Do I have APD? Looking for some feedback.

Hi everyone! New member here! So here is my story.

I have always been shy, since I was a kid, and I still very much am. I have gotten better over the years but I am not nearly close to where most people seem to be. I have been diagnosed with OCD and ADD (not adhd). I finally went to my doctor about 2 years ago (I am almost 27 now). It is a mild ocd and I was put on clomipramine, which I still take a small dosage for and it has helped. I just recently started getting medication for add (concerta) and it hasn't helped at all, but it is early and a small dosage.
So I guess I am confused with who I am. I am trying to figure out if I have ocd, add, AvPD, or something else or more or...The symptoms I have would be: (yes copy and pasted)
* avoids occupational activities that involve significant interpersonal contact, because of fears of criticism, disapproval, or rejection
* is unwilling to get involved with people unless certain of being liked
* shows restraint within intimate relationships because of the fear of being shamed or ridiculed
* is preoccupied with being criticized or rejected in social situations
* is inhibited in new interpersonal situations because of feelings of inadequacy
* views self as socially inept, personally unappealing, or inferior to others
* is unusually reluctant to take personal risks or to engage in any new activities because they may prove embarrassing

The only conversation I have with my parents are hi and goodbye. And even that I don't like doing. I don't tell them anything personal. I tell almost no one anything personal, and when I do it is when I have had something to drink. I do have friends, but when I hang out in those groups I don't talk. If I am one on one I can converse a little, but in groups only when I am drunk. I have one really good friend, but I won't even tell him anything personal. I have an easier time opening up to girls, but I still dont.
The thing that makes me unsure is, I do go out, even though I don't say much. I mean, I don't sit at home every night, I make occasional attempts to be social, they never work though, so I don't have crazy fear but I still dont talk.

Any questions ask! Just looking for some feedback.

Welcome nitesco.

To me the "who am I" senario is very important.
Make a appointment with your GP for a assessment from a psych.

You sure your not me?

Hi Nite!

I can relate to a lot of the symptoms.. Still not sure if I have it too..

I think we are much more than labels, we are people..
A lot of these labels are actually symptoms and may have the same or similar causes - eg they can be related to nutrition, (lack of) exercise, lifestyle, thought patterns.. What I would be more interested is looking for solutions, for people who 'beat' this - ideally the natural way, or as natural as possible..

I've been on add forums and some people reported no help from meds, and meds can have side-effects, so I'm staying away from them too.. Sometimes meds and dosages need to be changed/tweaked..

There are lots of people who spend their lives 'shy' - they just don't socialize much, and don't miss it..
About parents - it depends what kind of people they are - sometimes it's better not to tell much, sometimes it's better to talk and try to work things out. Only you know your parents and your situation..
As for attempts of socializing, it probably depends on the people too.. Some people and some situations can be better to talk about things.. Some just go out to have fun, so these are often not best times to talk about personal things.. Have you tried any volunteering or any fun/interesting classes? You can meet some really cool people there..

for me, being able to open up to people depends on energy level and how I feel, and on unverbal feedback from those people.. you observe their reactions when you 'test' them with talking about other people first perhaps, and see their reactions.. and on who those people are - can they relate to what I've been going through, etc? If they've had similar problems, it may be easier to open up and talk etc. It may also be easier while walking/travelling.. or doing some activity together, like working or preparing food or such..

Hm, reading these threads it seems different people may have different problems and avoidant situations.. Interesting..