Do you fear the future?

It's been a lingering thought for me ever since I've started to realize the situation I'm in. After a series of events of self-realisation and introspection, I've come to notice the odd sense of doubt for the future I have.

I know that I may be able to get a job after college, and that I might perform well at it, but then again, I just think of the problems which arise from the family - there's a lot of bottled anger between everyone in the family, and I'm sort of thankful that they're not going to burst out any moment. But it has to open up one day - and that day, I'm sure I will get depressed.

It's sort of depressing to hear what everyone has to say to each other, as I almost always end being the one who needs to hear what others have bottled up - I sort of volunteer for it actually, as I know it will get even worse if no-one hears the 'bottled emotion'. But I know that the future is certainly going to be rough, taking into consideration the 'dormancy' of the domestic conflicts.

I mean, after many years, after my parents' death in the future, I really don't even know if I would be able to stand a funeral - I don't even believe in spending time with other people, while grieving. I get anxious, and I'm sure everything's going to floor the situation, as there's going to be a lot of people to come and 'grieve'. More people mean more anxiety. And even after that, there will be family-related problems.

And the questions I have for the Reader would be... Have you ever been in a situation in which you had extreme dubiousness regarding what will happen in the future? Have you craved for independence?

Any situation in which you actually got slightly misanthropic?

I don't know about your other concerns, but when it comes to problems in the family, I so get you. Plus I think you are very anxious, too worried about the future.

Have you tried finding alternative ways to ease some of that bottled anger? Like therapy? Meditation?

As I near retirement age I am actually looking forward to an independent future.

Well, I'm overcoming the anxiety day by day, and I think it's possible to remain positive just by avoiding negative thinking. Meditation is a nice technique, but I think I can actually get over this by reading a few posts of like minded people, in forums like these :thumbup:

Sometimes, the feeling that there are other people out there, who face the same problems like you do, can make you feel better - it might be the loneliness that's actually causing the anxiety.

It's all chance, I guess. Sometimes, a family can get along well, while some times, there are difficulties. And regarding misanthropic thoughts, I stumbled upon some psychology-based articles right after creating this thread, so I could say that I was judging too hastily.

It's too early for me to judge others hastily. I've already wrote down some 'vows', which promise myself to change my attitudes in the near future. I'm going to view this like some turning point, and try to accept the reality - maybe this thread will be a milestone. Anyway, thanks for the ideas.

I'm scared that my future will be what the present is. If that is the case then I don't want to see the future.

One thing I have learned about the future is like the saying goes "If things are bad right now wait 5 yrs and they will change"

(I kinda lost faith in the word CHANGE after the Obama administration.)

But what it not good is the different isn't always better, it can be the same just a different situation if that makes any sense. That seems to be my pattern for the future. That is one of the hardest things I have had to come to terms with in the last 10 yrs. That is why I take it Day by Day now and my spiritual path has come in the forefront of my life as I live it. I never imagined my life as it is right now. I was just thinking how living off the grid has been my desired path since I was very young. I wonder if that will ever happen now? I don't like to think about my future without experiencing that.

On a happier note-Hey Everybody Don't Stop Dreaming!!!

I never think about the future. I'm too scared to think of the big changes that can & will happen. I hate all change, yet at the same time i often feel i hate the status quo.

I'm not so much afraid of the future. I'm just afraid of how I'll cope on my own, really. Since my family insist I'm incapable of caring for myself because of my physical disability, despite never giving my chance to be independent.

Yes. Because I don't know what it holds, sadly. I see a bleak one down the road, lol.

I am fearful of my future whilst ever I must endure the strangers that I surround myself with right now.

Sometimes. Death scares the bejesus out of me, but that's unlikely enough not to happen any day soon that I can push it to the back of my mind and pretend it's not gonna happen. But generally I'm actually feeling ok about the future right now. I feel like I've learned enough about God to feel reassured that God is good and whatever happens in the future, it'll be for my own good and God will be there to guide me through. I'm also lucky enough to have a clear mission in life, with my art and music, and that still excites me. All the future projects and ideas I'm itching to work on. I'm looking forward to the books I'll write and the animations I'll make when I'm too old and lost the energy to make music.

I'm a bit worried my life will get progressively lonelier as I age though, cause my parents will pass away one day, and my brothers and sisters will all start families of their own. And I'm not particularly good at making new friends cause I think I can be a bit hyper selective. I'm sure I could meet new people if I had too, but it's the people you've known the longest that really give you that feeling of security that you want. You can't build that overnight.