billie
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Sorry about the long post. It could've been a lot longer, but I decided to just give you the tip of the iceberg, as it were. Quite a lot of this is mentioned in a suicide note I have on my computer, actually.
I am 14, 15 in December. I just want to know whether or not you think I have social anxiety disorder (social phobia).
Well, for a long time I would just be afraid of social situations - you know, going to school, going to see relatives, whatever. I didn't mention it to anyone - I just assumed it was normal. I remember that every Sunday was spent worrying about school on the next day... and every Monday, I'd go to school and it would be fine (this was at primary school). But in spite of this, I still worried about going to school after the weekend, and when one of my teachers asked me why I was worried, I couldn't give her a proper answer. I just didn't know. I remember going to my best friend's house (this is at secondary school now) and feeling really nervous in the car on the way there, and beginning to jitter and shake. My dad has GPS in the car - when we got close to my best friend's house, it would say "Turn right and arrive at destination on left." Now, whenever it says "Arriving at destination" I get really nervous. I'm getting nervous and twitchy just thinking of it now.
I think this year (Year 9) I just sort of stopped enjoying secondary school. I mean, I've never enjoyed it, but in Years 7 and 8 my naïveté forced me to think it was a great school and I was enjoying it. Wrong. It is a crappy school, filled to the brim with apathetic, heartless people. It took me until Year 9 (the year I've just completed) to work out that actually, I don't like school. I hate it. And so this year, I just decided to do what I enjoyed as far as possible - to do the minimum amount I was required to do, and to not do anything that would make me unhappy. And so I started to label myself as a 'sociopath'. Not someone who goes around smashing up telephone boxes, no, but someone who shuns society. And that's what I did. I just couldn't take the stress of talking to people anymore. I sat alone on the train to school. I didn't go round to other people's houses. I didn't go to parties. I didn't talk on MSN Messenger to anyone. I didn't go into shops. I didn't go to the cinema. I didn't call anyone on the phone. If someone invited me round, I would be able to decline without having to make a long-winded "Oh well on Monday I have a dentist's appointment, and on Tuesday I'm going to a funeral, and on Wednesday..."-type excuse. I would just say 'because I'm a sociopath'. And people would leave me alone. Labelling myself a sociopath was my 'get out of jail free' card.
I suppose it didn't help matters that my best friend (the one I mentioned in the first paragraph) is a fucking backstabber (let's call him Fred). I HATE HIM. All the time in seventh grade he would hit me, and tread on my toes knowing I had injured them, and kick me in the shins as hard as he could. It made it all the more degrading that he was (and still is) about a foot smaller than me. He stole phone numbers from my cellphone. Everything great that I have accomplished - he wants credit for it in some way. He can't stand being left out. When we worked with two other people in a group to film a movie for Religious Education, I was supposed to be writing the script. But no - Fred took over. He wrote 90% if it in the end. I was supposed to be editing it - but no, Fred invited himself round to my house and actually just sat there, playing with software on my computer while I did the editing, and later took credit for doing the editing. It's crap actually.
It also doesn't help that for this entire year I have been bullied by a guy who we'll call John. John has punched me in the testicles, punched me in my tuberculosis vaccination site repeatedly, sprayed deodorant on the backs of my legs where the skin is broken (I have eczema)... the list goes on. I think it's because I take a self-defense class. He wants to see me defend myself, but I'm too much of a pacifist.
It also doesn't help that I am tall and clumsy. So I just become an oaf for the class to pick fun at. A walking practical joke.
So, after all this, I remember reading a post on some forum about a guy who said he was always really withdrawn and didn't speak much (which sounded a bit like me). He mentioned Social Anxiety Disorder. I looked it up... what can I say? It looked to be a perfect match. And so I diagnosed myself with Social Anxiety Disorder. I wasn't just a sociopath... I had a problem, and it had a name and there are treatments for it! Quite a revelation. I remember talking to Fred about it. I should have expected it from him, but he said 'Oh no, you don't have it, but by the sounds of it, that's what I used to have.' This, from Fred, the most self-confident, arrogant person in the universe (another reason why I dislike him). He then proceeded to make up some symptoms and claim he used to suffer from them. I was so fucking angry that I made two cuts in my arm. That was really the beginning of my self-injury.
I was depressed then. I've been depressed on and off in my life, really. But I've been depressed most of this summer holiday, especially when we went on vacation for two weeks - I got seriously depressed then. I cut deeper than I ever have before when I was on that vacation. I'm sort of feeling flat right now, but probably not really depressed. But when I go back to school, I will be. I'm sure of it. Then I'll give my mum the letter I have written, asking for help.
I just want to put my fears to rest. Do I have this condition or not?
Here are some other symptoms I have experienced:
• I don't go to the cinema anymore. I used to, but I just don't like the fact that there are so many people there. It makes me tense and edgy, and it makes me snap at people.
• When I go to any social gathering (like going round to our next-door-neighbours' house with my family) I get nervous and do not speak, namely because I feel that I will stutter or otherwise mess up what I want to say (and often I do mess up).
• I don't go to parties. I told everyone I was going to the last party I was invited to, and just didn't go.
• When my parents threw a New Year Party in January, I just hid upstairs.
• I don't ever throw parties myself, not even birthday parties.
• I never invite friends from school round.
• I have let people verbally and physically abuse me the entire time I have been at school.
• I have glued the curtains in my room shut, so my next-door neighbour cannot see me.
• I have great difficulty in telling people things I think they will take badly. I sort of get to the point where I can imagine me telling the person with amazing clarity, but then I realise I havent actually spoken. It can take me twenty minutes to get the words out, and when I do, they sound feeble and whiny.
