Do you think masturbation makes my anxiety and confidence wo

worse. I come from a conservative family and my parents are very anti sex before marriage. I guess that's good in a way, but when I went through puberty and even now I feel like anything sexual I do is like a crime and I fear people can see through my eyes what I've been doing. I'm guessing that's why I struggle so much with eye contact. I believe this because whenever I masturbate, the rest of the day I feel very nervous and have even a worse time looking people in the eyes. I'm starting to think I should just totally stop doing it, so I don't feel this guilt that leads to anxiety anymore. What do you guys think? Am I talking nonsense here or is this a possiblilty. Anyone experience this before? Thanks for listening and sorry for the awkward subject. lol

trust me, every guy feels like people are staring at him and "know what he did" afterwards. But you have to get off the idea that it is a bad thing. It's understandable(is that a word?) that if you were raised conservative and you always thought it was like a "crime", that in combination with your SA it makes you feel even more nervous. In front of family it's always embarrasing, but with your friends/collegues/...?
Most of them are doing it/ have been doing it so there's no reason to feel bad. Don't stop doing it as if you quit smoking r something. Just accept that everybody does it, it's a natural thing to do. But do it at home only and in a a "decent" way like not on weird places or too much xD, so that when you go to work/school/whatever you don't link that place to the "action". Not fantasising about collegues might as well help

hmm masturbation is normal. It's not as taboo as you might think. People do it all the time. It's nothing to feel ashamed about. Even animals in the wild masturbate. :wink:

Oh, you can stop if you want, if it feels good though, and it's keeping you out of trouble, what's the harm? If you feel like you really should stop, then stop?

There is nothing wrong with sex or masturbation,no matter what anyone says,I think you will be more anxious if you dont do it,you will be having wet dreams and getting boners all the time :lol:,it helps with the stress too .

I think the problem is feeling guilty not in the masturbation itself. Your mind is set that masturbation is a crime, if you can think in an opposite way, its ok for you,otherwise stop it. But i m not sure you can stop it at all. Its not the cause i think,but it make your sp severer.

Rodox said:

There is nothing wrong with sex or masturbation,no matter what anyone says,I think you will be more anxious if you dont do it,you will be having wet dreams and getting boners all the time :lol:,it helps with the stress too .

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lol yeah last thing we need is walking around in public with a raging hard on.

Knocking one out is just like picking your nose. Sometimes, it's just got to be done! And EEEEEEVERYONE does it! You do it, I do it, old people do it, even children do it. The people that told you it's wrong to do it? They're old pros!

THere's nothing wrong with masturbating. It's your body, it's your buisness, and for fuck's sake, it's FUN eh??

(Haha, NoBlame's a perv.)

RedRibbons said:

If you feel like you really should stop, then stop?

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A lot easier said than done

i've stopped cause i don't think i should get that feeling alone, it's a crude way to motivate me to overcome SA and get a girlfriend

although i should note i get a ton more nervous when i haven't done it in a while and girls drive me crazy (not in the sexual way, but that too... i mean literally neurotic)

how long u stopped for?...i've made it 1 week (and counting)

i try to do it a lot less frequently... less than once a week trying to stop completely but when i know i'll be in a nervous situation as it is i do it before to try to ease it off -_-