do you think sex will cure your social phobia

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sorry folks, i should of explained my reason for this thread.

its cause i see lots of threads and posts about losing virginity and all that kind of stuff, and really wondered if it was just a case of getting sex and then being cured.

i see from the answers that it is not the case. so ahl just shut my mouth for a wee while :)
 
Update: My bad, I read it as love and not sex. Freudian slip anyone :D

It depends on the other person you're involved with.
I have a friend who was shy, he got married about 1 year ago. He has given me the impression that he is more confident now...

So maybe.
 
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hippiechild

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It seems like the positive aspects of love are often misattributed to sex: Acceptance, confidence, trust, care and companionship are all attributes of love and are not intrinsic to sex.

-Person falls in "love" ---> the relationship leads to feelings of companionship and trust because they've connected on a deeper level, sharing thoughts and feelings that leave themselves vulnerable ---> they have sex and, having opened up to one another in their most vulnerable state, this further strengthens their trust, commitment, acceptance of one another. At this point they're pretty damn confident in their relationship and social obstacles outside of their relationship are more easily dealt with. They know that they're worthwhile and don't need constant affirmation from strangers.

-Other person has sex---> experience pleasure, maybe a feeling of accomplishment (depending on level of sexual experience), some acceptance ("at least I'm not so repulsive that I cannae get teh sex") ---> the sex buddies bid each other farewell and neither has any more confidence in their social skills or ability to maintain a relationship than they did before. Other than being "accepted" for mutual masturbation, based on a very loose set of guidelines, their self images are relatively unchanged.

Just because loving worthwhile people often involves sex does not mean that involving sex would imply worthwhile people loving. There are plenty of less-than-admirable people procreating

of course, this is based on nothing... I just don't want to get the alzheimers
 

mrb

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LMAO!!...The depth of your kindness and willingness to help astounds me gary!!:rolleyes:::p:

thanks :) the depths i will go to to help others is unbelivable , i always put others before myself :) but i will say one thing if i get any responces from his , then i will of course expect to be picked up from the airport in a plush Limousine , once those 2 little expences are out of the way then its all good ladies ...
 

Felgen

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It has given my self-esteem a slight increase, but I still feel miserable for never having been in a relationship.
 

mrb

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a lot of sa is feeling like your not loved , no one cares ect ect but even casual sex can make you feel like you are loved if only for a short time , of course a long loving relationship is better , but if the sex is ok with no akward times like both relaxing and enjoying the moment , then yes it can make you feel better ......im editing this i take it back a lot of sa is feeling like your not loved , its not that is it , its ... complicated ... really complicated ... its a multitude of god knows how many things ..
 
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iamthenra

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I have to agree with Shift... I think sex would take care of the depression, but anxiety will still be there...
 

Mikefly

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if you mean from a confidence standpoint idk what you mean exactly like a one night stand or a relationship. If it's a one night stand yeah a confidence boost maybe for a few weeks a relationship yeah i think it would because if your mate was excepting of you ...you wouldn't be scared to be yourself around other people. You could develope your social skills and be around more peoople i think.
 
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unleashed

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in a loving relationship it cheers me up, its fun, intimate, makes me feel vaguely desirable and attractive...its kind of a boost to give someone else a bit of pleasure.
 

talisman

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I have to agree with Shift... I think sex would take care of the depression, but anxiety will still be there...

I agree. I feel the main cause of my deperession is not having sex. It seems to be the thing I dwell on the most, so if I could have it, ideally with more than one partner, I think it would give me a huge boost. It wouldn't cure SA, but the extra confidence I gain would help a lot.
 

Lenna C

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Definitely not. But, stable relationship built on understanding, respect, support, love... it would help me a lot...
 

dooby-duck

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Definitely not. But, stable relationship built on understanding, respect, support, love... it would help me a lot...

That's pretty much my view. I think it would do me a lot of good to have someone to push me a bit (well a lot really). It would give me a reason to go to places and socialise a bit and some company too.
 
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