I'm sorry if you are tired of hearing sob stories from people like me. I just want to know whether I have a treatable condition or whether I'm just a sociopath.
Thankyou for your time.
I am 14, 15 in December. I just want to know whether or not you think I have social anxiety disorder (social phobia).
Well, for a long time I would just be afraid of social situations - you know, going to school, going to see relatives, whatever. I didn't mention it to anyone - I just assumed it was normal. I remember that every Sunday was spent worrying about school on the next day... and every Monday, I'd go to school and it would be fine (this was at primary school). But in spite of this, I still worried about going to school after the weekend, and when one of my teachers asked me why I was worried, I couldn't give her a proper answer. I just didn't know. I remember going to my best friend's house (this is at secondary school now) and feeling really nervous in the car on the way there, and beginning to jitter and shake. My dad has GPS in the car - when we got close to my best friend's house, it would say "Turn right and arrive at destination on left." Now, whenever it says "Arriving at destination" I get really nervous. I'm getting nervous and twitchy just thinking of it now.
I think this year (Year 9) I just sort of stopped enjoying secondary school. I mean, I've never enjoyed it, but in Years 7 and 8 my naïveté forced me to think it was a great school and I was enjoying it. Wrong. It is a crappy school, filled to the brim with apathetic, heartless people. It took me until Year 9 (the year I've just completed) to work out that actually, I don't like school. I hate it. And so this year, I just decided to do what I enjoyed as far as possible - to do the minimum amount I was required to do, and to not do anything that would make me unhappy. And so I started to label myself as a 'sociopath'. Not someone who goes around smashing up telephone boxes, no, but someone who shuns society. And that's what I did. I just couldn't take the stress of talking to people anymore. I sat alone on the train to school. I didn't go round to other people's houses. I didn't go to parties. I didn't talk on MSN Messenger to anyone. I didn't go into shops. I didn't go to the cinema. I didn't call anyone on the phone. If someone invited me round, I would be able to decline without having to make a long-winded "Oh well on Monday I have a dentist's appointment, and on Tuesday I'm going to a funeral, and on Wednesday..."-type excuse. I would just say 'because I'm a sociopath'. And people would leave me alone. Labelling myself a sociopath was my 'get out of jail free' card.
I suppose it didn't help matters that my best friend (the one I mentioned in the first paragraph) is a fucking backstabber (let's call him Fred). I HATE HIM. All the time in seventh grade he would hit me, and tread on my toes knowing I had injured them, and kick me in the shins as hard as he could. It made it all the more degrading that he was (and still is) about a foot smaller than me. He stole phone numbers from my cellphone. Everything great that I have accomplished - he wants credit for it in some way. He can't stand being left out. When we worked with two other people in a group to film a movie for Religious Education, I was supposed to be writing the script. But no - Fred took over. He wrote 90% if it in the end. I was supposed to be editing it - but no, Fred invited himself round to my house and actually just sat there, playing with software on my computer while I did the editing, and later took credit for doing the editing. It's crap actually.
It also doesn't help that for this entire year I have been bullied by a guy who we'll call John. John has punched me in the testicles, punched me in my tuberculosis vaccination site repeatedly, sprayed deodorant on the backs of my legs where the skin is broken (I have eczema)... the list goes on. I think it's because I take a self-defense class. He wants to see me defend myself, but I'm too much of a pacifist.
It also doesn't help that I am tall and clumsy. So I just become an oaf for the class to pick fun at. A walking practical joke.
So, after all this, I remember reading a post on some forum about a guy who said he was always really withdrawn and didn't speak much (which sounded a bit like me). He mentioned Social Anxiety Disorder. I looked it up... what can I say? It looked to be a perfect match. And so I diagnosed myself with Social Anxiety Disorder. I wasn't just a sociopath... I had a problem, and it had a name and there are treatments for it! Quite a revelation. I remember talking to Fred about it. I should have expected it from him, but he said 'Oh no, you don't have it, but by the sounds of it, that's what I used to have.' This, from Fred, the most self-confident, arrogant person in the universe (another reason why I dislike him). He then proceeded to make up some symptoms and claim he used to suffer from them. I was so fucking angry that I made two cuts in my arm. That was really the beginning of my self-injury.
I was depressed then. I've been depressed on and off in my life, really. But I've been depressed most of this summer holiday, especially when we went on vacation for two weeks - I got seriously depressed then. I cut deeper than I ever have before when I was on that vacation. I'm sort of feeling flat right now, but probably not really depressed. But when I go back to school, I will be. I'm sure of it. Then I'll give my mum the letter I have written, asking for help.
I just want to put my fears to rest. Do I have this condition or not?
Here are some other symptoms I have experienced:
• I don't go to the cinema anymore. I used to, but I just don't like the fact that there are so many people there. It makes me tense and edgy, and it makes me snap at people.
• When I go to any social gathering (like going round to our next-door-neighbours' house with my family) I get nervous and do not speak, namely because I feel that I will stutter or otherwise mess up what I want to say (and often I do mess up).
• I don't go to parties. I told everyone I was going to the last party I was invited to, and just didn't go.
• When my parents threw a New Year Party in January, I just hid upstairs.
• I don't ever throw parties myself, not even birthday parties.
• I never invite friends from school round.
• I have let people verbally and physically abuse me the entire time I have been at school.
• I have glued the curtains in my room shut, so my next-door neighbour cannot see me.
• I have great difficulty in telling people things I think they will take badly. I sort of get to the point where I can imagine me telling the person with amazing clarity, but then I realise I havent actually spoken. It can take me twenty minutes to get the words out, and when I do, they sound feeble and whiny.
I'm sorry if you are tired of hearing sob stories from people like me. I just want to know whether I have a treatable condition or whether I'm just a sociopath.
Thankyou for your time.