Do do girls really like shy guys...?
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Yeah its a problem,seems to be getting worse,I am so embarrassed watching tv lately,all these stupid shows objectifying women...Makes women think that all they need to have going for themselves is their looks,which is sad...It must be very difficult being a teenager these days,not that it was ever easy..
Ubersonic
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Sounds like you got some bad picks.
We've all read the posts of the people in their 30's who've never had a relationship. That stuff scares me. When is their "time" gonna come? It may be never, and the same thing can happen to us younger people. I don't believe that some magical fate is going to make sure a girl comes my way. Until many of us experience the things you have first hand, we will worry.
I've got a goodbye card from my pre-calc teacher when graduating. She mentioned how mysterious I was. I have a tendency to surprise people at untimely moments =\.
Errordotocx
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This is what scares me to death. I of course try to keep positive most of the time because I AM working on getting rid of the SAD/Shyness that I have and i'm winning so far. But theres always that thought in the back of my mind. "What happens when it becomes TOO late, whats going to happen because I lack experience at my age, I might be able to wipe a lot away...BUT WHAT...WHAT IF IT BECOMES TOO LATE WHEN I DO!?
"I hate thinking about it from this perspective though, because it really gets me down. I'm only 21 (almost 22), but eight years can pass in a flash and then i'll be 30 and what? I'm deathly afraid of being alone.
Sorry to go emo on everyone. But had to throw that out there.
206Raider
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so I'm really quiet and anxious to talk and I feel exactly like all of you feel. I don't say much and I'm not confident. but I never let somebody push me around (luckily, nobody does). I'm weak but I'm not becuase if I feel threatened and it takes a lot then my friends say they don't want to mess with me. And I lost all my friends becuase of my quietness and I walk around life thinking everybody hates me. So its hard to love myself, even when nobody says anything and nobody does I feel they don't talk to me becuase they don't like me.
I agree with everything you said 100 percent. I'm 20 and been dealing with this for years like middle school and I'm inexperienced and I'm wondering if this dream lady in my head who will give me a chance and love me for who I am and not care about my experience is real. I'm scared of going crazy living with not much socialization and growing old and alone
This is what scares me to death. I of course try to keep positive most of the time because I AM working on getting rid of the SAD/Shyness that I have and i'm winning so far. But theres always that thought in the back of my mind. "What happens when it becomes TOO late, whats going to happen because I lack experience at my age, I might be able to wipe a lot away...BUT WHAT...WHAT IF IT BECOMES TOO LATE WHEN I DO!?
I hate thinking about it from this perspective though, because it really gets me down. I'm only 21 (almost 22), but eight years can pass in a flash and then i'll be 30 and what? I'm deathly afraid of being alone.
Sorry to go emo on everyone. But had to throw that out there.
I agree with everything you said 100 percent. I'm 20 and been dealing with this for years like middle school and I'm inexperienced and I'm wondering if this dream lady in my head who will give me a chance and love me for who I am and not care about my experience is real. I'm scared of going crazy living with not much socialization and growing old and alone
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Chrysalis
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I would say I'm more drawn to intellectual / artistic types, and sometimes that means shy guys
Shy guys would understand when you're not always feeling your best and don't want to go out, but I would also prefer someone assertive / confident.
Weird, I know - perhaps I would like to be with someone I could aspire to be if that makes sense.
Yes, girls really do like shy guys.
I'd be attracted to a guy who was respectful, kind, able to hold an intelligent conversation, love music and was humourous also
Shy guys would understand when you're not always feeling your best and don't want to go out, but I would also prefer someone assertive / confident.
Weird, I know - perhaps I would like to be with someone I could aspire to be if that makes sense.
Yes, girls really do like shy guys.
