Do you act like the people you hang out with?

Or I should say the people you socialize with. I find myself doing this. Since I'm so obsessed with what I'm doing, how I look, what the right thing to say is, anytime I am able to say things on a whim I realize I'm acting like the person I'm talking to.
Man it's just so hard sometimes (well all the time) to be me. I don't even think I know what that means. I know who I am in my mind, but I don't think others perceive me that way. In fact I know they don't, because as I project myself, I can see myself acting the way I do. And the way I act isn't really who I am.
I end up observing everything, and then when it's my turn to enter the world, I tense up and become something I'm not.

Do you ever find it just almost impossible to act yourself?
 
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When I used to be around people every day, like when I was at school. I found that I would adopt common behaviour to try harmonise with other people around me. But after spending time along for so long, I struggle to do this. It's like I've branch out in another direction to everyone else, which is making it more difficult to mesh with others.
 

just wanna b normal

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being yourself is expressing your thoughts & feelings without the fear of rejection...but yeah i used to be like that idk i think im getting better idk im trying to get better.
 
This is probably one reason why I don't especially like hanging out with other people. I like to be myself and not do stuff I don't like just because everyone else is. I used to have a group of 'friends' when younger, but I felt more and more dissatisfied with them. I can still remember a dream at the time of riding on a bike with my best friend, then telling him to get off so that I could continue up the mountain alone.
 
Sometimes I caught myself doing that, yep. In the past i was doing that more, like saying the same ''funny'' words what my friends told me, and do the same things, listen to the same music, but the last couple of years I listen to my own sorta music and have my own things I like. But like my behaviour, can be a little bit the same with the people I hang out with. But the last years it's not that much anymore, but with my 11 year old brother, I act much younger:p
People find it funny and sometimes annoying ::p:
 

Snowdrop

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I do that all the time :O I was sure I was the only one, who did it to such an extent anyway, but I'm glad I'm not.
I feel like everyday is just day of acting for me. It even comes naturally, and like you say, difficult to stop and just be yourself. For me, it's like I've forgotten who really is myself. It's really weird. I can still remember what I was like years ago, but I've been adapting my personality, my demeanour, the way I speak, even the words I use to suit whomever I'm talking to, and it just depresses me that I'm like this. I hate it so much, and wish so much that I could be myself, even if it was for just one day because there's not been a day like that since 5ish years ago. And I always wonder what happened to make me like that so long ago, but you know what, I can't think of a single thing and it never stops me from thinking in my head 'why am I like this' and 'what could I possibly do to stop this'.
Sometimes I don't even know if it's SA I've got or something completely weird, unique and my own. Often I think of the latter.
 
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