Do you feel technology makes you feel even worse about your "abnormalities"

Sometimes I feel that cell phones, facebook and myspace, and hell, even cars make me feel even more like a loser than I would feel if I lived in earlier decades. I know it's stupid to care, but most people my age are so obsessed with their cell phones, but I get NO calls and no one calls me. it makes the "no friends" thing so much more emphatic. It's expected that "normal" people with lives get calls every day from friends.

Facebook is depressing because no one ever responds to my posts or anything. And then you have to see everyone else with plans written on their walls, party pics, etc.

In the 1800's, people were naturally more isolated and life was so much simpler without cars and all the instant interconnection. You weren't such a loser if you didn't date anyone in your twenties or go a million places each week, or have any friends outside your family, you know what I mean?

On the other hand, I do have this website to find others who relate to me, so that's a plus!!

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i know!!!! it might be backward, but i imagine my nerves would be alot calmer a few centuries ago and i really envy it. i wanted to go amish, but those people dont look very friendly

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ha ha! I have always kinda envied the Amish too!!

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yes. but in my case i do not feel sorry for myself because no one is calling me or adding me on myspace. it is more of a feeling of technology in general adding to my anxiety.

everyone has cameras and can post to youtube. what if something humiliating happens while you are in public and someone records it for the world to see? your humiliation could be the next biggest viral video that millions of people watch and permanently spread around the internet. things like that stress me out.

i disagree, though. i think in the past there were a lot more pressures for you to conform. if you weren't married with kids in your 20s you were written off as an old maid or creep. racism was prevalent. there wasn't much medicine. people often did not live past their 40s. if you were a woman you were regarded as property. sometimes i think i would have done so much better in a different century but then i remember it is easy to romanticize the past.

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If it wasn't for the internet then I would never socialize. Forums such as this is about all I do.

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i wish i could have implants and crap to gibe me powers

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lol agreed. Also, implants for powers that's a plus!
I wish a lot that others could just read my mind since it's so hard for me to talk. And when I do talk, it comes out all wrong.
Technology also makes things worse with things like tv and xbox because that's about all I do. It makes me feel comfortable watching a box, making it easier to deny anything is wrong with me.
Definitely relate to the facebook thing though. I get jealous seeing everyone always doing stuff and I never have anything to write about
I think we can all agree though that if it weren't for the internet and sites like this forum, we would never know there are others like us! And for this, it helps.

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Sometimes when I have my cell phone with me, I think I feel it vibrate and I get excited because I think someone is texting me, but then I realize it was just a false alarm. I don't carry my cell phone with me anymore except when I drive somewhere, but when I get home that is the first thing I look at just in case someone wanted to talk to me. Most of the time no one does and when they do it is always my brother. It makes me feel lonely, and of course, I am too afraid to call anyone because why would they want to talk to me?

I used to do twitter, but I deleted it. When I do social networking stuff I get nervous because people I know will see my thoughts. I just feel like no one cares about what I think. I never know what to talk about. This is the only site that I feel comfortable with because I can relate to most everyone on here.

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Lorraine Manca said:

i know!!!! it might be backward, but i imagine my nerves would be alot calmer a few centuries ago and i really envy it. i wanted to go amish, but those people dont look very friendly

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hah, me too. I wish I lived in a place devoid of any technology, except plumbing maybe.

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yeah, i got to a point with the internet where it was just making my loneliness worse..tv can be depressing but can also be comforting..cell phone..pfft you mean that thing i play sudoko on?!

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Just to point, since i'm related to the amish, you probably wouldn't want to be Amish. Most Amish teens I'm related to would rather live in a normal family with electricity, running water, and a car. They mass produce children like rabbits, and the parents are VERY VERY strict. You marry whom your parents choose for you to marry, and women have no say in anything. Just wanted to put some information in on them. I suppose if anyone has a question about them, ask me.

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I met my only serious relationship so far on the internet. The world wide web is also where I learned to cope with my Asperger's syndrome.

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I guess bad-tempered white guys like myself did have it easy back in the day, so on that level I suppose going back in time a couple hundred years would suit me well. Just kidding. ::

I do like technology, but only because I grew up with it and was more or less conditioned by the modern world as well my schizoid condition to make too much use of it. It became my only real pasttime in a life devoid of other people. Ideally I would never have laid eyes on things like computers though. I became far too absorbed and never learned to say 'enough is enough' to myself which lead to me being online for at least 6-8 hours a day. I do think I'd be a much happier, self-reliant and congenial adult if I'd been forced to spend my youth playing around with other kids outside, as was the case with previous generations.