I'd be attracted to a guy who was respectful, kind, able to hold an intelligent conversation, love music and was humourous also
Errordotocx
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Glad you can relate. I have always been a shy kid, ever since I was like five. But I started to develop a deeper shyness in high-school because of certain events. Then I believe from that I developed a slight case of SAD thats stuck with me for awhile. Things are changing in my life yes, I have changed a lot. I have now developed a burning desire to get rid of this problem. My friends are all willing to help, they seem to want me more than anyone else to find a girlfriend. I find this very gratifying though I just hope when the change is complete I will still have enough margin of time to fulfill my goal.
I myself believe that the older you become along with retaining your lack of experience that the slimmer and slimmer your chances are of anything happening become. I could be totally wrong as well, but this is how I see it.
When I get a girlfriend..."keeping this optimistic". I worry about being able to keep the pace with what she would expect out of a guy. I always have a replaying imagine in my mind of when the girl figures out that I lack experience at my age that things will surely end right then.
Everyone understand where i'm coming from?
I can relate to that too errodotocxs and raider.
Im shy but music is my life, its the only thing i really want to do with my life. And my only real skill. I don't have confidence though in some situations, I can think in my head intelligently, but cant always have intelligent conversations in the way that if im speaking to someone sometimes i cant think of the words i want to say to explain what im saying. I have a good sense of humour, and love watching funny things, but i dont really think i am funny myself, I just cant think of funny things to say most of the time.
I would say I'm more drawn to intellectual / artistic types, and sometimes that means shy guys
Shy guys would understand when you're not always feeling your best and don't want to go out, but I would also prefer someone assertive / confident.
Weird, I know - perhaps I would like to be with someone I could aspire to be if that makes sense.
Yes, girls really do like shy guys.
I'd be attracted to a guy who was respectful, kind, able to hold an intelligent conversation, love music and was humourous also
Im shy but music is my life, its the only thing i really want to do with my life. And my only real skill. I don't have confidence though in some situations, I can think in my head intelligently, but cant always have intelligent conversations in the way that if im speaking to someone sometimes i cant think of the words i want to say to explain what im saying. I have a good sense of humour, and love watching funny things, but i dont really think i am funny myself, I just cant think of funny things to say most of the time.
JA2007
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I am dating a shy guy and I love it. He is more understanding of my shyness, but he is a lot more inexperienced than I am. It feels really good to be the first one to do all the relationship things with him and he lets me show him what I like. I do have to make sure to ask what he wants a lot otherwise he won't speak up. I also really like that he opens up to me and a few close friends, but not anyone else. That makes me feel special. It is important that a shy guy can communicate with a girl, I think. If you can't talk openly with a person then there is no point.
Chrysalis
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I think our true sense of humour (and I'm rather proud of mine - the one thing that keeps me positive and optimistic at times) truly emerges when we are comfortable with ourselves and the company we are with.It's difficult to take the risk and make a joke, I know, but it's become easier to me as I get older.
I have always been told I have a great sense of humour, which I now believe I do - just took me awhile to accept a compliment and not overanalyse it
Comedy films are the best - laughter & music heal me
RedRibbons
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For me it's just harder to feel as trusting and secure with outgoing guys.. But, if someone is a good person.. Then that's what really gets me.. Not whether they are shy or not..
It's difficult to take the risk and make a joke, I know, but it's become easier to me as I get older.
I have always been told I have a great sense of humour, which I now believe I do - just took me awhile to accept a compliment and not overanalyse it
Comedy films are the best - laughter & music heal me
Yeah, I kind of have a certain type of sense of humour, you could call it sophisticated, in the way that i really like kind of more wierd/imaginative/intelligent stuff that some people just dont get in the same way, such as Alan Partridge and The Day Today, and lots of differnet stuff to that aswell, thats just my faveourite type. But Ive always thought its wierd i can usualy only really say funny things by talking about a funny comedy or quoting something from it, can never really seem to think of original funny things to say. And yeah they are both definatley healing.
Well he's very lucky to have found you
I am shy and nice I would say, would be good if more girls appreciated that.
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