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I think i tend to take things too personally. For example, the other day at work, me and a co-worker were talking about make up and i said that i wouldn't go out the house without wearing any but that i didn't like to wear too much. I then mentioned another someone who i said i thought wore a bit too much and the co-worker said "yeah, i know. I don't know why because she's pretty".

To me, in my SA filled mind, meant that she was making a dig at me and saying that i was ugly. For the rest of the day my mood was really low and i felt like crying. Another time i sent a message to someone on Facebook and they didn't reply. I then felt totally worthless and that NOBODY likes me.

These are just two examples of my patheticness. Does anyone feel this way?
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I think hyper-sensitivity comes with being socially anxious. Isn't it kind of funny that we can think we're "no good" and "unimportant"... and at the same time, think everything is directed at and revolves around us?
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I take everything too personally-analyzing every detail. I recommend getting off of Facebook. It's horrible for your SA! I deleted my old account. I do have a new one but it's only used for mental health. Joining SA, depression and OCD sites. Nothing social.
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Absolutely, all the time. Lol

Imagine two hyper sensitive people having a conversation. That was me and my boss at one point. Didn't end well.
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All the frickin' time. >_<
I also think I'm being laughed at all the time as well, though that's kind of digressing a little.
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Comments that are either directed at me or subtley grab my attention and make me down, especially if it is about something that I'm already feeling horrendous about because it only compounds it.

Yesterday, it was my niece's birthday and I went next door earlier in the day to meet relatives and as I have been feeling extremely low, I haven't been looking that sharp dress-wise. One of my sister's brother commented: You look like a scrubber! He was joking and I took it that way but it was just something I didn't need and then took it personally. I didn't go round in the evening to eat because that comment was in my head slightly as I felt others would probably think the same even if they might not say it.
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Awww you poor you sorry to hear that .. so many people me included wanna give you a hug now


Aww I hate facebook its crap when you have sk many problems going on in the head .. like people will upload a pic and people will comment on it and try and get involved with the witty comments and its like they never see your comment .. comment on anything about a pic birthday or ect and people talk in the comments and completely ignore me like I am some kind of ghost and I just feel so low and what's the point in even trying to talk to people .. is that for everyone or just m??

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I only have a Facebook account to keep in touch with my family and a few friends. If there was another way i'd close my account. I try not to go online too often. I mainly go on there, check to see if i have any messages then log off. If i don't, i start looking at certain people's profiles and comparing myself to them which ends up making me feel like crap.

Sometimes i feel like i'm from another planet or that i wasn't supposed to be born or something. I look at girls my age and they're all smiling and happy and doing what they want and i'm just this shell of a person, desperate to be wanted and needed. I find my life very pathetic.

I did some voluntary work, years ago when i was unemployed. My FIRST DAY there some boy threw chewing gum in my hair. That was my FIRST day. I'd never met these people, never even spoken to them yet and already i was a target. I was about 17 at the time and the boy that did it was a bit of an idiot but i still wonder what i did to make him do that to me. The only good thing was i met a really lovely girl who accepted me as i was. Now we don't really talk anymore which is a shame.
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I would feel the exact same way tbh. I think it just comes with having sa unfortunately.
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yep all the time
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Sometimes i feel like i'm from another planet or that i wasn't supposed to be born or something. I look at girls my age and they're all smiling and happy and doing what they want and i'm just this shell of a person, desperate to be wanted and needed. I find my life very pathetic
I hear you. I too feel like I belong elsewhere.
I had 2 close friends (now I have one) who would continously say they wish I saw myself as they see me. But I'm just too harsh on myself :(
I wish somebody wants to spend time with me, regularly.
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My mum has depression and other issues also so i feel like i can't really speak to her. I sometimes think about asking my dad if i could stay with him for a while but i'm so terrified of rejection that i don't think i could. My step mum is really nice and i feel like i can open up to her a bit. My two younger sisters, especially the older one, seem to have similar symptoms to me. I definitely think SA can be genetic. I've spoken to my dad about it before and he told me that he was very much like me at my age and that he still feels anxiety sometimes. So basically, it's my dad's fault. Haha.
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I always have felt like I was born in the wrong century

its so sad there sounds like so many people out there with sa but we are treated like crap in this world the only people that understand us are people with sa

You look stunning in your pics

I have a friend I went to school with he always facebooking and uploading pics he's a total player and someone that can say yes to anything another friend who had a motorbike asked if we wanted to tour around Ireland well of course I wouldn't go can't even go out my small estate but my mate he went out passed his test bought a cheap bike and then there was so many pics of Ireland parting and so on so wish I had the confidence ... So many people talk about i dont have the confidence to chat up females in a bar I just wish I had the confidence to sign for my bloody post with out thinking I look like a **** ..

I'm non believer in god .. but i get mad angry upset pissed off that he got everything the looks the body the confidence and I got truly ****ed over by mother nature

I do some times think why was I truly born only to be unhappy all the time .. I know I'm not going to get anything not 1% of the life I dream off ... so truly what's the point of being here then I remember I'm hear to put a smile on someone's face don't matter who or how it happens to put just one smile on one persons face and my whole life have been worth it ...


lifes weird .. I was delt the bad hand of cards in life but we only get one shot at it so I'm going to try and enjoy it as it is only once and is so so short but some days it feels so dam long

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I always have felt like I was born in the wrong century

its so sad there sounds like so many people out there with sa but we are treated like crap in this world the only people that understand us are people with sa

You look stunning in your pics

I have a friend I went to school with he always facebooking and uploading pics he's a total player and someone that can say yes to anything another friend who had a motorbike asked if we wanted to tour around Ireland well of course I wouldn't go can't even go out my small estate but my mate he went out passed his test bought a cheap bike and then there was so many pics of Ireland parting and so on so wish I had the confidence ... So many people talk about i dont have the confidence to chat up females in a bar I just wish I had the confidence to sign for my bloody post with out thinking I look like a **** ..

