aquaintences' coming out my backside, but not a single friend.

Like a frikken single blade of grass growing in a desert.
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Nope. zero. Zilch. Zip. None. Nyetski. Less than one.
No RL friends or online. I have 'aquaintences' coming out my backside, but not a single friend.

Like a frikken single blade of grass growing in a desert.
This surprises me because you always seem quite witty and charismatic in your posts.
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Well I didn't till yesterday.. I went into a Vaping store that opened to see what they had and ended up talking to them for almost 1 1/5 hours.. Very friendly, and they welcomed me back...

I have a chemistry back round and they gave me a application !! But said they were looking for someone young... But would keep me in mind when they open other stores !! Monday I am going to go back and talk about construction of their products, and see if I can get my foot in the door to have a edge.
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People are just as shitty as they've ever been, no worse, no better.

As for me, "lack-of-drive" has always been one of my defining characteristics. Career-wise, I more than make up for it with an innate talent for my chosen profession.

Socially? Things get strange. Unusually, I get along with both sexes just fine . . . and they like me just fine in return, even resulting in me getting regularly invited to hang out, party, etcetera.

But I almost never go and I'm not sure why that is. People seem to perceive a "connection" to me . . . yet, something's not 'clicking' within me, even during an engaging, hours long conversation. It all feels . . . like nothing.

Consequently, I've people that consider me a "close" friend . . . but no one *I* feel likewise towards. Like I said, "strange."
i can identify a lot with what is said here..i get along with most people just fine and i can sense when others feel connected or when they enjoy being around or talking to me BUt there isnt much feeling from my side..there is a disconnect there, i can mimic a social person to fit in but its an act..im usually always ready to leave the conversation and go into isolation..

well, i had my best buddy from my youth come back into my life a few months back..we made vows to stay connected and hang out but lo and behold, i already start to tire of the 'same old, same old' conversations and i hate the bar scene so this friendship is basically finished..

the key areas of a friendship are truly enjoying talking to someone and sharing mutual interests...i am lacking big time in both of these areas...i am pretty much done forcing myself to do things i dont want to do so..when you dont have a wide variety of interests and when you dont enjoy the normal interests that most people do, it makes friendships very difficult..
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This surprises me because you always seem quite witty and charismatic in your posts.
Haha thanks MikeyC
Are you...hitting on me?...
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i can identify a lot with what is said here..i get along with most people just fine and i can sense when others feel connected or when they enjoy being around or talking to me But there isn't much feeling from my side..there is a disconnect there
Yea. I have a similar issue. For me one reason I believe this happens is because I live in a town where no one is interested in things I am. I just don't care for standing around, drink in hand..talking about Jim's brothers uncle's nephews third cousins dog who ate his fishing bait.. *yawn*...

The problems of living in a smallish town I guess.. isolation doesn't help with isolation.
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Yea. I have a similar issue. For me one reason I believe this happens is because I live in a town where no one is interested in things I am. I just don't care for standing around, drink in hand..talking about Jim's brothers uncle's nephews third cousins dog who ate his fishing bait.. *yawn*...

The problems of living in a smallish town I guess.. isolation doesn't help with isolation.
yes you want deeper more meaningful conversations..problem is, the majority of what makes up most conversations is the dreaded 'small talk' u mentioned that you dislike...the talk about your neighbors or cousin or whatever else..i start to daydream whenever i hear things like that..
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what i find to consistently be a problem when it comes to socializing and talking to friends is that if you dont have an active lifestyle, you dont have much to talk about..i find the older i get, the less active i am and the less i have to say..it really creates a nasty vicious cycle, when you dislike small talk yet dont have much to say in terms of 'what have i been up to lately'...
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I too am in this situation.
Throughout high school, I had a group of maybe 8-12 people I hung out with. Doing the same things with the same people got boring and so when they asked if I wanted to do things, I declined, until they stopped asking.
Only people I talk to now are my parents, as I still live at home (21 years old) and a guy I met online a couple years ago.

I don`t even really desire to make friends either at times or feel like I'm missing out on anything. I enjoy my time spent by myself, either quiet or with music.

The only time it is an issue is when having to talk to people. I have no response to "what have you been up to?".

Little bit of a ramble...typing at 4am on a kindle...

If anyone does want to chat, pm me or something. I have a microphone, although text chat is good too. I can chat about anything online...something I wish I could do in person, heh.
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I was just thinking about this today for some reason... i don't have any real friends, and i really mean it, like... zero friends.

I thought that i was accustomed to live like this, but it's driving me crazy right now.
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i would like a friend who has social anxiety/phobia just like me b/c they'd understand me. i don't think anyone who doesn't have it would really want to be my friend.
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I've never had any close friends, though I've had a few acquaintances whom I only get to talk to every once in a great while. I think I'm now starting to see the harsh reality of my life... that I might just be possibly one of the very few unluckiest people to ever walk the face of the earth.

Maybe I'm just somehow not intended to make friends. Maybe I'm not meant to bond with anyone and no one is meant to bond with me. Maybe I'm just meant to be good company and nothing more beyond that. There's also questions I think about in my head everyday. Was I just cursed from the day I was born? Am I not made to ever feel good about myself? Am I just too weird for other people to even form a close relationship with them? Do I even have a future at all? Or am I meant to fight through this alone until the day I drop dead? I'll never have a clue.
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i used to have at least 1 or 2 friends but after i lost contact with one and the other was a really bad enough friend so now i have zero real life friends but I'm looking fwd to the future.
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