I'm non believer in god .. but i get mad angry upset pissed off that he got everything the looks the body the confidence and I got truly ****ed over by mother nature

I do some times think why was I truly born only to be unhappy all the time .. I know I'm not going to get anything not 1% of the life I dream off ... so truly what's the point of being here then I remember I'm hear to put a smile on someone's face don't matter who or how it happens to put just one smile on one persons face and my whole life have been worth it ...


lifes weird .. I was delt the bad hand of cards in life but we only get one shot at it so I'm going to try and enjoy it as it is only once and is so so short but some days it feels so dam long

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SA is such a b*tch isn't it? I know i could be doing so many things if i didn't suffer from it. I know what you mean about doing simple things, like signing for the post etc I can't even go shopping by myself because the anxiety is just too strong. I just want to be normal and do normal things. I don't even want an extraordinary life, i just want a normal one.
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Hello there, hope your ok


I'm so sorry for being rude and frank if you don't mind me asking .how old are you?

I'm so truly sorry you are in the same boat as me .. its not nice at all I'm 23 myself and have always knew I was more into myself so I have never really enjoyed going out but I did when I had school friends back in 2005 I left so now I have no one and at the mo am happy with just chatting online as things like facebook texting calling seeing people it just all feels awkward for me .. I'm the same I only go out shopping with my mother never used the check out myself I only put the stuff on the check out mother pays if theres something I want il go home and order online even if that means paying more as I don't wanna feel like a **** and be at the centre of attention .. this truly feels like the only place I can take off my mask and be myself and tell people the truth as I chat online as it sometime gets boring but have to lie to make me sound normal to people like oh yeah iv been out to a family bbq ... What a load of rubbish that's why phantom of the opera is my fav as its so weird telling people the truth for being ridiculed for being a freak I truly feel this is the only place where I can truly take off my mask and be myself and tell people me me with sa

Sunday (today)

staid in bed all day naked as it is the only way to sleep
Got dressed went downstairs for roast meal ate it came back upstairs
Been messing around online (mostly YouTube) all day

it feels like time is standing still like groundhog day my friends even my younger sister is out the house own flat baby talk of getting married and I'm stuck here (same is my older brother so yes it must pass down the family line)

and sadly even worse my mother was knocked down by a knobhead on a push bike 3years ago and now she is starting to loss her short term memory doctors say in years to come she will have to go into a home and she might not even remember my own name

So I'm ****ed truly and royal ****ed my mum that does so much for me we one day be gone and I am all left alone

so yes its hard

seeing pics on facebook of friends on holiday with there girlfriends or out clubbing .. or skydiving ..

And even when these friends do come over once in a blue moon I just feel like there come to rub it all into my face show off the new 4x4 New girlfriend so on

Like you I don't wanna a life of jumping out of plans or swimming with sharks .. I want a simple life living in australia running my business and taking romantic walks along the beach hand in hand as the sun starts to set cuddling up on the sofa and camping in the bush

Wish I was never born with sa

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SA is such a b*tch isn't it? I know i could be doing so many things if i didn't suffer from it. I know what you mean about doing simple things, like signing for the post etc I can't even go shopping by myself because the anxiety is just too strong. I just want to be normal and do normal things. I don't even want an extraordinary life, i just want a normal one.
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I'm 25 years old. I feel a hell of a lot older though. I'm sorry you're going through so much. Is there absolutely no way you could go out with your friends? Even just to a pub or something?
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hehe tell me about it I feel old sometimes to

hehe what friends ... when I left school I had friends but over time we drifted apart more and more as time went on

I have a friend that's a removal man that travels all over europe that's enjoying pulling all the chicks in the bars .. but sometimes I don't see him 6months + some he always facebooks saying he be over but then never turns up.. when we did go out for meals or for a drink or drive in the car its just fake and awkward lke a carer taking a disabled person out for a day I try and talk but as like people like to say "have no life" the music goes up and its silence .. like when we went out for breakfast weird I paid that time for myself .. I was out going when I was 18-21 clubbing picking up girls ect helping out in mates fish shop but I was still awkward silence and hated going out some times then I hated going out more and more and more and now its all the time

Ok back to it ... So he picked me up we drive down the road bang awkward fake conversation music on phone call ... A friend oh coming around for a bbq dude .. then the bad news I get out and walk home as he drives to the bbq ........ So what friends there fake friends that I only see once in a blue moon

Same friend .. had girlfriend for 5yrs she hated me go around there and she be like oh babe I thought it was just going be me and you tonight can hear the hatred in her voice

I prefer to be alone yes at times it gets lonely but better then dealing with all the bitching and fake awkward conversations with someone face to face .. talking online non face to face is fine damn more and likely face to face we can have a conversation its just have that someone to take to that is on the same brain wave
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I do take things too personally sometimes but actually, I can't tell the difference between a joke or a serious insult. For example, I've had people call me stupid but I'm just not sure what to do. Some people are full of humor and I could tell they called me stupid in a "playful" sort of way. So I don't take their words personally. On the other hand, there are those other people who are really angry and aggressive towards me, for some reason. They call me stupid in angry voices and it feels like they're about to beat me any moment. It's like they hate me with a passion. I'm not sure if I should take them seriously because me being stupid, smart, or whatever has nothing to do with their business at all. But in the end, I am a sensitive person and get hurt easily.
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Hey there, know how you feel hun just simple things and they upset if there not meant for you or meant to upset

Really silly things weird living with sa
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Not so much anymore. The world doesn't revolve around me.
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